Whether you're facing challenges, navigating a crisis, enjoying a strong marriage, or dreaming of one in the future—we invite you to join us. We’re all about keeping it raw, unfiltered, and real, with plenty of laughter along the way, all while keeping our focus on Jesus. Together, let’s walk through the highs and lows of marriage with faith, authenticity, and joy!
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Brad And Lisa Valencia Podcasts
Christians crave spiritual, physical, and emotional intimacy with their spouses—but truth be told, too few ever experience it. My husband Doug and I, the team behind The Vision-Driven Marriage, know this all too well. But God helped us overcome our circumstances, and He’s called us to help you overcome yours. We’ll help you beat the “whirlwind”—you know, that fear, uncertainty, and frustration you feel in your relationship.See, we believe God intended all marriages—yes, even yours—to thrive. ...
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179. Disconnected in a Connected World: How to Truly Be Present
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1:04:27We’re more “connected” than ever—but many of us feel more disconnected than ever. Phones, endless scrolling, constant noise, and the pressure to always be “in the know” are leaving us unable to fully sit with ourselves or the people we love. In this episode, we talk about: • Why silence and stillness feel so uncomfortable—and why that’s exactly whe…
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178. Built for Hard Things: Why Struggle Makes Us Strong
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51:58We weren’t created for comfort—we were created for strength. In this episode, we explore why challenges are not meant to break us but to build us, how capacity is developed through resistance, and what it really means that God’s power is made perfect in our weakness. You wee made for hard things- things that are impossible without God, and so much …
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177. The Father Effect: How Dads Shape Faith, Strength & Identity
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49:39A mother’s love offers comfort and safety. A father’s love calls a child into courage and resilience. In this episode, we unpack the powerful role of fathers—how their presence (or absence) shapes the way children view God, handle life’s pressures, and walk out their faith as adults. Blending research, biblical wisdom, and real-life insight, we’ll …
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176. When It Stings: Investing in Your Marriage
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56:31Let’s be real—what you invest in is what you truly value. In this episode, we share our own resources and dreams, and the faith it takes to speak them out loud. We also want to challenge you: are you pouring more into your lifestyle, hobbies, or comfort than into your marriage? The truth is, God designed marriage to reflect His covenant love, and t…
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175. Why Do We Stop Short? Faith, Marriage, and a 2 Degree Shift
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53:41Join us as we get a chance to share about our son, and what God is doing right now. We serve the same God of power and might who answers prayers and moves TODAY We also dig into the question: why do we stop short? Whether it’s in our marriage, our faith, our relationships, or boldly sharing Christ—what could happen if we went all in and truly belie…
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174. Built to Last: Foundation and Pivots inMarriage
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58:18In this episode, we’re sharing some powerful lessons God taught us while building a home in Guatemala with Casas por Cristo—and how those same truths apply directly to marriage. From the importance of a firm foundation to learning how to pivot when plans change, we saw firsthand how trust in God transforms everything. We talk about how the Body of …
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173. 24 for 24 – Part 2: The Grit, Grace, and Growth of Marriage
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52:07In Part 2 of our anniversary special, we’re diving into the second half of the 24 pieces of marriage advice we’ve learned over 24 years together. These are the deeper lessons—about forgiveness, fun, intimacy, and fighting for each other instead of against. If you’ve ever wondered how to stay connected through chaos, how to rebuild trust, or how to …
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172. 24 Years, 24 Lessons: Part 1 – Marriage Advice You Don’t Want to Miss
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1:00:42After 24 years of marriage, we’ve gathered a list of 24 pieces of advice that have shaped, challenged, and strengthened our relationship—and in this two-part series, we’re sharing them with you. In this episode, we dive into the first 12 lessons, from the practical to the deeply personal. Whether you’re newly married or decades in, there’s somethin…
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171. Living Offended: The Silent Sabotage
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54:15Let’s be honest—offense is heavy. And if we’re not careful, we start carrying things we were never meant to hold. In this episode, we open up a raw, no-judgment conversation about what happens when we live offended—and how it affects our heart, our relationship with God, and our marriage. We talk about how bitterness doesn’t just isolate you—it sta…
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170. Trusting God … Not the episode we planned, but the one we needed
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51:32This episode hit different—because as we were recording it, God was working on us. What started as a conversation about marriage and trust in dry seasons quickly became a moment of conviction. We had to face the truth: we weren’t trusting God as much as we thought we were. And most importantly we talk about how God uses the desert—yes, even the har…
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169. You’re Not Just ‘Mom’—You’re Called, Covered, and Chosen
