Best Timzi9 Podcasts (2025)

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Is Secrecy a Part of Porn Addiction? 5:18

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Is secrecy a core part of pornography addiction — or just one possible sign of a deeper struggle? In today’s episode, we explore the complex intersection between porn use, shame, secrecy, and addiction. They unpack what “problematic use” really means, why some people hide their behavior while others don’t, and how early experiences and family cultu…

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Male Betrayal Trauma: Breaking the Silence with Adam Nisenson 37:50

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What happens when men are the ones betrayed by sex addiction? In today's episode, author and therapist Adam Nisenson joins the Dan Drake, Wendy Conquest, Tim Stein and Jeanne Vattoune to unpack a topic rarely discussed — male betrayal trauma. Through his book A Man’s Guide to Partner Betrayal, Adam gives voice to men who’ve been silenced, shamed, o…

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Differences between men and women betrayed partners 5:03

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When betrayal strikes, it’s not just pain, it’s the kind of anger you’ve never felt before. In this episode, the panel talks about how to feel and express anger without going into rage. You’ll hear honest stories and professional insight on: - Why anger feels powerful in the moment but hollow afterward - How men often feel their anger isn’t validat…

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5th stage of betrayal trauma anger: isolation? 5:16

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Is betrayal trauma really different for men and women? Most men do not come into therapy later rather than sooner. Men feel isolated for most of the betrayal trauma experience. Women usually over-function during the BT experience especially earlier in the journey. Join the conversation: Do you think men are given the same emotional space to heal as…

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Physical Symptoms of Sex Addiction and Betrayal Trauma 5:34

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Sex addiction takes its toll on the addict and the partner. Listen in for physical symptoms to know about. Subscribe for more powerful discussions on healing, relationships, and emotional recovery. Join our community for new uploads every week. #EmotionalHealing #Relationships #TherapyTalk #Anger #RecoveryJourney #MentalHealthAwareness #Addictionto…

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Full Episode of Betrayal Trauma & Anger Explained | Processing Rage After Infidelity and Broken Trust with Dr. Crystal Hollenbeck 34:32

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Anger after betrayal can feel overwhelming, confusing, and even “out of character.” In this episode of Conversations on Sex, Addiction, and Relationships, Dr. Crystal Hollenbeck joins Dan Drake, Jeanne Vattoune, Tim Stein and Wendy Conquest to break down the reality of betrayal trauma anger, why it shows up, how it unfolds over time, and what tools…

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Betrayal Trauma Anger: Explanation and Progression of Anger and Rage for Betrayed Partners 5:13

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When betrayal is discovered, anger can feel overwhelming. In this episode of Conversations on Sex, Addiction, and Relationships, we sit down with Dr. Crystal Hollenbeck to explore how betrayal trauma anger shows up both immediately and over time. Dr. Hollenbeck explains why betrayed partners often experience anger in waves as more consequences and …

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Betrayal Trauma | Understanding Anger, Healing & Trust with Dr. Crystal Hollenbeck 5:20

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In this upcoming episode of Conversations on Sex Addiction and Relationships, the team explores how betrayal trauma extends beyond sexual infidelity with Dr. Crystal Hollenbeck. While sexual betrayal is often the most visible form of hurt, many partners experience deep wounds from emotional betrayal, financial secrecy, or broken trust from friends,…

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Woman Wants to Have Sex, Sex Addict Husband Won't! 20:35

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In this episode of Conversations on Sex Addiction and Relationships: Partner Wants to Have Sex and Sex Addict Doesn't We explore the painful dynamics of betrayal trauma, intimacy anorexia, avoidance, childhood wounds, entitlement, and fear that often lie at the heart of these behaviors. 👉 Whether you are navigating betrayal, supporting someone in r…

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Healing After Sex Addiction Betrayal: Navigating Sex Addiction in Relationships - Mail Bag 4:04

