Best Help Me Understand Please Podcasts (2025)

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Why Men Struggle With Vulnerability | #106 57:32

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Louie and Michael answer a listener email about why men struggle with vulnerability—diving into shame, repression, and the fear of emotional connection. _____ -BetterHelp: If you’re struggling, consider therapy with our sponsor. Visit https://betterhelp.com/secondhandtherapy for a discount on your first month of therapy. If you have questions about…

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Fawning: The Hidden Trauma Response Behind People-Pleasing | #105 54:33

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Louie and Michael unpack fawning—the hidden trauma response behind people-pleasing, codependency, and emotional safety—in their most vulnerable talk yet. _____ -BetterHelp: If you’re struggling, consider therapy with our sponsor. Visit https://betterhelp.com/secondhandtherapy for a discount on your first month of therapy. If you have questions abou…

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Episode 47: The Origins of "American" English 9:06

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English, please is a podcast designed to help improve your English by listening to clear, intermediate English about many different topics like history, culture, art, music, travel, and language. Episode 47: The Origins of "American" English Discover how American English began and how it grew apart from British English over time. Learn about some o…

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Understanding Misogyny: Gina Martin on Compassion, Gender, and Healing | #104 1:09:37

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Gina Martin joins to talk misogyny, feminism, and emotional healing—how patriarchy, trauma, and compassion shape identity, relationships, and recovery. BetterHelp: If you’re struggling, consider therapy with our sponsor. Visit https://betterhelp.com/secondhandtherapy for a discount on your first month of therapy. If you have questions about the bra…

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Perfection is the Problem | #103 1:10:45

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Lou and Michael unpack wabi sabi, the beauty of imperfection—talking therapy, accountability, control, and what it means to be seen before you’re “fixed.” BetterHelp: If you’re struggling, consider therapy with our sponsor. Visit https://betterhelp.com/secondhandtherapy for a discount on your first month of therapy. If you have questions about the …

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When Childhood Fear Becomes Adult Anxiety | #102 1:01:03

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Michael and Lou unpack how childhood trauma fuels anxiety, codependency, and fear of abandonment. A raw mix of therapy insights, humor, and hard truths on boundaries, recovery, and self-worth. BetterHelp: If you’re struggling, consider therapy with our sponsor. Visit https://betterhelp.com/secondhandtherapy for a discount on your first month of the…

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Episode 46: How to Watch Movies in English Without Subtitles 7:42

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English, please is a podcast designed to help improve your English by listening to clear, intermediate English about many different topics like history, culture, art, music, travel, and language. Episode 46: How to Watch Movies in English Without Subtitles Watching movies in English can be enjoyable, but also frustrating. What's the best way to enj…

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Do Not Have Needs. Ever. | #101 56:10

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Codependency, boundaries, consent, and low self-esteem. Louie and Michael explore addiction, abandonment, and what it means to feel worthy of repair in relationships. BetterHelp: If you’re struggling, consider therapy with our sponsor. Visit https://betterhelp.com/secondhandtherapy for a discount on your first month of therapy. If you have question…

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Brad Garrett Tells His Story | #100 1:02:41

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Relational vs. Non-Relational Thinking | #099 1:05:51

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Michael faces breakup blues while Louie shares dating advice from therapy. They dive into grief, guilt, family dynamics, and how relational thinking shapes love and connection. BetterHelp: If you’re struggling, consider therapy with our sponsor. Visit https://betterhelp.com/secondhandtherapy for a discount on your first month of therapy. If you hav…

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Episode 45: Why Americans Argue About Columbus Day 11:44

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English, please is a podcast designed to help improve your English by listening to clear, intermediate English about many different topics like history, culture, art, music, travel, and language. Episode 45: Why Americans Argue About Columbus Day Columbus Day is a holiday that has changed a lot over the years in the United States. In this episode, …

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Fighting Stigma & Misinformation with Sophie Nir | #098 1:07:41

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Abortion advocate Sophie Nir joins us to unpack stigma, misinformation, and advocacy — from “abortion positivity” to global rights, men’s roles, and why abortion must be seen as a social good. Take Our Survey --> http://bit.ly/secondhandtherapy-survey BetterHelp: If you’re struggling, consider therapy with our sponsor. Visit https://betterhelp.com/…

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Failing Is Not Okay | #097 1:02:35

