Best Subby Podcasts (2025)

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Question Time Returns: The QS Career Clinic (EP 236) 37:13

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In this lively episode, Chris joins Paul again to tackle YOUR questions in the return of Question Time. From the realities of AI in construction to the headaches of back-to-back contracts, we dive into the heart of what QSs are really facing on site. Highlights include: How AI is transforming tender analysis and improving subcontractor engagement. …

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The Building Safety Act: How QSs Need to Procure Differently (EP 235) 43:10

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In this episode, Paul is joined by Andrea White, Independent Fire Engineer, Chartered Safety Professional, and one of the Top 100 Most Influential Women in Construction (2023). Andrea is also the founder of Women Talking Fire and a leading voice on fire safety strategy in a post-Grenfell landscape. Together, Paul and Andrea unpack the critical impl…

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0150 Female Led Relationships: Pegging, Swinging & Parenting: A Campfire Conversation 48:50

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Sadly I cannot respond directly to your text, so please Email me! Look… I tried to keep this one focused. I really did. But when you’re sitting around a fire at kinky summer camp with my subbie, Carli, and Bill (and a few surprise voices), things take on a life of their own. This episode is all about the chaos and connection of progressive swinging…

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Procurement Reimagined: Building Better Supply Chain Relationships at Guildmore (EP 234) 1:17:16

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In this episode, Paul is joined by Kelvin Maye, Group Commercial Director at Guildmore Ltd, a £100m+ main contractor with an impressive growth trajectory. Kelvin shares the story of his journey from graduate QS to group leadership and how Guildmore is actively reshaping its commercial and procurement strategies. They explore how Kelvin’s team is un…

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0149 Female Led Relationships: Peg-tember, Spanking, and the Hodgepodge of FLR Life 44:43

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Sadly I cannot respond directly to your text, so please Email me! ///// RE-RELEASE ///// We're kicking off Peg-tember with a bang—and a paddle. This re-released episode dives into the often misunderstood world of pegging and spanking in female-led relationships, right in time for Labor Day weekend (again). MY subbie and I unpack feedback from TikTo…

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The QS Career Isn’t Linear — And That’s a Good Thing (EP 233) 46:29

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In episode 233, Paul welcomes Alice Graham, a chartered Quantity Surveyor turned Solution Specialist at Procore Technologies. Together, they unpack Alice’s career journey — from studying QS at Heriot-Watt University to working in consultancy, and eventually pivoting into construction technology. Alice shares how her “skills inventory” helped her re…

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0506 Female Led Relationships: The Importance of Money Matters 10:28

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Sadly I cannot respond directly to your text, so please Email me! Today we’re diving into one of the most overlooked—but absolutely crucial—parts of any FLR dynamic: financial control. Who holds the money? Who decides how it gets spent? And how do we build structure around money without turning it into a battlefield? Spoiler alert: I hold the debit…

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Question Time Returns: The QS Career Clinic – From Roy Keane to Red Flags in Procurement (EP 232) 33:20

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Question Time is back — and it’s better than ever. After a brief baby-related break (sorry about skipping 224.1 and 228.1), Paul and Chris are back to answer your burning questions about quantity surveying, procurement, contracts, and even… sport. In this episode, we cover: 🧠 How to build a standout QS career — including which contract type to mast…

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0148 Female Led Relationships: Staying Kinky with Kids in the House 30:18

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Sadly I cannot respond directly to your text, so please Email me! ///// RE-RELEASE ///// This one is real talk about parenting, boundaries, and keeping your kink alive when your life is anything but quiet So… you’re kinky and you have kids? Welcome to the club. In this episode, I’m diving into something that every kink-positive parent wrestles with…

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QS to Software Founder: Why Construction Needs to Work Smarter, Not Harder (EP 231) 50:23

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In this special episode of Own the Build, Paul is a guest on Ross Griffin's Inventing Construction podcast. The conversation dives deep into Paul’s journey from subcontractor QS to co-founder of C-Link, a software platform built to overhaul procurement and supply chain management in construction. Paul shares raw and honest reflections on why QSs ar…

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Can AI Empower the Subcontractor? (EP 230) 33:25

