This is your show to discuss open relationships, the swinger lifestyle, consensual non-monogamy - however you describe it, we’re here to talk about it. Your podcast is hosted by John and Jackie Melfi, the force behind the industry famous colette swingers clubs and the award-winning blog Openlove101.com. With over 20 years of combined experience in open relationships and coaching thousands of couples, they are here to share with you the trials, tribulations, passion, and positivity of love an ...
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Breaking Stereotypes in Open Relationships 🌍
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44:18Breaking stereotypes and redefining what relationships can be! 🌍 Curious about an open lifestyle with your partner? Let’s explore it together 🙂! In this exciting and eye-opening discussion, we dive into the world of swinging, polyamory, and non-monogamous lifestyles. Ever thought about how trust, communication, and intimacy play a key role in build…
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How Swinging Can Strengthen Your Relationship
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9:52How Swinging Can Strengthen Your Relationship | John & Jackie | OpenLove101 Think swinging ruins relationships? Think again. In this video, John and Jackie from OpenLove101.com share how embracing the swinger lifestyle has enhanced their communication, intimacy, and emotional connection. They dive into how exploring fantasies without guilt, talking…
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The Truth About Cheating in Open Relationships
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17:53In this eye-opening discussion, hosts John and Jackie Melfi tackle the intriguing question: "Do lifestyle couples cheat less than monogamous couples?" Drawing from their extensive experience in open relationships and as owners of Colette Swingers Clubs, they explore the nuances of infidelity, trust, and boundaries within consensual non-monogamy. Jo…
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Can swinging ever be truly “equal”? In this honest and insightful video, John and Jackie from OpenLove101.com tackle the emotional dynamics of open relationships—especially around gender, jealousy, and fairness. Sparked by a viewer email, they dive into what happens when one partner is more actively exploring than the other, and how communication a…
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Boundaries vs Rules: Why Language Matters in Relationships
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16:55In this insightful episode, hosts John and Jackie Melfi dive into the important distinction between boundaries and rules in relationships, especially within consensual non-monogamy. They share their personal experiences and wisdom from over 20 years in open relationships to help couples navigate these concepts effectively. The Melfis explore how bo…
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Is It Safe for Single Women to Visit Swinger Clubs?
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6:24Is It Safe for Single Women to Visit Swinger Clubs? | John & Jackie | OpenLove101 Curious about visiting a swinger club as a single woman—but feeling unsure? In this empowering video, John and Jackie from OpenLove101.com tackle the common fears and societal judgments that often hold women back from exploring their sexuality in safe, respectful envi…
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The Dance of Differences: Making Non-Monogamy Work for Every Personality Type
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7:36Do Opposite Personalities Work in Non-Monogamy? | Open Love 101 Podcast Join hosts John and Jackie Melfi as they dive into the dynamics of opposite personalities in consensual non-monogamy and swinging relationships. In this candid discussion, the couple explores how their own introvert-extrovert dynamic plays out in their relationship and at their…
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Debunking Myths About the Swinger Lifestyle | John & Jackie | OpenLove101 Is swinging just cheating in disguise? In this video, John and Jackie from OpenLove101.com bust common myths about the swinging lifestyle—starting with one of the biggest misconceptions: that swinging equals infidelity. They explain how transparency, trust, and emotional conn…
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Beyond the Bedroom: Exploring the Non-Sexual Benefits of Swinging
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21:07Join hosts John and Jackie Melfi as they dive into the often-overlooked non-sexual benefits of being in an open relationship. With over 20 years of combined experience and as owners of the Colette Swingers Clubs, the couple shares their personal insights on how consensual non-monogamy has transformed their relationship beyond the bedroom. In this e…
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How the Swinger Lifestyle Transformed Our Relationship
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7:25How the Swinger Lifestyle Transformed Our Relationship | John & Jackie | OpenLove101 In this candid conversation, John and Jackie from OpenLove101.com open up about how embracing the swinger lifestyle has reshaped their views on sex, love, and connection. Jackie shares her personal journey from monogamy to empowerment through sexual exploration, wh…
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Beyond the Myth: Insider Perspectives on the Swinger Lifestyle with Courtney
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37:35Join hosts John and Jackie Melfi as they welcome their marketing guru Courtney on camera for the first time to discuss common misconceptions about swingers clubs. With Courtney providing a monogamous perspective on the lifestyle, this episode offers valuable insights for both newcomers and those curious about what really happens at Colette Swingers…
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How We Talk to Our Kids About Open Relationships
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6:26How do you explain non-traditional relationships to your children? In this thoughtful video, John and Jackie from OpenLove101.com open up about parenting while living an open lifestyle. With eight kids between them, they share how they’ve approached honest, age-appropriate conversations about love, trust, and relationship diversity—without overshar…
