Best Commitment Phobes Podcasts (2025)

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Trust Your Gut, Not Your Group Chat 55:53

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8h ago55:53

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On this episode of Unfiltered, Sagari takes us through her powerful transformation from a self-proclaimed serial monogamist stuck in toxic relationship patterns to someone confidently single and truly thriving. She opens up about her breakup horror stories (yes, including one during a Broadway intermission), what kept her in relationships she knew …

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What If You Don’t Want the Life Everyone Else Has? 56:47

2d ago56:47

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This week, I’m joined by my run coach Victoria Sekely, DPT, for a candid conversation about living life on your own terms. We talk about the shocking way she met her husband, why she never wanted a traditional wedding, and her decision not to have kids. She shares how she navigates changing friendships as her friends become moms, finds fulfillment …

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How the Jonas Brothers Were Our Matchmakers 50:02

2d ago50:02

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This week on Cohosts for Life, we’re talking about how our relationship wouldn’t exist without the Jonas Brothers (seriously), and how they’ve been woven into so many of our favorite memories. We share whether we would’ve been open to dating someone with a fandom as intense as our own (JoBros & Jets), and Ilana gives her honest thoughts on Jake’s J…

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I've Never Been In A Relationship Before 52:04

6d ago52:04

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Ilana sits down with Allie—an almost 30-year-old who’s never officially had a boyfriend despite years of dating in New York City. Allie opens up about the emotional complexity behind her dating experience, from living with anxiety to navigating body image struggles and self-doubt. They talk about the challenge of watching friends enter relationship…

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What love frequency channel are you tuned into? 24:51

8d ago24:51

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Send me a text message! You’re doing the work. You’re healing your patterns. You’re calling in love. But no matter how much you want to trust the process, part of you still wonders: Is it really going to happen for me? In this episode of That Manifesting Podcast, we’re unpacking: Why love is something you tune into The quantum concept that explains…

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Choosing Myself After the Breakup 54:04

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TW: This episode may be triggering to those with sensitivities around sexual abuse. Fresh off a blindsided breakup, Amy Richman dives right back into dating while processing what happened. We debate the idea of soulmates, whether “right person, wrong time” is real, and what romance in relationships truly looks like. She also opens up about how a di…

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Is Traveling Without Your Partner a Relationship Red Flag? 58:48

9d ago58:48

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Ilana and Jake break down a whirlwind 10 days weeks that take them across four states, wrangling three dogs, surviving a six-hour quest for TikTok-famous pizza, and squeezing in a last minute night at the Comedy Cellar. Ilana tackles an unofficial half marathon, while the duo reflects on the agony of losing out on Gracie Abrams tickets, why it's ok…

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Love Won’t Fix You — But These Things Might 45:54

15d ago45:54

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We’re told that once we find the right person—boyfriend, fiancé, husband—everything will fall into place. But when I got the relationship I always wanted, I realized it didn’t magically fix my insecurities, anxiety, or self-worth. In this episode, I’m opening up about what didn’t get better in my relationship and the surprising things that actually…

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Tired of waiting for love to manifest? This will help. 26:21

16d ago26:21

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Send me a text message! In this episode of That Manifesting Podcast, we’re digging into the part that everyone hates about in love and dating: The waiting season. I'm unpacking: Why it feels like love is taking forever What’s actually happening in the quiet The Universal Law of Rhythm (yep, it’s real and no, it’s not just woo-woo nonsense) Why this…

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If This Was Your Friend’s Relationship… Would You Be Worried? 50:53

18d ago50:53

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Carli—friend and now 4x Unfiltered guest (you can catch her most recent episode linked below)—is back for a very real conversation about all the moments we ignore the red flags… until we can’t. We talk about brushing things under the rug, what it feels like to know something’s off but not be ready to walk away, and the pain of breaking up with some…

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Relationship Milestones & How Our Love Story Almost Didn’t Happen 50:44

19d ago50:44

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In this episode of Cohosts for Life, we’re taking you behind the scenes of our relationship—not just the milestones you see on social media, but the ones that shaped us the most. We walk through the major (and not-so-major) moments that brought us closer, the surprising moments that felt bigger than expected, and missed moments where we almost didn…

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Trying to Get Pregnant While Trying Not to Fall Apart 1:01:26

23d ago1:01:26

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When this week’s guest decided to freeze her eggs at 30, she thought she was biding her and her husband time. Instead, she was hit with the news that she had a diminished ovarian reserve and that getting pregnant would be far more difficult than expected. In this episode, she opens up about the rollercoaster of fertility treatments, the pressure wo…

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Ghosted again? Here's what the Universe wants you to know. 29:13