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In the final part of the Contract Clarity Series, Paul is joined once again by the brilliantly practical contract expert Sarah Fox to explore the future of contracting in construction. They dive into the rise of AI, what it means for lawyers and quantity surveyors, and how contracting must evolve in a digitised world. From empowering junior QSs to …

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Clause-Dumping and Risk Wars: Why Subbies Deserve Better (EP 229) 32:12

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In this episode, titled Subcontracting Simplified, Paul and Sarah Fox go deep into what’s really broken in subcontracting — and what can be done to fix it. From clause-dumping and risk overload to overlooked meeting minutes and unreadable contracts, this is a frank conversation about the challenges subcontractors face and the behaviours that hold t…

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0147 Female Led Relationships: How (and Why) to Spank Your Husband 33:25

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Sadly I cannot respond directly to your text, so please Email me! /////RE-RELEASE///// Let’s be honest—spanking your husband might sound like something out of a cartoon fetish meme or a punishment from the 1950s. But today? We’re unpacking the truth: spanking can be connection, structure, release, and hell yes—pleasure. In this episode, I walk thro…

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10 Commercial Mistakes I Made Early in My Career — And What I’d Do Differently (EP 228) 30:25

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In this reflective episode of Own the Build, Paul is joined by Chris Barber to dive deep into the early mistakes they made as young Quantity Surveyors — and what they’ve learned from them since. If you’ve ever sat in a final account meeting feeling underprepared, avoided a difficult conversation with a subcontractor, or been caught off guard by a v…

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0505 Female Led Relationships: “Dominance When Life is a Shitshow” 29:42

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Sadly I cannot respond directly to your text, so please Email me! Chaos, Chastity, Confidence… and a Whole Lot of Honesty And NOT a re-release!! Life lately? An absolute fucking circus. But I’m back—with a raw, unfiltered brain-dump about what it means to hold power when your whole world feels like it's spinning off its axis. In this episode, I tak…

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Capping Your Risk – Why Every Contractor Needs to Limit Their Liability (EP 227) 31:21

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The Contract Clarity Series with Sarah Fox (Part 2) In this second instalment of the Contract Clarity Series, Paul is once again joined by construction’s contract queen, Sarah Fox — contract strategist, author, and keynote speaker — to explore a topic every subcontractor, QS, and contractor needs to understand: liability. Sarah breaks down the risk…

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0146 Female Led Relationships: Let’s Talk About Talking - Communication in FLR 35:46

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Sadly I cannot respond directly to your text, so please Email me! We’re back from multiple vacations, we’ve battled bad internet, shady bank activity, and a child-filled Uber—and now we’re hitting you with one of the most essential (but least sexy) parts of a Female-Led Relationship: communication. This week, I dive into a PsychCentral article abou…

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When It’s Time to Walk Away: How to Terminate a Contract Without Blowing Everything Up (EP 226) 30:52

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In the first instalment of our 4-part Contract Clarity Series with Sarah Fox — contract strategist, speaker, and author of Small Works Contracts in Just 500 Words — Paul dives into one of the trickiest, most nerve-racking topics in construction: contract termination. Termination often strikes fear into contractors and lawyers alike — but it doesn’t…

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0145 Female Led Relationships: Chat Time with Miss Krystine (and her breathless subbie) 21:19

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Sadly I cannot respond directly to your text, so please Email me! Recorded live(ish) from a Skoolie meetup in the Upper Peninsula of Michigan, this episode is part nature walk, part therapy, and part “what-the-hell-are-we-even-talking-about?” (Answer: everything that matters.) My subbie and I open up about what it really looks like to live the FLR …

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The Habit of Excellence – What Construction Can Learn from Army Leadership (EP 225) 50:55

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In today’s episode, Paul is joined by Langley Sharp, former Head of the Centre for Army Leadership at Sandhurst, Commanding Officer of the Parachute Regiment, and now MD of Frontier Leadership. With over 20 years’ experience leading teams in the British Army—including tours in Iraq and Afghanistan—Langley brings a rare and proven insight into how l…

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0144 Female Led Relationships: What to Do When the Power Dynamic Feels Off in Your FLR 25:01