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This or That: Exploring Consensual Non-Monogamy
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25:21Join hosts John and Jackie Melfi in this fun and revealing episode where they play "This or That: Lifestyle Edition"! The couple behind colette Swingers Clubs and the award-winning openlove101.com blog share their preferences on various aspects of open relationships and swinging. In this candid discussion, John and Jackie answer questions about ful…
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Swingers Lifestyle & New Way of Looking at Jealousy
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6:01Jealousy in Open Relationships: Fix It or Ignore It? | John & Jackie | OpenLove101 What do jealousy and a broken refrigerator have in common? In this thoughtful video, John and Jackie from OpenLove101.com use a clever analogy to explore how people handle jealousy—whether they choose to fix it, ignore it, or live with it. Through personal stories an…
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The Psychology of Open Relationships: Insights from a Sex Therapist
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40:43Join hosts John and Jackie Melfi, the force behind colette Swingers Clubs and the award-winning blog openlove101.com, as they dive deep into relationship psychology with licensed professional counselor Dr. Alyssa Webb-McCune. This enlightening conversation explores various relationship models, from traditional monogamy to swinging and polyamory. Dr…
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What Is Compersion? Exploring Joy in Non-Monogamous Relationships
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6:32Can you feel joy when your partner finds happiness with someone else? In this video, John and Jackie from OpenLove101.com dive into the concept of compersion—the emotional opposite of jealousy—and how it can create deeper connection, trust, and personal growth in non-monogamous relationships. They share their own experiences, discuss challenges roo…
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How to Reconnect After a Lifestyle Misstep In this heartfelt episode, John and Jackie dive deep into the emotional side of open relationships—exploring the joys, challenges, and growth that come from forming emotional connections beyond a primary partner. They share how maintaining friendships, embracing vulnerability, and communicating openly can …
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Curious about exploring a swingers club but not sure how to bring it up with your partner? In this video, John and Jackie from OpenLove101.com share personal stories and thoughtful advice on approaching the lifestyle with someone who may feel hesitant. Filmed in New Orleans during Mardi Gras, they discuss common fears, misconceptions, and the impor…
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Boundaries vs Rules: The Key to Open Relationship Success
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47:21Curious about the secrets behind open relationship success? Ever thought about how boundaries and rules can transform your love life? Let’s explore it together! In this exciting episode, we chat with lifestyle coach Diana Ryan about what it takes to build trust, intimacy, and open communication in a consensual non-monogamous relationship. Whether y…
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Jealousy in Relationships: How to Talk About It
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9:56Jealousy in Relationships: How to Talk About It | John & Jackie | OpenLove101 Jealousy isn’t just one emotion—it’s a mix of fear, anger, and vulnerability. In this video, John and Jackie from OpenLove101.com dive into the emotional complexity of jealousy and how couples can navigate it with open, honest communication. They share personal stories an…
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How Single Men Can Succeed in Swingers Clubs
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7:03How Single Men Can Succeed in Swingers Clubs | Tips from John & Jackie | OpenLove101 Filmed during Mardi Gras in New Orleans, John and Jackie from OpenLove101.com dive into what single men need to know before stepping into swingers clubs like Colette. From respectful etiquette to building genuine connections, they offer practical advice for creatin…
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Breaking Myths About Swinging: A Unicorn’s Perspective
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35:29Curious about an open lifestyle with your partner? Ever thought about what it’s like to embrace intimacy, trust, and communication in new ways? Let’s explore it together! 🌟 In this eye-opening conversation, John and Jackie from OpenLove101 chat with Black Coco, a proud unicorn in the swinging world, as she shares her incredible journey and breaks c…
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Swingers Lifestyle: Working Past Uncomfortable Feelings
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8:31In this candid conversation, John and Jackie from Openlove101 dive into how relationship dynamics evolve over time—especially in open and non-traditional partnerships. They share real-life experiences of how initial excitement around adventurous intimacy (like inviting others into the bedroom) can shift into feelings of jealousy and insecurity as e…
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The Hidden Truth About Partner Jealousy I Finally Discovered
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16:51Discover the hidden truth about partner jealousy in open relationships! Ever struggled with feelings of control when your partner is with someone else? In this raw and honest video, I share my personal journey from experiencing intense anxiety to finding peace and excitement in open relationships. Want to know how I transformed those uncomfortable …