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1:01:43As moms, it’s far too easy to live under the weight of guilt, comparison, and the constant feeling that we’re not doing enough. In this episode, we’re breaking down the lie of failure that so many of us carry—and replacing it with the truth: this role matters deeply. You are seen by God. He has equipped you for this sacred work and the seeds you ar…
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168. Let Them Feel It: The Healing Power of Consequences
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1:14:25What if the most loving thing you could do… was let someone face the full weight of their choices? In this episode, we unpack the hard truth that rescuing isn’t always love. We dive into why stepping in too soon can actually delay growth, how consequences can be the very tool God uses for transformation, and how to release the people we care about …
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167. The Warrior and the Helper: Reclaiming Biblical Roles in Marriage
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1:05:10“Be strong and courageous.” (Joshua 1:9) God calls men to be protectors — not to dominate, but to defend with love. Women were created to strengthen, not diminish. In this episode, we break down God’s original design for marriage: where leadership is sacrificial, help is powerful, and true protection honors, covers, and brings life. We reclaim the …
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Ever notice how the little quirks in your partner’s behavior can be endearing, amusing, and quickly shift to irritating? In this episode, we dive into the everyday idiosyncrasies that can sometimes drive us up the wall—like leaving cabinets open, repeating stories, or even being hilariously enthusiastic about dishwasher organization—and uncover how…
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165. Marked by Love : Loving and Serving Like Jesus — Especially When It’s Hard
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1:00:01What does real love look like? In this episode, we explore the heart of Jesus’ love—the kind that washed Judas’ feet, embraced the outcast, and laid down everything for those who didn’t deserve it. Jesus said the world would know we are His followers by the way we love. That includes our spouses, especially when it’s difficult. Love isn’t just a fe…
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164. Silent or Explosive? How Shutting Down & Raging Both Hurt Your Marriage
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56:35In this episode, we dive into the challenges many couples face when communication breaks down—particularly when reactions fall to extremes. Whether it's shutting down and withdrawing or explosive outbursts fueled by anger, both responses can cause long-term damage to your relationship. Proverbs 15:1 reminds us, "A gentle answer turns away wrath, bu…
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163. Don't Skip Assessment: How This can Help Build Trust & Strengthen Your Marriage
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45:51Trust and connection in marriage don’t just happen—they require regular reflection and assessment. In this episode, we discuss why honest self-assesement, and assessment of your marriage, is essential for both preventing issues and rebuilding trust after challenges. Join us as we discuss practical ways to assess communication, spiritual growth, and…
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162. Middle of the Miracle - Building faith to persevere
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55:58In this episode, we discuss the importance of holding onto faith, even when the road gets tough, and why sometimes the greatest miracles happen in the middle of the mess. Whether you’re facing challenges in your marriage or looking to strengthen your relationship with your spouse, this episode offers biblical encouragement, practical advice, and po…
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161. The Empty Promise: Unmasking Infidelity’s Deception
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46:11Infidelity often stems from deep-seated insecurities and unchecked pride, leading individuals to seek fulfillment outside their covenant with God and their spouse. The enemy cunningly offers half-truths, mixing a semblance of truth with poison, enticing hearts away from divine purpose. In this episode, we delve into the common threads underlying un…
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160. The Hidden Cost: Are you willing to sacrifice?
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54:27What separates those who thrive in marriage from those who struggle? There’s a hidden factor—one that reveals who is truly willing to love sacrificially and who holds back. In this episode, we explore the biblical foundation of sacrifice in marriage, the unseen heart attitudes that define our willingness, and how embracing God’s design can transfor…
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159. Sacred & Set Apart: Protecting What Matters Most in Marriage
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52:43In marriage, what you pursue is what you protect—so how are you safeguarding what matters most? In this episode of Unrelenting Pursuit, we’re diving into the sacredness of marriage—what it means to be set apart, held in high regard, and fiercely committed to honoring your covenant. We’ll explore how treating your marriage as holy and intentional cr…
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158. Stronger Together: Emotional Intimacy & Decision-Making in Marriage
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50:41In this episode, we’re diving into two key areas that impact every marriage: emotional intimacy and decision-making. Many couples struggle to connect deeply, not because they don’t love each other, but because they don’t always understand how men and women experience emotional intimacy differently. We’ll also unpack the OODA Loop (Observe, Orient, …
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157. Stand by Me : Who you choose to stand beside shapes who you are inside