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Sadly I cannot respond directly to your text, so please Email me! Feeling stuck in a rut with your partner? You’re not broken. You’re not alone. And you don’t need to burn it all down to light a spark again. This is one of those campfire-style chats, where I show up solo, pour some coffee, and talk about what happens when your relationship starts f…

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Redefining the QS Role: Strategy, Influence, and Impact (EP 224) 31:34

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In this episode, Paul Heming and Chris Barber challenge the view of Quantity Surveyors as mere cost controllers — and makes the case for QSs to step up as strategic commercial advisors. Through personal stories (including a classic misunderstanding in Italy), Paul explores why QSs are often misunderstood, and what it takes to shift from passive cos…

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0143 Female Led Relationships: What Is Subspace? A Real FLR Couple Talks Through It 44:28

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Sadly I cannot respond directly to your text, so please Email me! Okay, full transparency? I don’t fully understand subspace. Not in the technical, kink-encyclopedia way. And that’s exactly why we hit record on this one—from our camper, with my subbie by my side—to talk through what it means for us. In this episode, we unpack what subspace looks li…

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Settlement Strategies: How to Resolve Construction Conflicts Before They Spiral (EP 223) 53:41

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In today’s episode, Paul is joined by Stefan Panourgias, a seasoned commercial consultant and specialist in construction settlements. With a career spanning London, New York, Malaysia, and the Middle East, Stephen has built a reputation for resolving disputes before they derail projects — from forensic delay analysis to strategic negotiation with t…

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0142 Female Led Relationships: Coffee Talk about Pegging, Cock Cages, and Lace Panties 24:58

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Sadly I cannot respond directly to your text, so please Email me! Pour a cup (or spike it if you need to), because this week is straight-up coffee talk with Miss Krystine—raw, unfiltered, fast, and unapologetically real. From my recent release from TikTok jail to some very real conversations about body image, male chastity, cuckolding, and swinging…

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From Labourer to Leader: Why Every QS Should Spend More Time on Site (EP 222) 41:15

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In today’s episode, Paul is joined by Stephen Harpur, Managing Director at Sharpur Consultancy – a Chartered Construction Manager with more than 25 years in the industry. Stephen’s journey is anything but typical: he started as a labourer, worked every trade you can think of, and went on to lead some of the most complex, multimillion-pound construc…

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0141 Female Led Relationships: Chastity 101: What it is and Why Women Love it! 41:10

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Sadly I cannot respond directly to your text, so please Email me! ///// RE-RELEASE ///// This week, I’m taking a deep dive into one of the most misunderstood and powerful kinks in the lifestyle—male chastity. Why do men lock their dicks in cages? Why do women love it? Is it about control? Humiliation? Focus? Feminization? Yes. And no. And… let’s ta…

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0140 Female Led Relationships: How to Try Pegging Without Shame, Panic, or Pulling a Hamstring 40:27

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Sadly I cannot respond directly to your text, so please Email me! ///// RE-RELEASE ///// Okay, buckle up—because we’re going back to my favorite subject: pegging. In this episode, I dive deep into why pegging is still such a taboo topic for so many men—and why that needs to change. From sex myths to prostate truths, from orgasm intensity to emotion…

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From Oil to Off-Grid: How One Village Set a New Standard for UK Housing (EP 221) 50:03

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In the studio today, Paul is joined by Emma Fletcher, Low Carbon Homes Director at Octopus Energy, Chair of the RICS Residential Professional Group Panel, and a lifelong innovator in residential development. From leading housing associations to helping an entire village go 100% off oil, Emma is redefining what a modern home should be. Register your…

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0139 Female Led Relationships: Parenting While Kinky: Honest Conversations with Teenagers 22:09

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Sadly I cannot respond directly to your text, so please Email me! Okay—this is the one I knew I’d eventually record. Today I’m talking about how I talk to my kids about my lifestyle: about FLR, submission, my work, nudity, consent, and body positivity. This is not a guidebook. It’s a real, messy, and honest look at what it’s like raising a teenager…

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0138 Female Led Relationships: Polyamory and Jealousy in FLRs 21:44