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Michael admits failure embarrasses him. Louie confesses to a codependent moment. Together they explore imperfection, relationships, and what growth really looks like. BetterHelp: If you’re struggling, consider therapy with our sponsor. Visit https://betterhelp.com/secondhandtherapy for a discount on your first month of therapy. If you have question…

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Codependence, Avoidance & Heartbreak | #096 51:10

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Louie reflects on radical acceptance, family wounds, and whether he truly desires a connection with his father. This week, Louie and Michael unpack the idea of fatherhood — from the hypothetical qualities they wish they’d had in a dad, to what it means to grow up without a father figure. Louie challenges Michael’s story of not having one, and share…

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Episode 44: Niagara Falls—Nature, Power, and Love 8:43

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English, please is a podcast designed to help improve your English by listening to clear, intermediate English about many different topics like history, culture, art, music, travel, and language. Episode 44: Niagara Falls—Nature, Power, and Love Niagara Falls is one of the most famous natural wonders in the world. Located on the border between the …

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When Being Right Costs You | #095 1:01:16

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Louie has a bone to pick with the audience over last week’s episode — and his therapist has thoughts. This week, Louie unpacks why being “hard to argue with” might be hurting his relationships, and what it really means to meet people where they are without losing yourself. Michael shares a fresh example of Louie’s dismissive side and opens up about…

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Episode 43: Florida: Sunshine, Surprises, and Strange Stories 9:02

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English, please is a podcast designed to help improve your English by listening to clear, intermediate English about many different topics like history, culture, art, music, travel, and language. Episode 43: Florida: Sunshine, Surprises, and Strange Stories Florida is one of the most famous states in the U.S., and not just because of its warm weath…

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Control, Boundaries, and My Mom | #094 1:01:04

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Michael and Louie get real about boundaries, control, and what it takes to accept people — especially family — as they are. This week, Louie opens up about deciding to accept his mom for who she is, letting go of the hope for a deeper emotional connection, and navigating the grief that comes with a more shallow relationship. Michael shares how chil…

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Episode 42: Understanding Fast Spoken English 10:21

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English, please is a podcast designed to help improve your English by listening to clear, intermediate English about many different topics like history, culture, art, music, travel, and language. Episode 42: Understanding Fast Spoken English It can be frustrating when we hear a native speaker talking much more quickly than we expect! Fast spoken En…

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Vulnerability Not Allowed | #093 59:34

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Louie’s new therapist introduced him to Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) — and it’s already getting personal. In what early listeners have called our "most beautiful episode yet"... Louie brings EFT-style attachment questions to the pod, exploring what he and Michael learned from their families about vulnerability, emotional safety, and connection…

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Inner Critic Sounds Like... Mom | #092 58:19

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Michael has a new therapist — again — and session one gets heavy fast. In this episode, Michael opens up about his childhood introduction to pornography, the grief of losing his mom, and how he's been (literally) conjuring her in his mind. He shares his fears around trying new things, the weight of codependency, and the haunting voice of his inner …

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Hobby Hunting and Identity Crises | #091 1:02:16

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Louie can’t stop wondering if his therapist is a Trump supporter. Louie talks about the early sessions of starting therapy, including opening up about his depression, anxiety, and trauma through intake surveys. He also shares why he’s on a mission to find a hobby — and how it could transform every relationship in his life. Michael has a theory abou…

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New Therapists, Old Patterns | #090 57:30

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Louie and Michael just had intake sessions with their new therapists—and the experiences couldn’t have been more different. Louie returns to working with a woman therapist and unpacks what it’s like doing virtual therapy from the intimacy of your own space. He opens up about childhood trauma, the emotional impact of therapy on Zoom, and why his new…

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Episode 41: Stop Translating in Your Head 9:15

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English, please is a podcast designed to help improve your English by listening to clear, intermediate English about many different topics like history, culture, art, music, travel, and language. Episode 41: Stop Translating in Your Head Only a few hours east of New York City, there is a very different world where lots of New Yorkers go during the…

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Replay - PTSD and Self-Love with Hanorah 59:53

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Trigger Warning: This episode contains discussions involving sexual assault. Support the pod: http://patreon.com/secondhandtherapypod http://secondhandtherapypod.com Follow us here: http://instagram.com/ponybearstudios http://instagram.com/secondhandtherapypod http://tiktok.com/@secondhandtherapypod http://instagram.com/itsloubear http://instagram.…

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I Don’t Want Help! What Even is Growth? | #089 1:00:58