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In this episode, we explore the complex impact of sex addiction on relationships, focusing on the grief, loss, and emotional struggles faced by betrayed partners. Unlike addictions to substances like alcohol or drugs, sexual betrayal carries unique challenges, affecting both the addict and their partner on deeply personal levels. We discuss: Unders…

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Why Some Sex Addicts Withhold Sex: Understanding Intimacy Anorexia & Betrayal in Marriage 4:58

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In this episode, we dive into a listener question about a sex addict who withholds intimacy while engaging sexually with others. Many partners struggle with betrayal, confusion, and grief when their spouse avoids connection at home but seeks it elsewhere. We explore the concept of intimacy anorexia, why addicts withdraw sexually, and what it might …

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Why People Seek Emotional Validation Outside Their Relationships | Understanding Fear & Avoidance Pattern 5:35

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In this episode, the Conversations team explore why some individuals seek emotional or physical validation outside their intimate relationships. Often, it’s not about sex but about fear, trauma, or unmet emotional needs in the primary relationship. They discuss how past experiences, including childhood trauma and early relationship patterns, can cr…

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Betrayal Trauma from Cheating: Why “Just Move On” Hurts Healing 5:03

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What happens when a betrayed partner feels invalidated, not only by the one who hurt them, but also by a professional who should be offering support? In this conversation, experts discuss how the way a question is worded can shift the entire meaning, and how outdated therapeutic approaches may unintentionally cause harm. The discussion also highlig…

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Is Betrayal Trauma Detrimental to an Addict’s Recovery? 5:03

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What happens when a betrayed partner is told that their trauma is detrimental to an addict’s recovery? In this discussion, we unpack why this perspective is outdated, harmful, and rooted in misunderstanding. We explore the difference between sobriety and true recovery, how shame resiliency plays a role, and why betrayal trauma responses are valid—n…

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Christian Partners of Sex Addicts; Tabitha Westbrook on Embodied Recovery 37:46

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In this episode, Tabitha Westbrook talks and sexual abuse within the church, childhood and with being married to a sex addict. She weaves neuroscience, embodiment, and story into her work with survivors of betrayal trauma and sexual harm. Tabitha shares why understanding your nervous system, connecting with your body, and reclaiming your voice are …

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Healing After Trauma: Embracing Self-Compassion and Identity with Tabitha Westbrook 5:10

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How do you begin healing from trauma especially when self-hatred feels like second nature? In this honest and hopeful episode, Dan Drake, Tim Stein, Jeannie Vattoune and guest Tabitha Westbrook speak directly to survivors at the beginning of their healing journey. They explore what it means to show kindness to yourself, how deeply harmful theology …

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Why I Wrote About Sex and Trauma in the Church | Tabitha Westbrook on Healing & Her New Book 5:11

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How do you start a conversation about sex and trauma in the church—one that feels safe, honest, and healing? In this powerful episode, therapist and author Tabitha Westbrook shares the surprising origin of her new book on sexuality and healing for survivors of trauma. What started as a single teaching session at a retreat turned into a book that gi…

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Breaking Purity Culture: Healing Sex Addiction and Shame in the Church with Tabitha Westbrook 5:19

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How has purity culture in evangelical Christianity shaped views on lust, sex addiction, and shame and what needs to change? In this powerful conversation with Tabitha Westbrook we unpack how distorted teachings about lust and responsibility create division between men and women in the church. They discuss the deep harm these messages cause, the ris…

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Binge-Purge with Sex Addiction Explanation and Exploration: Whole Mailbag Episode 25:16

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We will be exploring the language around binge/purge cycles, acting in versus acting out, and the idea of switching addictions or the “whack-a-mole” effect. The discussion digs into the difference between sobriety and recovery, why consistency matters, and what partners can look for when trying to determine if change is genuine. Have a question you…

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Is It a Purge or Real Recovery? Understanding Binge-Purge Sex Addiction 5:33

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They haven’t acted out in a while but is it recovery… or just the purge phase? In this episode, Dan Drake Jeanne Vattuone and Tim Stein take on a powerful listener's question about the binge-purge subtype of sex addiction. When someone stops their acting out behavior for long stretches of time, it can look like sobriety but is it actually recovery,…