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Sadly I cannot respond directly to your text, so please Email me! ///// RE-RELEASE ///// I'm recording from camp this week, and this one is a full-blown Krystine-style coffee chat (minus the coffee). Between massaging strangers and fending off my "adorable herd of children", I share the questions, themes, and emotional truths that came up during my…

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0137 Female Led Relationships: (When You Lose an Episode) 0:29

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Sadly I cannot respond directly to your text, so please Email me! This is just a placeholder for episode 37 of season 1. My subby has scoured our drives for any possible lable for this episode to no avail. However, if he happens to find it down the road, this audio will be replaced and this episode will be restored. We are SO SORRY!!! Support the s…

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Question Time #6: Your Construction and QS Challenges Answered (EP 220.1) 34:49

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In our latest listener-driven Question Time episode, Paul Heming and Chris Barber return to tackle your commercial, contractual, and career questions—this time covering subcontracting from both sides of the fence, AI’s impact on QS, and how the industry needs to rethink risk allocation. Register your interest for the Strategy Summit Event at the Ch…

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Estimators vs QSs: Can We Finally Work as One Team? (EP 220) 1:07:32

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Register your interest for the Strategy Summit Event at the Churchill War Rooms on June 26th here - https://c-link.com/C-Link-Churchill-War-Rooms-Event --------------------- Today, Paul’s guest is Mike Ashcroft, Estimator, Co-Founder of EstimateOne, and now Merger Partner at C-Link. This episode is a conversation years in the making — one driven by…

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THE MERGER SPECIAL: Built by QSs, Built by Estimators: Why C-Link and E1 Joined Forces 1:01:39

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The Merger Special: Why C-Link and EstimateOne Joined Forces to Change Construction Register your interest for the Strategy Summit Event at the Churchill War Rooms on June 26th here - https://c-link.com/C-Link-Churchill-War-Rooms-Event In this special Thursday edition of Own the Build, Paul Heming is joined by all four co-founders from C-Link and E…

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0136 Female Led Relationships: 5 Ways to Build Your Domme’s Confidence in an FLR 27:12

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Sadly I cannot respond directly to your text, so please Email me! ///// RE-RELEASE ///// This week, I’m breaking down something that every submissive man needs to hear: how to actually support your Domme’s confidence in real life. Not through fantasy. Not with surprise cages. But with mindset, consistency, and actual effort. We talk about what real…

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Breaking the ‘Cycle of Doom’: How Subcontractors Can Take Back Control of Their Business (EP 219) 42:44

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Register your interest for the Strategy Summit Event at the Churchill War Rooms on June 26th here - https://c-link.com/C-Link-Churchill-War-Rooms-Event --------------------- Today, Paul’s guest is Cian Brennan, Founder of Quantum Contract Solutions and now the author of his new book, The Subcontractor's Edge. Cian’s first appearance on the show was…

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Psychic Entropy: The Silent Killer of Leadership Teams in Construction (EP 218) 51:27

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Today, Paul’s guest is Dave Stitt, a Chartered Civil Engineer, Fellow of the CIOB, and one of the UK’s most respected leadership coaches in construction. With nearly five decades in the industry, Dave has worked with some of the country’s biggest firms, leading transformation programmes and coaching leadership teams at the highest level. In this ep…

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0135 Female Led Relationships: Road Trips, Restraints, and Relationship Real Talk 38:08

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Sadly I cannot respond directly to your text, so please Email me! /////RE-RELEASE///// Welcome to episode 35—recorded straight from the road! This week, my subbie and I are taking you along for the ride (literally) as we unpack the fun, flirty, and flat-out functional ways to spice up your FLR dynamic during a road trip. But as usual, we also go de…

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0134 Female Led Relationships: What Social Media Gets Wrong About FLR 23:20

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Sadly I cannot respond directly to your text, so please Email me! /////RE-RELEASE///// This week, I’m responding to all the commentary—good, bad, and WTF—that’s been rolling in across TikTok, Twitter, and everywhere else FLR gets people in their feelings. From accusations of cheating and failed marriages to questions about my dynamic with my subbie…