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This episode ends up going very deep... Michael’s patience hits a breaking point after being on hold for 4 hours—then his girlfriend tries to help, and it only makes things worse. Lou and Michael unpack why support can sometimes feel like control, and how some conversations trigger defensiveness or feel like interrogation. They dive into the tensio…

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Replay - Little Boy on the Beach Gave Me a Panic Attack 58:45

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Michael unpacks a vivid dream that stirred up old wounds, leading to a raw conversation about how he’s really processed his grief. He and Louie dive into what “showing emotion” actually means—especially for men—and why crying in front of people feels impossible. Louie opens up about a therapy exercise that triggered a full-blown panic attack, and t…

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Episode 40: The Hamptons—New York’s Luxury Escape 9:28

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English, please is a podcast designed to help improve your English by listening to clear, intermediate English about many different topics like history, culture, art, music, travel, and language. Episode 40: The Hamptons—New York’s Luxury Escape All language learners translate in their heads when starting a new language, and it can become a habit. …

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Read Receipts & The Panic Spiral of “I Miss You” | #088 57:53

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Louie’s off keto and melting down over Cinnamon Toast Crunch, but it quickly becomes clear this episode isn’t really about cereal. What starts as a goofy check-in turns into a full-blown emotional audit — from the weight of unsaid feelings to the desperate scramble to fix something you maybe just made worse. The guys unravel the difference between:…

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Episode 39: Bryant Park in New York City 9:35

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English, please is a podcast designed to help improve your English by listening to clear, intermediate English about many different topics like history, culture, art, music, travel, and language. Episode 39: Bryant Park in New York City Bryant Park is in Midtown Manhattan, and it’s very close to famous places like Times Square and the Empire State …

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Fake Growth. Real Talk. | #087 1:02:14

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This is probably our most uncomfortable conversation so far... This week, we dive into the messy beauty of personal growth, family trauma, and the illusion of progress. Michael spirals into thoughts about mortality and uncovers patterns passed down through his family—aka the “family curse.” He opens up about feeling stuck, avoiding discomfort, and …

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I Don’t Feel Connected to my Mother | #086 45:56

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Support the pod: http://patreon.com/secondhandtherapypod http://secondhandtherapypod.com Follow us here: http://instagram.com/secondhandtherapypod http://tiktok.com/@secondhandtherapypod http://instagram.com/itsloubear http://instagram.com/malonecomedy Contact us: [email protected] 818-850-2448Support the pod: PATREON - Join Patreon fo…

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Grief (Part II) / Music Triggers & Healing Over Time When the World Won’t Stop | #085 44:23

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Louie opens up about how music can unexpectedly trigger waves of grief — and reflects on the strangely beautiful reality that the world keeps moving after someone dies. Michael shares how his own experience of loss has shifted over time, revealing how grief evolves and reshapes our sense of self. Together, they explore the many forms grief can take…

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Therapy Intake Questions, ADHD Struggles, and Starting with a New Therapist | #084 57:29

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Social media boundaries in therapy, ADHD shutdowns, and how productivity shame messes with your self-worth. Starting therapy with someone new can feel… awkward. Louie shares about his first session with a new therapist, and the surprising comment he received on Instagram that sparked a deeper conversation. Should therapists follow you on social med…

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Sitting in Discomfort: How Therapy Is Changing Our Relationships | #083 50:37

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Louie opens up about a vulnerable conversation with his girlfriend that challenged their relationship — all through the lens of parts work therapy. He shares how sitting with discomfort, rather than avoiding it, is transforming the way he shows up in partnership. Michael reflects on his own experience with parts work, revealing emotional memories c…

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Can’t Commit to Monogamy | #082 46:17

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Louie has bronchitis and found his therapists Instagram — and why that might be a red flag. Michael dives deep into his fear of commitment, the emotional tension around flirting in monogamous relationships, and why he struggles with being perceived as “in trouble” for noticing other women. Together, they explore the blurry line between attraction a…

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Episode 38: Listener Questions 13:56

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English, please is a podcast designed to help improve your English by listening to clear, intermediate English about many different topics like history, culture, art, music, travel, and language. Episode 38: Listener Questions Listeners have sent many questions since the launch of English, please. In this episode, you'll hear about travel, customs,…

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Replay - Family Dysfunction and EMDR with Lara Beitz 59:37

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Support the pod: http://patreon.com/secondhandtherapypod http://secondhandtherapypod.com Follow us here: http://instagram.com/secondhandtherapypod http://tiktok.com/@secondhandtherapypod http://instagram.com/itsloubear http://instagram.com/malonecomedy Contact us: [email protected] 818-850-2448Support the pod: PATREON - Join Patreon fo…

