Is monogamy dead? Are we expecting too much from dating apps? Do we even want to find love anymore? Get all the answers and more with Dateable, your insider’s look into modern dating that the New York Times, HuffPost, and Oprah Daily call one of the top podcasts about dating, love, and relationships. Listen in as Yue Xu and Julie Krafchick dig into why we date the way we do. Together we'll navigate modern dating with more compassion, fun, and intention so you can create the love life you've ...
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What happens when you want to shift the way you date completely? You come up with a plan that's so counter to the way we date today that it may be construed as controversial to some (true story!). We're joined with our guest Raymond who is sharing his new dating plan – and why he got to the place of making one in the first place. We're discussing h…
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It may feel like everyone is looking for something casual or non-committal but the reality is that there are people looking for exactly what you are. We're diving into why it's a myth that no one wants monogamous relationships anymore and how you can stay true to your own needs/ desires, sift out the people who are not on the same page, and focus o…
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S21E3: Chaotic Singles Party: Inside Edition w/ Cassidy Davis
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1:10:16What happens when you can't seem to find any good people to date? Your app dates are blah and it feels like you just aren't meeting the right people IRL. We're talking to Cassidy Davis, the creator of Chaotic Singles Party, of how she went from tragically single (her words!) to meeting her finance by taking matters into her own hands by inviting 65…
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#brunchtalk: Dating Isn't As Personal As We Make It
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25:04It's hard not to take dating personally. But the reality is that most people WON'T be matches – and if they don't text back, don't want to go on another date, or don't want to enter a serious committed relationship, most times it has nothing to do with you. So join us in this #brunchtalk to discuss why can shift our mindset to approach dating with …
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S21E2: The Compatibility Myth w/ Eli Finkel
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1:06:03How do you choose a partner that's a good match for you? We're joined with Eli Finkel, social psychologist and the Director of the Relationship & Motivation Lab at Northwestern University to debunk what matters and what doesn't when it comes to compatibility in relationships. We're discussing why initial shared interests and similar personalities m…
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#brunchtalk: You Don't Need To Be Good At Dating
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26:20Yup, you heard us right. You don't need to be good at dating – at least the way we're dating today. We're back for all new brunch talk to dive into why after 10 years of doing a dating podcast, we believe that we're actually doing more that fosters disconnection than actual connection in today's dating world. Sure you can't be an utter train wreck,…
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We're back for SEASON 21 and we're reporting on the next biggest shift in dating, that takes dating intentionally one step further – and also removes the challenges that more 'purpose-driven' dating has caused in the last couple of years. So it's time to wake the f up as we shift into a world of conscious dating that in turn lead to relationships t…
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#brunchtalk: Is Being Too Interested A Turn Off?
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15:26Sure you want someone interested but can they be too interested? Or has anyone every told you that you come off too eager? In this week's #brunchtalk episode, we're discussing the perception of interest in dating, how to move forward if someone shares this type of feedback with you, and ways that you can evaluate your own approach to dating based o…
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What It Means To Be Dateable w/ John Kim
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1:08:30We're one week away from Season 21....so what else would we do but reminisce about our 21st birthdays as we usher in a new season of Dateable! But before the season begins, we're airing an episode we did with John Kim that talks about the complexities of modern dating, how cultural differences come into play, and the evolution of relationships in t…
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#brunchtalk: What To Do When You're Relationship Ends Out of Nowhere
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16:32You finally found someone you're into who is also into you. Until out of nowhere – it all blows up. If you've been here before, you know how painful it feels when it seems like the the rug was just pulled from under you unexpectedly We're breaking down the reasons this may happen and how to handle the emotional turmoil that comes from this. We disc…
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The Surprising Things That Seduce Us Away From Authentic Relationships w/ Ken Page
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1:13:24What if when dating there are certain things getting in your way that are tempting in ways you may not expect? We're talking with our dear friend psychotherapist Ken Page about how our current dating culture sets people up to fail - and what to do about it. We're talking about the 5 dating archetypes, how to avoid the validation trap when dating, a…
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#brunchtalk: What To Do When They Won't Commit
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15:38So you met someone awesome...but...they aren't ready to define the relationship or stop seeing other people. Do you wait? Date other people? Hold back sex or other intimacy? We're diving into how to handle one of the biggest challenges in dating – when one person is ready to have a relationship and the other isn't quite there We're discussing why i…
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Finding Love After Heartbreak w/ Heather McG
