Best SelfControl From Podcasts (2026)

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Legacy Love 17:42

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12h ago17:42

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History remembers Lewis and Clark—but not the parents who shaped them. This episode explores the unseen hands behind lasting impact, asking what kind of legacy love actually endures. Is it comfort, or courage? Achievement, or preparation? A story about influence, faith, and why the most important work we do may never carry our name. Send us a text …

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Deadly and Non-Deadly Force; A Quote From Master Hess 24:35

8h ago24:35

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I want to start by mentioning that Master Hess has books for you to buy. An easy search brought them up in both Amazon and Thriftbooks under Joseph C. Hess. In Master Kelljchian's 365 Days of the Warrior book, he has a quote from Master Hess and today we discuss it. Speaking of Master Hess, we did an entire episode on Master Hess. Here's the link: …

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Your Divorce Lawyer Can't Help You If You Don't Understand This 7:16

7d ago7:16

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There's an outer game and an inner game in divorce. Your lawyer plays one. You play the other. And yours matters more. Getting Divorced Without Losing Your Mind: A New York City divorce attorney reveals how divorce really works and the pivotal choices most people never see coming. Leave a voice mail Get the book About your host Disclaimer This podc…

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Subtractive Love 16:01

9d ago16:01

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What does Southwest Airlines, a six-month podcast hiatus, and Jesus’ words to Martha have in common? This episode explores why adding more to your life may be quietly costing you what matters most—and how learning to subtract might be the most loving decision you make. Send us a text "Remember, you are loved, so go, love better!"…

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Noticing the Extraordinary in the Ordinary 24:17

8d ago24:17

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We' were so lucky to be joined by Shelby today to discuss this great Zen concept. We had a blast and hopefully you will too. Shelby has been on a few times. I think her first appearance may have been when we were celebrating our 25th episode! Here's the link: https://www.buzzsprout.com/477379/episodes/3383908 Thanks Shelby. Zen philosophy is behind…

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Start Here 2026: Getting Divorced Without Losing Your Mind 12:12

14d ago12:12

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Feeling overwhelmed by your divorce? Start here. In this episode, Corey Shapiro shares how to slow down, set boundaries, and think clearly before emotions or bad advice make things worse. Getting Divorced Without Losing Your Mind: A New York City divorce attorney reveals how divorce really works and the pivotal choices most people never see coming.…

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Part 2 - Comparing 3 Self-Defense Books 24:40

8d ago24:40

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Last week we started this discussion on Self-Defense books. This week we add a third book to the mix. It's called The Gift of Fear. Sensei Tracey joins us again as we get deeper into the subject. We have discussed self-defense before on the program. Check out last weeks episode notes for more. This week I decided to tag an episode on Female warrior…

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The Emotionally Savvy Divorce with Katherine Miller 37:18

20d ago37:18

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Key takeaway: Your emotions are not the problem in divorce. How you use them is. Most divorce books say to leave your emotions at the door. Katherine Miller, author of The Emotionally Savvy Divorce, has a different take: your emotions can be your most valuable negotiation tool if you know how to work with them instead of fighting them. Katherine an…

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Comparing Three Self-Defense Books - A Self-Defense Palooza! 21:28

23d ago21:28

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Sensei Tracey joins us today to discuss 3 different Self-defense books. Mine, Master Kelljchian's and a man named Gavin de Becker who wrote a book called The Gift of Fear. Sensei Tracey has been on so many times. One that I love was back in 2021 when we talked about the Tanto (the knife). https://www.buzzsprout.com/477379/episodes/8061673 Also, we …

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How Ordinary Faith Builds Extraordinary Legacy w/ Randy & Joanne Cole 54:52

26d ago54:52

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Legacy isn’t built in moments of spotlight — it’s built in the quiet, faithful choices made day after day. In this special season finale crossover of Men of Faith and Project Sisterhood, Caleb and Chrissy Cole sit down with Caleb’s parents, Randy and Joanne Cole, for an honest, moving conversation about faith, family, and the kind of legacy that tr…

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Divorce Isn't Just an Ending. It's a Reckoning 18:22

28d ago18:22

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Season 6 finale. Five truths to carry forward: clarity over control, balance over fairness, time as currency, emotions that pass, and progress over perfection. Getting Divorced Without Losing Your Mind: A New York City divorce attorney reveals how divorce really works and the pivotal choices most people never see coming. Leave a voice mail Get the …

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Perseverance- Our Motto the Last Few Weeks 22:40