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In today's throwback episode, John and Jackie talk about visiting a swingers club as a single woman! They discuss expectations, ways to break the ice, and how to make the most of your experience inside of a lifestyle club! Curious about an open lifestyle with your partner?…Let’s explore it together :)…
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5 Brutal Myths About Open Relationships DEBUNKED 🔍
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17:41Debunking 5 brutal myths about open relationships! 🔍 Curious about the lifestyle? Let's explore together! Ever thought STDs were inevitable? Or that open relationships always fail? Think again! We're busting common misconceptions and revealing the truth about swinging, intimacy, and trust in non-monogamous partnerships. Discover the secrets of succ…
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Dealing With Fear And Jealousy In Open Relationships
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9:10In this throwback episode, John and Jackie talk about dealing with fear and jealousy in an Open Relationship. Do you throw in the towel and call it quits? Or figure out a game plan on what you can do in the future if it happens again and how to move forward from here. Curious about an open lifestyle with your partner?…Let’s explore it together :)…
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The Truth About Non-Monogamy: My 40-Year Journey
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23:36Curious about non-monogamy? Join us for a fascinating journey through 40 years of open relationships! Ever wondered how someone's upbringing shapes their view on sex and love? John shares his eye-opening experiences from Catholic school rebel to swinger club owner. You'll be surprised by his candid stories of threesomes, roller rink hookups, and pe…
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Swinger Relationships and Coming Out To Your Kids
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11:23In this throwback episode, John and Jackie talk about "Coming Out" to your kids. They discuss the intense feelings, navigating having an intimate conversation with you children, and knowing when it is the right time to tell them. Curious about an open lifestyle with your partner?…Let’s explore it together :)…
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Our First Lifestyle Experience: Raw and Unfiltered 🔥
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22:24Our First Lifestyle Experience: Raw and Unfiltered 🔥 Ever wondered what it's like to dive into the open lifestyle? Join us for some juicy stories! Curious about threesomes, swinging, or open relationships? We're spilling all the details! From our very first encounters to cringe-worthy moments, we're holding nothing back. You'll hear about unexpecte…
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Overcoming Fear in Open Relationships A Different POV
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7:46In this throwback episode, John and Jackie talk about Overcoming Fear in Open Relationships (A Different POV)! They discuss the early stages of the relationship, how you are taught to feel, when to go ahead, and when to pump the breaks! Curious about an open lifestyle with your partner?…Let’s explore it together :)…
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The TRUTH About Swingers Clubs Most People Don't Know
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13:17The TRUTH about swingers clubs? It's not what you think! Ever wondered what really goes on behind those doors? Surprise - it's not just for swingers! Curious about an open lifestyle with your partner? Let's explore it together :) Discover how these clubs offer a safe, respectful space for everyone - even if you're not looking to swap! Tune in to le…
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Swingers Lifestyle - Self Empathy and Giving Yourself a Break
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10:09In this throwback episode, John and Jackie talk about the self care through self empathy and giving yourself a break. They discuss the intense feelings, both positive and negative, that come with being in the lifestyle and how to manage both sides of the coin! Curious about an open lifestyle with your partner?…Let’s explore it together :)…
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The Ugly Truth About Open Relationships: Not Cheating
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19:18The ugly truth about open relationships? It's NOT cheating! Join John and Jackie as they tackle the biggest misconception about ethical non-monogamy head-on. Ever wonder why people automatically assume open relationships are about cheating? We're breaking down the real difference between consensual non-monogamy and infidelity. Discover how trust, h…
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Swinging Relationship Issues Defusing Arguments
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8:25In this throwback episode, John and Jackie discuss how to defuse arguments within the lifestyle. They discuss how most arguments are rooted in fear of the unknown and how to find a way to work through that fear in order to communicate with your partner. Curious about an open lifestyle with your partner?…Let’s explore it together :)…
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Celebrating 10 Years of OpenLove101: Reflections, Growth, and Gratitude
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19:54John and Jackie commemorate a decade of OpenLove101, reflecting on their journey in the world of consensual non-monogamy advocacy. They share memorable moments, challenges, and triumphs while emphasizing the growth of their community and its impact on relationships worldwide. From their early days blogging to becoming prominent voices in their fiel…
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In this throwback episode, John and Jackie talk about the Swinging Lifestyle Highs and Lows! They discuss the intense feelings, both positive and negative, that come with being in the lifestyle and how to manage both sides of the coin! Curious about an open lifestyle with your partner?…Let’s explore it together :)…
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Hotel Takeover Tips: Everything You Need to Know