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1:03:51The people closest to you have a powerful influence on your character, growth, and life’s direction. Yet, many—especially men—often overlook the importance of investing in this critical area of life. In this episode, we dive into how the people standing beside you shape the person you are inside. We’ll discuss the necessity of building a strong, in…
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156. Rooted in Connection – Keeping what REALLY matters
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54:27In this episode, we explore how to keep the true heart of connection alive in your marriage and family during the Thanksgiving season. With all the expectations and traditions that come with the holidays, it’s easy to lose sight of what really matters: your connection with God and your spouse. Join us as we discuss how to prioritize love, grace, an…
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155. Recognizing Manipulation: The Hidden Harm
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1:01:10Manipulation often disguises itself in subtle ways, yet it deeply damages relationships and undermines trust. In this episode, we expose common tactics of manipulation, including: • Emotional Blackmail • Gaslighting • Passive Aggression • Victimhood • Control • Withholding Affection Learn how to identify and address these harmful behaviors—whether …
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154. The Breaking Leads to Breakthrough: Don’t Compromise
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54:54In this episode, we explore how true breakthrough often requires a process of breaking, as God calls us to let go of the things that no longer serve His purpose in our lives. This journey applies to marriage, too, where compromising on Godly standards can feel like a way to avoid discomfort but ultimately leads us toward temporary relief instead of…
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153. The Little Things That Hurt: How Micro-Rejections Show up in Marriage
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1:00:31In this episode, we dive into the subtle, often unnoticed behaviors—micro-rejections—that can slowly create a chasm between you and your spouse. Join us as we explore what micro-rejections look like, why they’re easy to overlook, and how they can build up over time to erode trust and connection. Learn how to recognize and address these small hurts …
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152. Transforming Your Marriage: 3 Questions That Can Change Everything”
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52:06In this episode, we explore three transformative questions from Gary Chapman that can change the course of your marriage: •What can I do to help you? •How can I make your life easier? •How can I be a better husband/wife? These questions, when asked with humility and selflessness, open the door to deeper communication and connection. When you choose…
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In today’s episode of The Vision-Driven Marriage, Doug and Leslie Davis dive deep into an often-overlooked issue in marriage: weaponizing intimacy. When intimacy is used as a tool for control or punishment, it can cause deep wounds that weaken the foundation of trust and connection in a relationship. Leslie shares biblical insights and practical st…
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151. Love Languages: Unlocking Deeper Connection in Your Marriage
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52:21In this episode, we dive into the connection between love languages, respect, and how you both give and receive love. Understanding your own love language, as well as your spouse’s, can radically impact the health of your marriage. We discuss how the way you express love ties into showing respect and how this directly influences your relationship w…
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Love, Laughter, and Legacy: Building a Strong Marriage with Latasha Kennedy
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51:36Episode Overview: In this uplifting episode, Doug and Leslie Davis sit down with Latasha Kennedy, founder of Girlfriends Thriving, to discuss how couples can build a lasting, joy-filled marriage. Latasha shares valuable insights on the power of prayer, the importance of honesty, and how couples can avoid weaponizing intimacy. She also emphasizes th…
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150. Beyond Behavior: Living Out Genuine Transformation
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48:58In this episode, we explore the crucial difference between behavior modification and true transformation. While behavior modification focuses on outward actions and temporary change, true transformation comes from Christ and leads to lasting growth. Repentance plays a key role in this process, allowing you to move beyond simply altering your behavi…
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The Armor of God: Standing Strong in Marriage When Your Husband Denies God
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36:19Episode Summary: In this powerful episode of The Vision-Driven Marriage podcast, we sit down with Monica Hansen, host of The Graceful Warrior Podcast. Monica opens up about her personal journey of standing strong in her marriage while her husband denies God's existence. With raw honesty and deep faith, she shares how she relies on the armor of God …
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149. Navigating the Aftermath: When, How, and IF to Talk to Your Kids About Your Marriage Struggles
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48:42In this sensitive episode, we tackle the challenging topic of communicating and healing with your children after experiencing the fallout from an affair. We understand that this is a difficult conversation, filled with emotions and uncertainties. Join us as we explore: 1. Finding the Right Words– How to approach the conversation honestly and age-ap…
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Core Values in Relationships: What They Can Do For You.