22d ago22:40

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Well we've run into both medical and technical difficulties this last few weeks. Don't worry, no one is on the verge of death. Everyone is ok. When life interrupted the flow of our work, we dug in and decided to listen to this old episode. It made us smile and we hope it makes you smile too. Stay tuned till the end for a bonus giggles (or groans). …

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God Won’t Bless What You Won’t Steward w/ Project Sisterhood 40:37

1M ago40:37

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Before we ask God to bless what’s next, we need to steward what’s right now. In this crossover conversation, Pastor Caleb and Chrissy Cole unpack what the Bible teaches about stewardship — not just with money, but with time, relationships, leadership, gifts, parenting, and spiritual discipline. From Christmas budgets to Amazon boxes, generosity to …

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You Don't Need to Earn Rest 11:58

1M ago11:58

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You don't earn rest. You need it to think clearly. Corey explains why self-care isn't optional during divorce and how to start small. Getting Divorced Without Losing Your Mind: A New York City divorce attorney reveals how divorce really works and the pivotal choices most people never see coming. Leave a voice mail Get the book About your host Discl…

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Laughs, Out Takes and Stories 22:01

29d ago22:01

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Yay! It's time to revisit our great guests, stories and plenty of mistakes from the past 6 months. I'll tag as many episodes as I can below. Did you hear our 2 episodes with the voice of the podcast (Sensei Jay)? Here's the one we did on Camouflage: https://www.buzzsprout.com/477379/episodes/17972128 And here is the one where we talked about WW1 pl…

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How Holiday Schedules Actually Work in Divorce 9:53

1M ago9:53

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Holiday schedules override your regular parenting routine. Corey breaks down how to define them precisely, handle the collisions, and stop treating December like a zero-sum game. Getting Divorced Without Losing Your Mind: A New York City divorce attorney reveals how divorce really works and the pivotal choices most people never see coming. Leave a …

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Makiwara and Tamishawara _ An Archived Episode 24:56

1M ago24:56

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Welcome to December 2025 and an episode from 2021. This episode is packed with stories about breaking (tamishawara). Remember that back in 2021, when this was recorded Sensei Landyn was a kid. In the years between then and now Sensei Landyn has done many breaks including the required one with the nunchaku mention in this episode. We also mention qu…

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If Jesus Sat Next to You… Would You Still Press Play? w/ Rudy Ornelas 38:50

2M ago38:50

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If Jesus sat next to you while you scrolled, watched Netflix, listened to music, or opened TikTok… would you still press play? In this challenging and transparent episode of Men of Faith, Pastor Caleb Cole sits down with Rudy to unpack how entertainment, media, music, and culture shape our hearts — often more than we realize. Rudy shares his journe…

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Why Some Kids Heal After Divorce and Others Don’t 13:42

2M ago13:42

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Some kids seem to bounce back after divorce while others carry the pain for years. Corey Shapiro explains why that happens and how your healing becomes the key to your child’s emotional recovery. Getting Divorced Without Losing Your Mind: A New York City divorce attorney reveals how divorce really works and the pivotal choices most people never see…

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Once upon a time in China - a Movie Review 23:14

1M ago23:14

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Sensei Lydia and Sensei Randy joined us to have a fantastic afternoon of movie watching and the riotous discussion that followed. We hope you enjoy it. A big thank you to Sifu Michael Ng for the recommendation. We've done lots of movies, but I feel good about tagging this one because we do mention it in the episode. Jic you missed it: https://www.b…

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Can You Find Happiness After Divorce? 10:11

2M ago10:11

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Divorce can leave you feeling like love and happiness are over. Corey Shapiro shares how to heal, rebuild trust, and take simple steps toward a life that feels good again. Getting Divorced Without Losing Your Mind: A New York City divorce attorney reveals how divorce really works and the pivotal choices most people never see coming. Leave a voice m…

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We're Celebrating Six Years of Podcasts 24:25

2M ago24:25

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A few episodes back we actually aired our 312th episode (6 years). Wow! Thanks for coming along for the ride. Sensei Jackie and Sensei Landyn (remember - he was 12 when we started!) were talking about it and decided to push record while we talked. This is the result. We talked about so many things, our great guests (thanks guys), new friends (we're…

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The Day I Broke My Family’s Curse w/ Sam Fleury 36:47

2M ago36:47

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Not every man inherits a healthy legacy. Some are handed trauma, addiction, abandonment, and broken patterns — but you don’t have to pass them on. In this powerful Men of Faith episode, Sam Fleury sits down with Caleb Cole to share the moment that changed his entire future — the day he broke his family’s generational curse. Sam opens up about growi…

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Why Your Divorce Recovery Isn't Working and How to Fix It 8:54