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Are They Really in Recovery or Just Not Acting Out? How to Tell the Difference 5:22

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How can you tell if someone is truly in recovery or just white-knuckling their way through another cycle of sex addiction? In this deep and practical conversation, Dan Drake, Jeanne Vattuone and Tim Stein explore the difference between sobriety and true recovery. Sobriety is what someone doesn't do. Recovery is what they do. And that distinction ma…

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How Do We Know If Someone Is Really in Recovery? And How to Rebuild Trust? 5:21

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How do you measure trust after betrayal and how much is enough to stay? In this honest and practical conversation, Dan Drake, Tim Stein and Jeanne Vattuone explore the “continuum of trust” and how partners can assess where they are and what they need after betrayal trauma. They break down how both the partner and the addict play a role in rebuildin…

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Rebecca Crews, wife of Terry Crews Speaks: The Day My Life Exploded: 15 Years After D‑Day 57:36

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What really happens the moment after betrayal shatters your world? In this powerful episode, Rebecca Crews reflects on what life looks like 15 years after D‑Day, the moment everything she thought she knew came crashing down. She shares how her intuition refused to be silenced, the sleepless night that led to truth, and how it felt to have her entir…

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“What Don’t I Know About You?”: The Night Everything Changed for Rebecca Crews 5:12

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What happens when your gut screams at you that something is seriously wrong and you're finally brave enough to listen? In this gripping episode, Rebecca Crews shares the night everything unraveled. It was February 10, 2010, what they now call D‑Day. Her husband, Terry Crews, was on set across the country. One unanswered call turned into a sickening…

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Rebecca Crews: Talks About Terry Crews' Sex Addiction Recovery 5:42

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What happens when the person you love most becomes a stranger and then dares to change? In this powerful and emotionally raw episode, Rebecca Crews reflects on the unraveling and rebuilding of their decades-long marriage to Terry. She shares the moment she began to believe change was possible not because of words, but because of action: Terry stepp…

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Rebecca Crews on Choosing Love Again and Again: A Conversation on Long-Term Healing, Trust & Imperfection 5:13

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What does it take to stay married and truly connected for over three decades after betrayal? In this heartfelt conversation, Rebecca Crews opens up about their 36-year marriage, her grandfather’s influence, and the deep gratitude she feels for the journey they’ve walked with sex addiction. The discussion touches on the rollercoaster of trust, the a…

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Navigating Life After Sobriety with Allan Katz 5:28

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In this episode, Allan Katz shares the inspiration behind his powerful workbook, Navigating the Phases of Sex Addiction Recovery. This isn’t just a guide to staying sober it’s a deep dive into what comes next: finding meaning, living with integrity, and rediscovering purpose. Designed for those who’ve already begun their sobriety journey, Allan’s b…

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Women's Recovery including Sex and Love Addiction 5:40

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Kim Litton with raw honesty, she opens up about her journey from addiction and trauma to freedom and recovery, offering a powerful message: hope is real, and healing is possible. Kim speaks about the myths and misconceptions around female sex and love addiction, the impact of childhood wounds, and how the desire to be seen and valued shaped her ear…

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7 stages of male betrayal trauma especially anger 5:02

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Adam Nisenson speaks about the overlooked emotional journey of men navigating betrayal trauma. He introduces the 7 stages of what he calls masculine betrayal trauma, a healing framework that includes taboo topics like ego wounds, self-worth, suppressed anger, competitiveness, and intrusive thoughts. Adam shares how men often internalize pain, avoid…

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Light in the Dark: Ken Adams on Adult Children of Sex Addicts & Breaking Family Shame 23:05

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Dr. Ken Adams, renowned clinician, author, and expert in the field of sex addiction treatment—joins Wendy Conquest and Jeanne Vattuone live from the IITAP Symposium to discuss his groundbreaking new book Light in the Dark co-authored with Dr. Mary Meyer and Culle Vande Garde, this book is the first of its kind to give voice to the lived experiences…