24d ago29:13

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Send me a text message! Being ghosted sucks. You thought it was going somewhere, the energy felt aligned, you even started letting your guard down, and then? Silence. No reply. Just a ghost and a gut full of self-doubt. But what if ghosting wasn’t a rejection? In this episode of That Manifesting Podcast, we’re unpacking: Why ghosting hurts way more…

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"You’re a Nice Guy, But…" Dating Horror Stories 52:28

25d ago52:28

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Comedian Paul Schoenberg joins us today to get into why “nice guys” are often misunderstood, how texting culture has made rejection feel impersonal and confusing, and why so many people can’t recognize a red flag until they’re paying $2.99 a week just to text someone. We also talk about gluten, group chats, the emotional risk of being earnest, and …

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Why We Track Every Date — and You Might Want To 49:32

26d ago49:32

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This week on Cohosts for Life, we’re diving deep into a tradition that’s become core to our relationship: the date list. We share how it started, why it’s surprisingly meaningful, and how it's helped us remember little memories that would've been lost to time. We also take a nostalgic walk through five years of Jake’s birthday celebrations — includ…

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The Part of Your Life You’re Afraid to Talk About 51:51

30d ago51:51

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We’ve all got something we’re scared to talk about. Maybe you still live at home, haven’t had sex yet, just lost your job, or are quietly working through something painful. So many of us carry shame about parts of our lives we think others will judge, but the truth is, everyone’s going through something. In this solo episode, I’m talking about what…

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How to Be More Attractive Without Playing Games 50:06

1M ago50:06

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Psychologist, relationship expert, and author Dr. Harry Cohen joins us to explain the power of being a “positive energizer,” what it really means to bring good energy into a room, and why it’s often the smallest things that make the biggest difference. We dive into how to show up better in your relationship, how to recover from mistakes without ove…

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Bare Minimum or Princess Treatment? 52:25

1M ago52:25

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Ilana’s back from a fun bachelorette weekend in Maine and shares her travel nightmares, while Jake recaps his boys weekend with Barkley. Ilana’s riding high from her best long run yet, while Jake’s stuck on the couch dealing with his calf injury. We dive into the viral street-side walking debate that has TikTok roasting Jake for his so-called lack …

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"From Roommates to Soulmates" 1:01:08

1M ago1:01:08

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When Waverly Colville signed a lease with a stranger named John Guilyard in the summer of 2020, she never imagined she was also meeting her future partner. Two years of friendship, late-night talks, and dancing around their feelings later, one kiss changed everything. In this episode, Waverly and John join us to share the real story of how they wen…

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Why You’re Still Stalking Your Ex and What Actually Helps You Heal 53:08

1M ago53:08

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Breakups today aren’t just about letting go of a person — they’re about navigating texts, timelines, algorithmic reminders, and the pressure to "heal fast." Therapist and Lonely Hearts Club founder Lexi Joondeph-Breidbart joins Ilana to unpack what actually helps people move on, why we obsess over old messages, and how to know if it's time to unfol…

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Welcome to Cohosts for Life 50:22

1M ago50:22

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Welcome to the very first official episode of Cohosts for Life! Ilana kick things off by explaining why this series exists, what inspired it, and what you can expect moving forward. Then we attempt to reintroduce each other before diving into a Q&A for you guys to know Jake more. We walk you through what to expect each week, from Ilana’s marathon t…

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Lessons From the Ones Who Weren’t My Person 1:06:00

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In this Unfiltered, a listener shares the hard truths she’s learned through dating, heartbreak, and situationships. From realizing you can’t force someone to like you, to learning that overcompromising and over-efforting doesn’t lead to love, she reflects on the patterns she’s finally ready to break. If you’ve ever asked yourself why didn’t they ch…

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Inside the Modern Male Mind on Dating 57:14

2M ago57:14

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Ryan Kenny, comedian and dater, joins me for a hilarious, honest convo on ghosting, dating app fatigue, and the awkwardness of putting yourself out there. We chat about exclusivity talks, bad sex with great people, and why women in friend groups are basically unapproachable.Follow Ryan @the_ryan_kenny and check out his upcoming show on July 8th in …

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"How My Worst Relationship Led to Real Growth" 53:31

2M ago53:31

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In this Unfiltered, a 39-year-old New Yorker opens up about dating a guy who was terrible for her, but ultimately changed her life for the better. Before, she was stuck in the “cool girl” role, hiding her needs and feeling constant anxiety. After this relationship led her to work with a relationship coach, she learned to be honest with herself and …

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"Hitting The Reset Button on Life" 48:54

2M ago48:54

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Dana, a 31-year-old nurse, shares how her seemingly “on track” life slowly unraveled in a toxic marriage that took a toll on her mental and physical health, even causing heart palpitations. After facing manipulation, family drama, and feeling like a stranger in her own life, Dana hit rock bottom — but that moment became the start of her healing. Sh…

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Commitment Issues, Pregnant Bridesmaids, and Paying for Apps 52:15