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1:01:16If you're in the thick of heartbreak (or have been before) know that there is hope! Yes, you absolutely can come back stronger after this period of grief – even if it doesn't feel like it right now. We're sharing an interview we did with Heather McG about our personal stories of heartbreak and the lessons learned from past relationships. Join us as…
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#brunchtalk: The Difference of First Dates in Your 30s
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15:18Dating should be fun! But it also should be intentional....especially if you're looking for a life partner. With all these conflicting messages, it's hard to know the expectation of a first date anymore....especially when you reach your 30s and people are looking for something more serious. We're breaking down the difference between self-imposed pr…
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How To Be Dateable & Rarely Into Anyone w/ Damona Hoffman
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1:17:57What happens when you're trying to be Dateable....yet not finding anyone of interest? We're re-airing one of our fave interviews with the fabulous Damona Hoffman as we go into getting out of that dating rut, finding the necessary clarity to move forward in your love life, and how to start connecting deeper on dates. Plus, Damona answers the questio…
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#brunchtalk: What To Do When They Stop Being Consistent
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16:27They're texting every day, replying quickly, and making plans...everything's running smoothly until one day it just stops. In this week's #brunchtalk, we're discussing one of the most common dating dilemmas: inconsistency. We're discussing the reasons behind this behavior, why we have to communicate our needs and expectations effectively, and how t…
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How Dating Rules Keep You Stuck w/ Talia Koren
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1:15:00From dating books like 'The Rules' to TikToker's giving dating advice, we're here to say the rules don't freaking work – yet they are so much more engrained in all of us than we may even think. If you're debating when to text next, finding the "right" time to have sex or strategically keeping dates short, then it's likely these dating "rules" are a…
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Best of Brunch Talk: The Reason Dates Don't Turn Into Relationships
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14:25Ever feel like you just can't move past those first couple dates or actually get into a committed relationship? You're not alone. Join us this week as we discuss why it's so common to feel this way – even when the reality is that most date's don't turn into more! We're discussing what metrics to focus on when quantifying dating "success", why datin…
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We're officially on the off-season and kicking it off with some life updates from both of us. We recap the first part of 2025 – from our book tour to potential moves to wedding planning. Join us as we debrief about our favorite parts of the year so far and what has been a challenge. Enjoy! Get OUR BOOK + take the Dating Archetypes quiz: https://how…
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Best of Brunch Talk: Should You Wait for Them To Be Ready?
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18:01We're back with some of our most popular #brunchtalks and a question we always get is: what should I do if they say they like me but they just aren't ready right now for a relationship? Should I stay and give it more time or just let it go? In this week's #brunchtalk episode, we're discussing how to navigate this tricky situation, especially when i…
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What if we were to tell you there's a way to find the right partner that doesn't feel like you're looking for a needle in a haystack where you will absolutely never settle. In our season finale, we saved one our favorite topics from our book 'How to Be Dateable': our perfect partner equation. We discuss the three core components of this equation, h…
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#brunchtalk: Dishing About Why The Matchmaking Industry is F%cked and Our Polar Opposite Views on Materialists
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44:31Yue almost walked out of the movie Materialists...it may be one of Julie's favorite movies of all times. Whether you've seen it or not, we're having a debate about the messaging and takeaways of the movie as it pertains to modern dating, financial disparities in relationships, height surgery, and the matchmaking industry. We're revealing our true f…
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S20E21: What To Know About Marriage (Before You're Even Married) w/ Casey & Meygan Caston
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1:04:41What happens when you meet the love of your life but then the relationship completely falls apart not long after you get married? You learn what you probably needed to know lonnng before you tied the knot! We're joined with Casey & Meygan from Marriage365 to talk about how their relationship nearly collapsed – and what they did to get it back on tr…
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#brunchtalk: Determining If Your Situationship Could Be More (Or Not)
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27:30You met someone amazing. The chemistry is incredible and you really enjoy their company. So this is obviously headed into relationship territory, right? Not always...We're discussing if your situationship could actually turn into a relationship or if it's stuck in casual territory. We're discussing what to do when you aren't fully aligned with what…
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S20E20: Ask A Matchmaker w/ Matchmaker Maria
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1:17:03Ever want to pick the brain of a matchmaker? Well we're about to as we're joined with Matchmaker Maria to discuss her journey as a fourth-generation matchmaker and what it's like to be a matchmaker in today's world. We're discussing the pivotal quality she bases her matches on, how the 12 date rule can set you up for success, and why it's important…
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