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Live Show 001 1:19:28

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This is the recording of our first live show. It was recorded December 19, 2024 in Los Angeles, Ca. Support the pod: http://patreon.com/secondhandtherapypod http://secondhandtherapypod.com Follow us here: http://instagram.com/secondhandtherapypod http://tiktok.com/@secondhandtherapypod http://instagram.com/itsloubear http://instagram.com/malonecome…

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You Probably Think This Story’s About You: It Started as a Love Story 35:17

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*Some names and details have been changed to conceal the identities of those who wish to remain anonymous. When Brittani Ard matches with Kanon on Hingesparks fly. Their first date revealed an instantconnection and chemistry.Kanon is devastatingly handsome with a charm that disarmed even the mostguarded heart—plus he is surprisingly emotionally ava…

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Why Am I Scared to be Happy? | #081 47:46

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Louie grapples with the question: When is the right time to return to therapy? After making progress, Louie wonders whether he should open up about his podcast with his new therapist. Alongside Michael, they explore the balance between what to share and what to keep private in therapy. When does context matter in conversations about mental health? …

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Cheating on Your Pregnant Wife?! | #080 52:34

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Louie and Michael unpack a shocking voice note from a listener who discovered her husband's infidelity while she was 9 months pregnant. The guys dive into the complexities of relationship trust, cheating, and how they might handle betrayal in their own lives. Tune in for a candid conversation on how to cope with infidelity, rebuild trust, and navig…

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Episode 37: Why do people in the U.S. move so often? 11:34

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English, please is a podcast designed to help improve your English by listening to clear, intermediate English about many different topics like history, culture, art, music, travel, and language. Episode 37: Why do people in the U.S. move so often? People in the United States move to new places more than twice as often as people in the rest of the …

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Overcoming Anxiety and Understanding Triggers | #079 47:04

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Michael returns from his tour and opens up about his struggles with staying grounded in one place. Together with Louie, they unpack the complexities of anxiety, how to recognize it in the moment, and share personal experiences of navigating anxiety triggers. Michael’s hilarious moment of contemplating asking a bus driver for help (LOL) leads to an …

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Which Dating App is Best for Relationships? Attachment Styles & Political Climate with Jenny Zigrino | #078 58:15

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Jenny explores the best dating apps for relationships, including Hinge, Bumble, and Feeld, and gives advice on which platform may be most effective for finding a serious connection. We dive into the psychology of attachment styles as Jenny opens up about her own disorganized attachment style and how it leads to anxious-avoidant behavior in relation…

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Emotional Responsibility, Codependency & Communication Breakdowns | #077 50:50

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Louie opens up about a recent fight he had with his girlfriend – no therapy, just real talk. It's a classic relationship argument, and we're diving deep into it. We discuss emotional responsibility, codependency, communication breakdowns, and much more that came up during the fight. Michael pushes Louie to reflect on his actions and how he approach…

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Trauma, Personal Growth & Normalizing Pain | #076 54:26

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Michael shares his personal experience with starting Adderall for ADHD, offering a deep dive into how medication has shaped his mental health journey. He reflects on his hometown and the complexities of reconnecting with old memories, before diving into an uncomfortable conversation he recently had with an old friend. Lou offers a fresh perspective…

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Episode 36: Mardi Gras in New Orleans 11:38

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English, please is a podcast designed to help improve your English by listening to clear, intermediate English about many different topics like history, culture, art, music, travel, and language. Episode 36: Mardi Gras in New Orleans Mardi Gras is a huge part of New Orleans culture around this time each year. I'll discuss the origins of Mardi Gras,…

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Why Are Relationships So Hard? | #075 55:01

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Lou and Michael reflect on a powerful voicemail they received about the aftermath of breakups and the grief that follows. Lou opens up about a past relationship where an ultimatum changed everything for him. The conversation shifts to a meaningful DM asking how women can better support the men in their lives—something Lou and Michael feel strongly …

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There’s a 12-Step Program for That | #074 1:07:32

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Comedian and all-around good human, Ken Garr, joins the pod today. Ken discusses his history of being a black-out drunk alcoholic, with some stories that will make you think; before sharing his journey to being 8 years sober. He reflects on his addiction to toxic relationships and what he's learned through his 12-step program dealing with codepende…