2M ago52:15

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n this solo episode, I’m catching you up on life lately—books I'm reading, finishing my half marathon, how I feel about content creation right now, and whether I ever miss being single. I’m also answering your questions on dating app upgrades, chemistry that’s missing, ghosting after three great dates, confusing “what are we” situations, and weddin…

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Meet-Cute Masterclass: Everything You Need to Meet Someone Offline 47:14

2M ago47:14

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Real world romance isn’t dead. It’s just been buried under algorithms and ghosting. That’s exactly why I partnered with Louis Jadot to host a Meet-Cute Master Class in NYC. In this episode, I’m sharing all of my best tips for creating your own meet-cute—how to start a conversation, feel more confident, spark something real without relying on the ap…

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The Truth About Healing No One Talks About 56:45

2M ago56:45

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I’m joined by Han Huante, host of How I See It, for a vulnerable conversation about mental health, dating patterns, and the real (often messy) work of healing. We talk about how moving out of her comfort zone triggered depression and anxiety, how self-hatred shaped who she dated, and why being “real” with yourself is the first step toward real peac…

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"All Of Our Friends Are Progressing in Life" 1:04:23

2M ago1:04:23

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I sit down with Danielle Dietzek and Julie Griggs, the cofounders of Fourplay Social (@fourplaysocial), for a real, unfiltered girl chat. We’re diving deep into what it feels like when your friends are hitting major life milestones like marriage, babies, and buying homes, while you're still single and wondering if you’re getting left behind. We tal…

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Anniversary Special: What Changes (and What Really Doesn’t) 52:15

2M ago52:15

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We recorded this episode on our actual one-year anniversary, from Turks and Caicos! We set out to recap the year, and ended up talking about how Ilana ruined the surprise trip, little moments that brought us joy, and what our marriage actually feels like day to day. We answer listener questions about what the first year of marriage has really looke…

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Dating Anxiety: How to Stop Overthinking and Self-Sabotaging 52:45

2M ago52:45

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I’m joined by therapist Annie Josephson, PsyD, MSEd, Founder of Uptown Psychology to talk about why dating make us so anxious, even when it’s going well. We discuss why it shows up, how to manage it, and how to tell the difference between fear and intuition. We also answer listener questions about spiraling after dates, ghosting before anything sta…

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"My Rock Bottom Moment Saved Me" 1:07:29

3M ago1:07:29

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TW: This episode my be triggering to those with sensitivities around physical and emotional abuse. I’m joined by Ryan Spencer, who I met on the Tamron Hall Show, for a powerful conversation about healing, heartbreak, and holding out hope for love. Ryan opens up about leaving an abusive relationship, the strength it took to start over, and the frust…

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You Don’t Need Someone to Complete You 45:30

3M ago45:30

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This week, I’m joined by Syd Miller , founder of the fitness brand Housework. Syd shares how a breakup at 30, right when all her friends were getting engaged, became the catalyst for the best years of her life. We talk about how she built her brand from scratch, makes friends IRL, and navigates friendship shifts in different life stages. Most impor…

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Healing Doesn't Happen Overnight 57:24

3M ago57:24

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TW: This episode includes discussion of sexual assault. This week, I’m joined by Meg Reynolds (@meg_reynoldss), host of Not the Girl Next Door (@notthegirlnextdoorpodcast), for a real conversation about healing after a hard relationship. We talk about relationship PTSD, rebuilding self-worth, why healing can take way longer than you expect, and how…

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When Everyone's Getting Married (Except You) & Why That's Okay 49:17

3M ago49:17

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Jen Glantz (@jenglantz) has stood beside hundreds of brides—literally. As the founder of Bridesmaid for Hire and author of three books, she’s seen everything from dream weddings to full-on meltdowns. In this episode, she opens up about her own love story, what finally made her feel ready to say “I do,” and why she and her husband chose to elope aft…

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Understanding Yourself in Dating & Relationships with Erin Claire Jones 55:45

3M ago55:45

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Ilana is joined by Human Design expert and author Erin Claire Jones (@erinclairejones) to break down how understanding your unique design can shift the way you date, connect, and make decisions in love. Erin explains what Human Design is, how it compares to tools like astrology or the Enneagram, and how your chart reveals insights into your relatio…

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Jared Freid: You Can't Tell People How To Feel 1:05:26

3M ago1:05:26

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In this episode, Jake plays cohost as we’re joined by comedian and podcast host Jared Freid—someone who’s played an unexpectedly big role in our relationship. From being mentioned on our very first date to inspiring parts of our vows, Jared has been part of our love story from day one. We talk about the grind of building a show, what Jake has learn…

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Conversations to Have Before Marriage & Major Life Changes 1:01:58