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27:22In this episode of The Vision-Driven Marriage, Doug and Leslie Davis dive into a common struggle in marriage—criticism over different methods. Have you ever found yourself frustrated because your spouse approaches things differently than you would? It’s easy to get caught up in how things are done, but true unity comes from focusing on shared value…
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148. Unlocking Her Heart: learning what really matters to your wife
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51:14Men, respecting your wife means more than just making decisions—it’s about valuing her contributions, recognizing her wisdom, and praising her openly. Join us as we dive deeper into how these biblical principles can create a more balanced and fulfilling relationship. Go after strengthening your marriage by speaking your wife’s respect language. We …
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Strengthening Your Marriage with Shared Values: Don Manning's Advice for Couples
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44:46In this 80th episode of The Vision-Driven Marriage, Doug and Leslie Davis sit down with Don Manning from Crazy Cool Family Ministries for an inspiring conversation on how couples can grow closer by focusing on shared values rather than getting stuck in criticism. Don unpacks the difference between values and methods, offering practical wisdom and p…
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147. Unspoken Signals: Learning how to communicate what REALLY matters to your man
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53:00In this episode, we explore 6 practical ways to build up and empower your husband through respect, trust, and unwavering support that is covered by "Through The Word: Marriage Talks". https://www.bible.com/en/reading-plans 1. Let Him Lead– Trusting and following his leadership helps him feel strong and confident. 2. Communicate Trust– Affirm your b…
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Overcome Impostor Syndrome: Mark Collins’ Journey to Finding Identity in Christ
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41:04In this episode, we sit down with Mark Collins, a passionate minister who helps men overcome the grip of impostor syndrome. Mark opens up about the struggles he faced from a young age, growing up with deep feelings of inadequacy and guilt. He shares how a strained relationship with his father and a lack of affirmation from his mother caused him to …
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146. UNBREAKABLE : The Strength of Not Letting Go in Your Marriage
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36:43Join us as we discuss the importance of never letting go! In this episode we dive deep into the power of perseverance in relationships. Every marriage faces challenges, but what sets lasting unions apart is the decision to hold on when times get tough. We’ll explore how commitment, faith, and intentional effort can help you overcome obstacles and b…
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Faith in the Fire: Addiction, Recovery, and Marriage with Tanya Gioia
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48:59In this powerful episode of The Vision-Driven Marriage, we sit down with Tanya Gioia to hear her raw and inspiring story of navigating the storm of addiction within her marriage. Tanya opens up about her husband's battle with addiction and how her desire to "fix it" led to a cycle of enabling and frustration. Just four days before Christmas, everyt…
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10 things To Say To Defuse an Argument In Your Relationship
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34:52In today's episode of The Vision-Driven Marriage, we're tackling a topic that every couple can relate to: navigating disagreements in a way that strengthens, rather than weakens, your relationship. Even the most devoted Christian couples will face conflicts from time to time, but it's how we respond to these challenges that truly defines the health…
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Building a Balanced Partnership: Sharon Costanzo on Shared Values and Resilience in Marriage
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35:23Ever wondered how to maintain a strong, balanced marriage amidst life's chaos? Sharon Costanzo from Respected and Connected joins us to share her compelling journey from an achievement-oriented upbringing to creating a partnership that thrives on mutual respect and egalitarian values. Sharon opens up about the unique challenges she faced in finding…
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Healing and Renewal in Marriage: Brad and Lisa Valencia's Journey of Faith, Redemption, and Personal Growth
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49:48Could your marriage withstand the weight of hidden challenges and small compromises? Join us on this powerful episode of the Vision-Driven Marriage Podcast as we welcome Brad and Lisa Valencia from Unrelenting Pursuit. They courageously share their transformative story from marital strife to triumph, driven by Brad's conviction to reveal the miracl…
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Overcoming Communication Barriers in Marriage: 3 Key Deterrents and Biblical Insights: A Throw-Back Episode
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35:42Ever found yourself lost in translation within your own marriage? This week on The Vision-Driven Marriage we drop a throwback episode to continue on our quest to help you avoid separation. In this episode we return to episode 4 of the podcast to discuss the importance of understanding our differences and giving grace in times when communication is …
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Honest and Open Communication: The Art of Transformative Communication in Marriage
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19:43Have you ever wondered how to turn communicating in a relationship from mundane check-ins to profound connections? Join us, Doug and Leslie Davis, as we reveal how open and honest communication can act as the glue that binds the hearts of spouses together. Honest and Open Communication Our discussion peels back the layers of fear that often shroud …
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145. Distract, Deceive, Destroy - Paying attention to how these three tactics impact your marriage.
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49:57The truth is that you make time for what you prioritize, and that plays out in your spiritual, emotional, and physical health, along with your marriage. You have to create space for connection because the distractions will always be there! The enemy uses the same playbook with all of us, and if he can't deceive us or destroy us, he will settle for …
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Unlock the secrets to a more resilient and loving marriage with us, Doug and Leslie Davis, as we delve into the art of selfless love on the Vision-Driven Marriage podcast. Inspired by the profound wisdom of 1 Corinthians 10:24, we reveal how putting your spouse's well-being at the forefront can dramatically shift the dynamics of your relationship. …
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144. What You Tolerate Dominates - How what you tolerate impacts you, your marriage, and your walk with God.
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54:30In the book, "Extreme Ownership," by Jock Willink he quotes, "It's not what you preach, it's what you tolerate." This caused us both to take a good hard look at ourselves, and areas in our life where this has had an impact. The reality is that what you tolerate...dominates. Challenge for this week is to look inward at what you are tolerating indivi…
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Rescuing Your Marriage from the Brink: Randy Pryor's Guide to Reconnection and Personal Growth
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41:23Have you ever felt the ground beneath your marriage start to crumble, leaving you scrambling for a foothold? Randy Pryor joins us to extend a lifeline, introducing his SOS Reconnection Method for men facing separation head on. As a former workaholic whose marriage was torn apart, Randy transformed his life and now guides others through the labyrint…
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