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Mental Toughness = Commercial Power: Win the Hard Meetings (EP 217) 55:57

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Today, Paul’s guest is Dan Bradley, Managing Director at BPM Project Management in New Zealand and Founding Director at ConTech Solutions, a business focused on streamlining construction through digital transformation across Australia and New Zealand. In this episode, Paul and Dan explore a bold and under-discussed topic in construction: mental tou…

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0133 Female Led Relationships: Cuckolding, Chastity, and Choosing Your Dynamic 27:46

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Sadly I cannot respond directly to your text, so please Email me! /////RE-RELEASE ////// Let’s keep this cuckolding conversation rolling. This week, I dig deeper into the emotional side of this lifestyle—what happens after you say yes, how to build a dynamic that works for YOU, and why the hell so many people on the internet think this ruins relati…

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Question Time #5: Your Construction and QS Challenges Answered (EP 216.1) 33:38

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In our latest listener-driven Question Time episode, Paul Heming and Chris Barber dive into your pressing Quantity Surveying and construction challenges. From late payments to navigating design disputes, this episode is packed with actionable advice for industry professionals. 📅 Reminder: We’ll be hosting this Q&A episode once a month – send your q…

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The Immune System of the Project: How QSs Can Protect Margin and Spot Risk Early (EP 216) 52:11

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Today, Paul is joined for the third time by Ray Mellor-Pike, a QS and Managing Director at RMP Consulting. Last time, Ray shared how FBI hostage negotiation tactics inform his approach to final account meetings. This time, he returns with another big idea: The Project Manager is the head of the project, but the Quantity Surveyor is the neck. Togeth…

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0132 Female Led Relationships: So Your Partner’s Into Cuckolding… Now What? 31:21

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Sadly I cannot respond directly to your text, so please Email me! ///// RE-RELEASE ///// Let’s talk about the “C-word.” No, not that one—cuckolding. This week I’m unpacking the emotional side of cuckolding from the woman’s perspective. Not porn, not fantasy—but what it actually feels like when your partner confesses this desire, and how the hell yo…

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0131 Female Led Relationships – When Dominants Collide: My First Cuckolding Experience 17:08

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Sadly I cannot respond directly to your text, so please Email me! ///// RE-RELEASE ///// This week is a little different—I'm giving you a short storytime episode straight from the heart (and the hot mess that followed). I’m talking about one of my very first cuckolding experiences, what went wrong, how I felt, and what I learned from it all. Spoile…

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0130 Female Led Relationships: The Emotional Shift in FLR: From Overwhelm to Ownership 35:36

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Sadly I cannot respond directly to your text, so please Email me! ///// RE-RELEASE ///// This Episode, I’m diving deep into one of the best blog posts I've ever read about Female-Led Relationships—The Cheese, written by John Dalton on the Dom Think Tank blog. It’s real, raw, and totally validated a lot of what I’ve lived through in this journey: th…

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The Softer Side of Contract Management: Lessons from the Real World (EP 215) 49:09

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Today, Paul’s guest is Jamie Mills, Managing Director at Signature Build, to explore the often overlooked but crucial human side of contract management in construction. With a career that began in IT before transitioning into infrastructure project management and construction leadership, Jamie brings a unique perspective on how emotional intelligen…

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Mastering FIDIC: How to Handle Claims, Payments & Disputes Like a Pro (EP 214) 45:44

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Today, Paul’s guest is Frans Taljaard, FIDIC Contracts Manager at Gleeds in Lisbon and founder of Clause 20, a consultancy focused on FIDIC training and contract management. Frans has extensive experience managing FIDIC contracts across Europe and the Middle East, supporting contractors in claims, payments, and disputes. 🔹 Understanding FIDIC Contr…

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0129 Female Led Relationships: Tips for Submissive Men Who Want to Do It Right 53:31

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Sadly I cannot respond directly to your text, so please Email me! /////. RE-RELEASE. ///// So, what actually makes a good subbie? This week, I’m joined by my favorite human—my subbie, my husband, my chaos co-pilot—for a raw, cozy, occasionally ridiculous chat from our camper (yep, it’s cold, the lights are flickering, and we’re doing our best). We …