3M ago1:01:58

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I’m joined by Melissa Fitch and Michelle Unger, the BFF duo behind The M Take pod. They’re both married to their long-time loves (a college boyfriend and a high school sweetheart!) and navigating motherhood, partnership, and friendship together. We dive into what they wish they talked about before getting married or pregnant, and how becoming paren…

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What Women Get Wrong About Men & How To Have Hard Conversations 48:02

3M ago48:02

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I’m joined by Eli Weinstein⁠, LCSW, therapist and host of The Dude Therapist Podcast, for real talk about what women often misunderstand about men, the pressure to be emotionally “on the same level” in relationships, and how to approach hard conversations with care. We also get into the overload of self-help content online, what to watch out for, a…

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Red Flags That Are Actually Green 53:07

4M ago53:07

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In this solo episode, I’m sharing some unexpected life updates—including a few medical things I’ve been navigating lately—and TV shows I recently found out not everyone has seen (which feels criminal, honestly). Then we’re diving into modern dating red flags that are actually... green. From not texting all day to taking things slow to living at hom…

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Flirting 101: Everything You Need to Know About Making a Move IRL 50:15

4M ago50:15

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I’m joined by Benjamin Camras, Flirt Coach and host of Flirtations!, to talk all things flirting—how to build real chemistry, flirt without the ick, and actually know when someone’s into you. We answer your questions about navigating workplace crushes, why great text chemistry can fall flat in person, what it means when you keep getting the “just f…

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My BFF’s Love Story & What She Really Thought of My Dating Life 59:07

4M ago59:07

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I’m joined by my childhood best friend Jessie — the one who’s seen me through every confusing situationship, career pivot, and major life change. We’re talking about how she went from friends to married with her high school crush, what it was like when the three of us lived together, and her take on the guys I used to date… versus what she thought …

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Modern Love Is Exhausting—Here's Why with Dr. Morgan Cutlip 52:42

4M ago52:42

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Author and Relationship Expert Dr. Morgan Cutlip joins me to unpack the invisible load we carry in relationships—why emotional and mental labor often falls on one partner, and how to create more balance without resentment. We also talk about how relationship needs shift from dating to marriage, how to spot self-sabotage, and why independence can be…

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Introducing: Cohosts for Life with Ilana & Jake 39:12

4M ago39:12

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Cohosts for Life is our new Patreon weekly series where we (Ilana & Jake) sit down every Sunday—just the two of us—to reflect, laugh, vent, and share the real behind-the-scenes of our lives together. Think of it as our relationship diary, marriage memoir, and life update all wrapped into one cozy, chaotic, honest little episode that drops every Mon…

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Alanna Vizzoni: "I'm Not Just a Cancer Survivor" 54:37

4M ago54:37

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At 27, Alanna Vizzoni was diagnosed with breast cancer—and everything changed overnight. In this raw and honest conversation, she opens up about what it was like to go from “normal” to navigating chemo, a mastectomy, and a surprise engagement all in the same chapter. We talk about identity, body image, intimacy, and what it means to love and be lov…

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You're Never Too Much For The Right Person with Emma Paige 57:55

4M ago57:55

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In this episode, I sit down with Emma Paige, host of 'too much.', to explore the twists, turns, and personal growth that led her to the love of her life. Emma opens up about her journey from LA to New York, the heartbreaks that shaped her, and how a chance meeting turned into something real with her boyfriend, Mr. Right. We dive deep into what it r…

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From Anxious to Secure: Hobbies, Healing & Hot Takes on Dating 49:47

4M ago49:47

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In this solo catch-up, I’m giving you a life and mindset update from changing my Instagram handles to finally breaking through a running plateau that had me feeling stuck for months For the heart of the episode I share how pouring into activities outside of work, social media, and my relationship transformed my anxiety into confidence. I break down…

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Feeling Behind? You're Exactly Where You Need to Be 57:31

4M ago57:31

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Carleigh Ferrante from the Mostly Dating Podcast is back again to discuss the joys and challenges of dating, relationships, and growing into yourself. We talk about how creative date ideas can deepen connection, why maintaining individuality in relationships is essential, and how navigating different life timelines doesn’t have to create distance b…

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This Mindset Shift Will Change Your (Dating) Life 50:22

5M ago50:22

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In this episode, I sit down with executive coach and author Keren Eldad to explore how the same perfectionism and overachievement that drive success can also sabotage our relationships. We discuss the trap of seeking external validation in dating, how people-pleasing can lead to unfulfilling connections, and why high achievers often struggle with v…

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"She Was Cheating On Me With Her Step Brother" 1:07:09

5M ago1:07:09

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In today's episode, our anonymous guest from Louisiana shares the intense and tumultuous story of his longest relationship, which lasted four years. What begins as a typical college romance soon takes a series of shocking turns, uncovering dark family secrets, emotional turmoil, and betrayals that test the limits of trust and love. From unsettling …