2M ago8:54

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You’ve done the hard part. The papers are signed, the conflict is over, but you still don’t feel better. In this episode, Corey Shapiro explains why recovery after divorce can stall and what simple steps can help you move forward again. This is not about perfection. It is about rebuilding your energy, your focus, and your peace of mind. Getting Div…

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New Interview, New Friend and Some Tai Chi Talk 21:49

2M ago21:49

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Today Sensei Jackie and I are lucky to meet Sifu Rod Dalby from England. We mention that our introduction to Rod was through our friendship with Sifu Rob. Here's our first (of many) conversations with Sifu Rob Jones: https://www.buzzsprout.com/477379/episodes/8931796 And somehow we manage to talk about the old tv show Kung Fu Of course, we did an e…

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Triggered? Try Forgiveness. w/ Project Sisterhood 26:33

2M ago26:33

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Everyone’s triggered by something — but what happens when you stay that way? In this crossover episode of Men of Faith and Project Sisterhood, Caleb and Chrissy Cole get real about offense: how it creeps in, how it poisons your peace, and how forgiveness is the only way to freedom. They talk about marriage fights (yes, real ones 😅), faith, pride, a…

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Are You Accidentally Letting Anxiety Turn into Anger in Your Divorce? 12:10

2M ago12:10

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Are you letting anxiety or anger steer your divorce? In this episode, Corey Shapiro, a New York City divorce attorney, breaks down how strong emotions can cloud judgment and damage credibility in court and co-parenting. Learn the difference between anger that explodes and anxiety that spirals inward, and how to pause before either takes over. Corey…

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We're Ecstatic to Continue Our Excursion into "E" Words. 22:28

2M ago22:28

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With Sensei Landyn we tackle more words, ideas, and a weapon! The weapon discussion takes us to Master Kelljchian and his creativity. We have talked about this twice before. Once on YouTube. Here's the episode: https://studio.youtube.com/video/jXw5SU_rEl8/edit And of course, here on the podcast: https://www.buzzsprout.com/477379/episodes/10817110 W…

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When Your Ex Plays Games with Discovery: How to Protect Yourself 10:23

3M ago10:23

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Corey explains what to do when you hand over your documents and the other side plays games with theirs. Getting Divorced Without Losing Your Mind: A New York City divorce attorney reveals how divorce really works and the pivotal choices most people never see coming. Leave a voice mail Get the book About your host Disclaimer This podcast is intended…

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The Kiai of the Eyes 24:02

3M ago24:02

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First off, I should mention that this episode - #312 - marks our 6th year anniversary. Congrats to us! Soon we'll spend a few minutes looking back and laughing. But back to today. We are SO lucky to have Rich, from Senbukai Goju, on again today. If you check out our Socials you'll see the art that his Sensei in Japan gifted to him that relates to t…

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Fathers, Sons & the Revival of Manhood w/ Mark Cullum 39:24

3M ago39:24

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By Caleb Cole

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When Child Support Doesn’t Come In: How to Respond Without Hurting Your Case 6:41

3M ago6:41

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They stopped paying child support, and Corey explains why blocking parenting time will only hurt your case. Getting Divorced Without Losing Your Mind: A New York City divorce attorney reveals how divorce really works and the pivotal choices most people never see coming. Leave a voice mail Get the book About your host Disclaimer This podcast is inte…

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We're Introduced to Senbukai Goju So Much Cool Stuff! 24:02

3M ago24:02

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A big thanks to Rich for his time and his stories. This episode is packed with way too much information and entertainment to try to explain in these notes. However, we were so busy talking and laughing that we forgot to say the name of the recently published book by his Sensei. Here's a link to the Amazon page: https://www.amazon.com/Lost-Karate-Go…

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Escape vs. Take a Break: Which Divorce Strategy Works? 9:36

3M ago9:36

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You love your kids, but sometimes you wish you could vanish. Corey breaks down the difference between taking a restorative break and making an escape that leaves lasting scars. Getting Divorced Without Losing Your Mind: A New York City divorce attorney reveals how divorce really works and the pivotal choices most people never see coming. Leave a vo…

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The History of Camouflage - Who Knew it Would be So Interesting 23:04

3M ago23:04

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The idea of camo came up during our WW1 research. I didn't think it was going to be as huge, weird and interesting as it became. I hope you have the same result as a listener. Please let us know. And as we say every week, slide down just a little farther and click the link to show us some financial love. Thanks! Here's the last episode we ran on WW…

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Court Is a Tool Not a Therapist 11:21

3M ago11:21

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Corey shows you how to distinguish between court-worthy problems and everyday disagreements, enabling you to protect your time, energy, and children. Getting Divorced Without Losing Your Mind: A New York City divorce attorney reveals how divorce really works and the pivotal choices most people never see coming. Leave a voice mail Get the book About…