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Ken Adams Opens Up About Writing His First Book Silently Seduced and then Light In the Dark 5:21

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Dr. Ken Adams never set out to become an author but sometimes, the story finds you before you know how to tell it. In this moving and honest conversation, Ken recounts the origin of his newest book Light in the Dark, a long-awaited exploration into the lives of adult children of sex addicts. Speaking with Jeanne Vattunne and Wendy Conquest live at …

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Adult Children of Sex Addicts; How Does Someone Know? Ken Adams on Family Betrayal and Silent Pain 5:17

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Dr. Ken Adams joins hosts Wendy Conquest and Jeanne Vattuone to explore a topic rarely spoken about: the invisible burden carried by children who grow up in homes shadowed by sexual secrets and betrayal. Drawing from decades of clinical experience, Ken sheds light on how children absorb the confusion, shame, and broken trust that ripple through fam…

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When Men Are Betrayed: A Raw Conversation on Male Partner Betrayal Trauma 23:16

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What happens when a man is sexually betrayed and no one talks about it? In this powerful episode, Adam Nisenson joins Dan Drake and Tim Stein live at the ITAP Symposium to break the silence around male partner betrayal trauma. Adam shares his personal story of discovering his wife’s affair over a decade ago, and how that painful experience led him …

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Why Men Struggle to Heal Alone — And How Connection Can Change Everything 4:48

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Healing from sex addiction and betrayal isn’t a solo journey—especially for men. In this insightful conversation, the struggle many men face with opening up, often stuck in the “ego trap” of having to fix everything alone, is explored. The truth? Recovery requires connection, empathy, and tools—and it often starts when one man breaks the silence, e…

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Adam Nisenson speaks to being a betrayed partner 3:33

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“I was told once that women cheat to leave and men cheat to stay.” But is that really the whole story? In this candid discussion with therapist Adam Nisenson, we explore the deeper realities behind why people cheat and challenge common stereotypes. Drawing from years of experience working with both men and women, Adam uncovers how infidelity often …

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NEW BOOK! Breaking the Silence: Kim Litton’s Raw Journey from Addiction to Redemption 32:10

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Join therapist and author Kim Litton as they courageously share their personal story of recovery from sex, love, and substance addiction in their memoir I Do It For Her. In this heartfelt conversation recorded at the ITAP Symposium, Kim opens up about the intense shame, struggles, and pain they faced—and how they found hope, healing, and freedom th…

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"I Do It For Her": Kim Litton Shares Her Powerful Journey Through Addiction and Recovery 5:14

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In this intimate conversation, Kim Litton opens up about the deeply personal story behind their memoir, I Do It For Her: A Memoir of Recovery and Redemption from Sex, Love, and Substances. With over 21 years in recovery, Kim reflects on the hidden struggles she faced—not only with drugs and alcohol but also with sex and love addiction, which went u…

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NEW BOOK by Allan Katz: Navigating Sex Addiction Recovery with Integrity & Connection 27:53

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Welcome to a conversation with Allan Katz, author of Navigating the Phases of Sex Addiction Recovery. In this interview recorded live at the ITAP Symposium, Allan shares their unique journey from a marketing consultant to a certified sex addiction therapist, diving deep into what true recovery really means. This video explores how sobriety is just …

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Dating in Recovery with Kim Litton 5:05

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Dating in recovery can feel overwhelming—especially when rigid “plans” feel like homework or too much pressure. In this heartfelt discussion, we explore the Compassionate Structure Plan written by Kim Litton, a flexible daily and weekly checklist designed to support women addicts navigating the dating world without losing their sense of self or fee…

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Phases of Recovery in Sex Addiction: Moving Beyond “I Can’t” Into Integrity and Healing 5:22

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In this episode, Allan Katz offers a clear and compassionate map for navigating the phases of sex addiction recovery—not just through abstinence, but through deep character transformation in his new workbook, Navigating the Phases in Sex Addiction Recovery. Using a framework built around values like integrity, ethics, respect, and vulnerability, Al…