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22:20In this episode, John and Jackie dive deep into the fascinating world of hotel takeovers and conventions in the lifestyle community. They share essential tips for preparation, settingboundaries, meeting new people, and maximizing your experience at these unique events. Whether you're a seasoned attendee or considering your first event, this episode…
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Visiting Swinger Clubs and Dealing With Peer Pressure
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7:20In this throwback episode, John and Jackie discuss dealing with the pressure of visiting a Swingers Club. They most common answer for why people do not go to a swingers club is because they feel an overwhelming pressure to either find a play partner or fit in with the crowd. Today, John and Jackie discuss these fears and more! Tune into learn how t…
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Visiting Swingers Club and Embracing Your Bi-Sexuality
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9:43In this throwback episode, John and Jackie discuss feel confident in embracing your bi-sexuality while attending a swingers club! They discuss the change over time with people embracing their sexuality at swinger clubs. Tune into learn how to handle these situations with grace and maintain respectful, loving communication.…
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This is Why Non Monogamous Relationships Fails
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10:00In this episode, we tackle a difficult but important topic: "What happens when couples in the swinger lifestyle go through a breakup or divorce?" We dive into the unique challenges faced by those who continue to attend the same parties, events, and clubs after their relationship ends. We also discuss the double standards people face in open relatio…
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What is Swinging? The Definition Of Swinging
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9:33In this throwback episode, John and Jackie discuss the definition of Swinging and what is really means! Is Swinging what mainstream media paints it to be or is there something more to it? Tune into learn how to handle these situations with grace and maintain respectful, loving communication.By John and Jackie Melfi
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What Is Your Relationship Model: 14 Different Varieties of Open Relationships
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23:14Join John and Jackie in this engaging episode as they dive into the diverse world of open relationships. Today they're exploring 14 different varieties of open and swinger relationships. They discuss the nuances and dynamics of each relationship model, shedding light on terms like ethical non-monogamy, polyamory, and kitchen table polyamory. Whethe…
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In this throwback episode, John and Jackie discuss the most common fear they hear from other's in the lifestyle. The Fear of Being Honest Tune into learn how to handle these situations with grace and maintain respectful, loving communication.By John and Jackie Melfi
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Building Up to the Moment: Navigating Playtime with Ease
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7:32In today’s episode, we're diving into a question from one of our Openlove101+ members: "How do you smoothly transition to playtime with another couple at a club?" This is a scenario many couples face, and we’re here to offer some practical advice and share our personal experiences. Whether it's your first time or you're a seasoned pro, we’ll discus…
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How Different Cultures Embrace the Swinging Lifestyle
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7:38In this throwback episode, John and Jackie discuss how the Swinging Lifestyle is different in different cultures! They discuss the difference and similarities they have experienced first hand on their travels living in the lifestyle. Tune into learn how to handle these situations with grace and maintain respectful, loving communication.…
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Managing Boundaries in Open Relationships: Communicating and Respecting Limits
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9:36In this episode, John and Jackie are tackling some tough questions from their viewers about navigating boundaries in open relationships. "What do you do when your partner is interested in playing with another couple, but you're not?" And how do you handle shifting boundaries when one partner isn't comfortable with the change? John and Jackie share …
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Swingers Lifestyle And The Subject Of Consent
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8:54In this throwback episode, John and Jackie discuss how the topic of "consent" has changed over the years. They discuss the importance of both nonverbal and verbal consent, respecting someone's answer if they consent or not, and how everyone should respect consent in any situation. Tune into learn how to handle these situations with grace and mainta…
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Keeping It Spicy: How New Experiences Can Revitalize Your Relationship
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7:56In this episode, John and Jackie dive into the exciting world of keeping relationships spicy and vibrant. They explore how introducing new experiences, whether it's through food, activities, or even new people, can bring a fresh spark to long-term relationships. They discuss the importance of novelty in maintaining intimacy and connection, sharing …
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Join John and Jackie as they discuss how the relationship advice they give for non-monogamy helps their monogamous friends in their relationship! Whether you're new to the lifestyle or a seasoned participant, this episode is packed with enlightening information and plenty of laughs. Tune in and expand your swinger vocabulary with us!…
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