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Discussing a Meditation Mentioned in 365 Days of the Warrior 24:51

3M ago24:51

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By Sensei Michelle

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From Harry Potter to Narnia: The Power of Stories! w/ Myke Clements 44:32

3M ago44:32

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By Caleb Cole

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The Lawyer You Hire Can Save Your Family or Burn It Down 8:37

3M ago8:37

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Corey explains why “shark” lawyers often leave families in ruins. He breaks down the swarmer, the brawler, the boxer, and the top dog. Corey shares the one question to ask before you hire any attorney. Getting Divorced Without Losing Your Mind: A New York City divorce attorney reveals how divorce really works and the pivotal choices most people nev…

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Sifu Rob Jones Tells us About his WW2 Katana 21:58

4M ago21:58

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For this episode, you really need to check us out on Twitter or Insta. We've posted a few pictures of this one of a kind weapon. Couple that with how much fun it is to talk with Sifu and we consider ourselves lucky to share today. If you're a fan of weapons and / or a fan of Sifu Jones you'll enjoy this episode from last year: https://www.buzzsprou…

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How to Respond Wisely When Every Button Is Pushed 12:00

4M ago12:00

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Corey Shapiro breaks down one of the nastiest divorce games: serving papers at work just to humiliate. He shares how to avoid firing off a text you will regret and introduces a new 24-minute pause using AI to help you respond wisely, not wildly. Getting Divorced Without Losing Your Mind: A New York City divorce attorney reveals how divorce really w…

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An Interview with an Old Friend - Sensei Eddie Kiesel 23:37

4M ago23:37

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What fun it is to run into someone you haven't seen in decades. That serendipity led us to this interview where we catch up on old times, look forward, and talk about Martial Arts. It turned out that a kobudo weapon was one of his favorite weapons. We did 3 episodes on Kobudo weapons. Here's the episode where we introduce them: https://www.buzzspro…

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Clarity Beats Vision: The Secret to Leading Men Well w/ Bob Balian 32:22

4M ago32:22

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By Caleb Cole

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How to Stay Calm When Your Ex Knows Exactly How to Get to You 11:00

4M ago11:00

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Your ex knows exactly how to get under your skin, and that is no accident. Corey explains why reacting in the moment can wreck your case and how a simple pause can save your time, money, and peace of mind. Getting Divorced Without Losing Your Mind: A New York City divorce attorney reveals how divorce really works and the pivotal choices most people…

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Overcome Unkindness with Compassion - Lao Tzu 24:22

4M ago24:22

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Another page from the 365 Days of the Warrior book by Master Kelljchian and Sensei Tracey. (Buy it on Amazon!). This week they reference Lao Tzu. As usual, the conversation goes everywhere. One idea we visit is balance. Here is the episode we did on Master Brown's saying "A karateman's pride is his balance." https://www.buzzsprout.com/477379/episod…

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Why Pausing During Divorce Is a Power Move 7:52

4M ago7:52

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This episode is about why reacting in the heat of the moment can backfire. Corey shares how a simple pause can keep you from making a mistake that hurts your case, your co-parenting, and your peace of mind. Getting Divorced Without Losing Your Mind: A New York City divorce attorney reveals how divorce really works and the pivotal choices most peopl…

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How Katana are Made 22:39

4M ago22:39

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We hope you enjoy listening to this as much as we enjoyed earning about it and sharing it with you. With Sensei Derek's help, we cover the making of katana - everything from history to parts to quotes. Of course we mention our episode on the katana. Here it is in case you missed it: https://www.buzzsprout.com/477379/episodes/4878146 And, like every…

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How Do I Pray? w/ Phillip Rozul 42:40

4M ago42:40

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By Caleb Cole

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Why Divorce Feels Like Groundhog Day and How to Break the Cycle 8:18

4M ago8:18

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Forget spouse against spouse. Corey makes the case for treating divorce like a family system, not a fight, and shows why you may need to lead even if your ex won’t. Getting Divorced Without Losing Your Mind: A New York City divorce attorney reveals how divorce really works and the pivotal choices most people never see coming. Leave a voice mail Get…

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From the Code of the Samurai to Modern Warrior Philosophy - An Archived Episode 22:23

5M ago22:23

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In this episode from 2020 we laugh more than we should as we tackle the idea that the code of behavior for ancient warriors still applies to karateka today. It turned out to be so much information than we expected. So we had to add a part 2. Click here to hear part 2: https://www.buzzsprout.com/477379/episodes/3753623 And we refer to the very first…