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Pushing My Partner to Have Sex: with Allan Katz 5:09

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What happens when sexual addiction doesn’t just take place outside the relationship—but inside it, too? In this conversation, Allan Katz explores how emotional pressure, lack of safety, and compulsive sexual behaviors can deeply affect intimacy within committed partnerships. They discuss how Allan’s workbook guides people toward meaningful change b…

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“I’m Doing the Work—Why Isn’t She?” Navigating Disconnection in Recovery 25:09

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In this deep-dive April Mailbag episode, the hosts tackle a heartfelt email from a listener in recovery who’s doing everything “right”—meetings, therapy, step work—but still feels shut out by his partner. Why isn’t she engaging? Is it unresolved trauma, burnout, or a deeper disconnection? The team explores common pitfalls in couples healing after b…

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When She Shuts Down: How Addicts Can Keep Showing Up with Empathy 5:03

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What should you do when your partner won’t engage, even after you've committed to recovery? In this April Mailbag episode, the hosts discuss the emotional complexities of healing after betrayal—especially when the wounded partner closes off. From the importance of empathy letters and impact processing to resisting defensiveness and building emotion…

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Why Isn't My Partner Loving Me? A Hard Look at Partner's Reactions to A Recovering Addict 1:45

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In this thought-provoking April Mailbag episode, the hosts unpack a listener's email that dives into the painful space between recovery and reconnection. Why do some partners struggle to re-engage even when the addict is “doing the work”? Is it unresolved trauma, unspoken resentment, or just the truth of incompatibility? With candid insights into a…

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Understanding Kink: Healthy Expression or Hidden Addiction? -- Dr. Stefanie Carnes Explains 41:37

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Kink. Fetishes. BDSM. Are they expressions of healthy sexuality—or signs of addiction and unresolved trauma? In this powerful and nuanced conversation, Dr. Stefanie Carnes joins the Conversations on Sex Addiction and Relationships team to unpack what kink really means, how it intersects with sex addiction, betrayal trauma, and recovery, and what th…

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When Kink and Sex Addiction Recovery Collide – Dr. Stefanie Carnes 5:17

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What happens when non-traditional sexual behavior, recovery, and relationship dynamics intersect? In this 3.5-minute deep dive, Dr. Stefanie Carnes explores the delicate balance of reintroducing sexual expression in relationships impacted by sex addiction and betrayal trauma. From managing arousal templates and consent, to honoring recovery boundar…

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Kink or Addiction? How to Tell the Difference: Dr. Stefanie Carnes Explains 5:14

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Is kinky sexual behaviors a healthy sexual expression or a sign of addiction? In just 2.5 minutes, Dr. Stefanie Carnes unpacks the critical difference between kink and compulsive sexual behavior. Whether you're a therapist, someone exploring your sexuality, or simply curious, this short but powerful conversation tackles the intersection of healthy …

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When Is the Right Time to Make Amends? 5:01

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Is there a "right" time to make amends in sex addiction recovery? What if the person in recovery isn’t following the 12-step model—or isn’t “there yet”? In this heartfelt discussion, we explore how true amends are less about perfection and more about presence, intention, and accountability. This episode breaks down what “living amends” really means…

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When Parents Hurt Without Knowing: How Betrayal Trauma Impacts Children 5:15

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What happens to children when they grow up in a household shaped by addiction, betrayal, and emotional absence? In this emotional and raw conversation, we explore the long-term impact of sex addiction on kids—and what parents can do today to help stop the cycle. Through lived experience and clinical insight, the discussion touches on how a parent’s…

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What Does Real Amends Look Like? Humility, Healing & Showing Up Daily 27:50

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Making amends isn’t just a step—it’s a way of living. In this powerful and honest conversation, the hosts explore what it truly means to make amends in sex addiction recovery, especially when it comes to relationships. From the early days of confusion and disclosure to those pivotal “aha” moments when empathy finally lands, this episode breaks down…