A Ripe Creatives digital journal centered on moments in time that impacted our community. Hosted by Scott Smith, other members of the Ripe community, and our extended family.
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Coming Up for Air — A Toolkit to Help with Your Loved One's Recovery from Addiction & Mental Illness
Allies in Recovery
This podcast is comprised of three series addressing topics relevant to families dealing with a loved one's addiction: - FAMILIES SPEAK: parents share wisdom, tools & experience using CRAFT (a proven method) with their loved one - Partner CRAFT: co-hosts explore the specificity of using CRAFT with a romantic partner (or ex) - VOICES from the FRONT LINES: Guests share expertise and stories Allies in Recovery provides online learning modules, expert hand-tailored guidance, CRAFT support groups ...
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VOICES from the Front Lines: Casey Fariello and Liz Reitman of Other Parents Like Me
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39:32Kayla interviews Casey Fariello and Liz Reitman of Other Parents Like Me, who describe themselves as "two moms determined to make a difference." The organization supports parents with kids going through mental health challenges of all kinds, often including substance use. For more about OPLM, visit oplm.com. Visit Allies in Recovery to start your…
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FAMILIES Speak: What's the Opposite of Black and White Thinking?
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38:35Though it seems intuitive and important to avoid black and white thinking, what do you do instead? There are shades of gray, but our host Elizabeth suggests that a rainbow spectrum is really where complexity can live, a world where color, acceptance, softening, connection, and recognition of micro-successes are the path leading away from the contra…
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Encounter Vol. 3 - March '25 In this episode, Scott is joined by Ripe Artist Gabriel Angrand aka “AVG” to talk about Encounter Vol 3. Encounter night are hosted by spoken word artist Jay Avery in Whippany, New Jersey. Volume 3 took place on Saturday March 22nd, 2025 and featured Ripe Artists AVG and Craig Watson. The first portion of the episode fo…
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FAMILIES Speak: Conversations on Creativity, Pt. 2
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27:49The team weighs in definitively on the question, Is Everyone Creative? They share with us some key ways to get your creative juices flowing and move past blockages, and point to creative outlets you may not have considered. The Families Speak team is comprised of mothers and fathers on a journey with an addicted loved one. These family members have…
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FAMILIES Speak: Conversations on Creativity, Pt. 1
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24:26Creativity has been a central element of healing for many of our Families Speak cohosts. For some, it arrived like a lifeline when their family was in crisis. For others, creativity remained frustratingly out of reach during the lowest point of crisis. The team dives into the countless ways we can access creative energy, and how it helped them. "Cr…
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VOICES from the Front Lines: Jane Clair Tyner on How Politics Are Affecting Funding for Substance Use Programs
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37:29Kayla and Isabel speak with Mississippi native Jane Clair Tyner, Communications Manager of the dynamic education and advocacy organization, End It For Good. Jane Clair describes the "Thank God moment" she had when she first discovered the CRAFT method, albeit bittersweet: she had already lost her first-born son to drug-related complications. She we…
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FAMILIES Speak: If I'm Part of the Problem, I'm Part of the Solution!
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39:48For these parents, behavior change started when they began coming to terms with not having control over their Loved One. Learn about the stages of behavior change that we all go through, and how to open to the challenge. Delve into this inspiring conversation and consider Kayla's affirmation that: "If I'm part of the problem, it means I'm also part…
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FAMILIES Speak: I Said He Could Come Home — Can I Change My Mind?
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28:32It’s human to make decisions that we later regret. Especially when addiction is present in our Loved Ones, fear and deep concern can often color our decision-making process. To see more clearly, we can take a step (or two) back and look at the situation through a new lens. I’m used to considering my Loved One’s needs first, but where do I fit into …
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FAMILIES Speak: How to Recognize Ripe Moments for Discussing Treatment
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35:10There's a science to identifying the ripest moments for talking with your Loved One and knowing how to navigate them. Find out the opening lines that are sure to shut the conversation down before it even starts. Find out how to approach your Loved One in a way that keeps communication lines open. And finally, find out what you should have in your b…
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FAMILIES Speak: How Do We Deal with Uncertainty in Uncertain Times?
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31:24When we face uncertainty, especially in relation to a Loved One struggling with substances, we tend to catastrophize, and challenging emotions like fear and helplessness can take over. As one mother puts it, "I jump on the zipline to nowhere." Each of our Families Speak co-hosts brings nuggets of wisdom and hard-earned strategy to this super-releva…
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Children are often present when a parent or other Loved One uses substances problematically. It can be complicated to know how much to say to them about the substance use, and they might not necessarily have the words to talk about it. Kayla and Isabel talk about ways to spare the children as much as possible, and even "use them" as leverage. Partn…
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2 Lines - February ‘25 In this episode, Scott is joined by co-host Jarrett Moses and returner to the podcast Greg Snow to talk about the 2 Lines Showcase event hosted at Top Mop Savage Studios on Friday February 21st, 2025. The first half of the episode focuses on everything leading up to the night of the event and many of the pre-show happening th…
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FAMILIES Speak: Navigating Life with Our Dad Who Drinks Problematically, Part 2
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34:23Two sisters continue to look at their present-day relationship with a Dad with problematic drinking and mental illness. How have they changed the way they respond now as young adults, when they see him drinking? What observations do they have of CRAFT in action? Kayla weighs in with some inspired guidance for the girls, going forward. The CRAFT met…
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Open Heart - Jan '25 In this episode, Scott is joined by first time guest “Poetic Will” aka Will Douglas from Trenton, NJ. Poetic Will is the founder and curator of Open Heart Poetry. The episode centers on Open Heart Poetry’s 1 Year Anniversary showcase which took place on January 24th, 2025. The first third of the episode centers on Will’s story …
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FAMILIES Speak: Navigating Life with Our Dad Who Drinks Problematically, Part 1
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31:42An honest and deeply real account from two sisters. They were pre-teens when their parents split up and they started to see the signs their Dad had a serious drinking problem. Their mom began using CRAFT with him and the girls navigated as best they could. Fast forward 13 years: they're young adults, both living far away. How have they been affecte…
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VOICES from the Front Lines: Author Annie Highwater
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36:13Kayla checks in with Annie Highwater, a regular contributor to our blog, about ways that CRAFT and Allies in Recovery's member site have changed her as a person. Is your Loved One struggling with addiction? Allies in Recovery’s online program can help. You’ll learn a powerful, evidence-based approach to improve your wellbeing and that of other fami…
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Kingdom - January '25 In this episode, Scott is joined by first-time guests Will Toms & Keith Reed alongside of returner Doc Hero. The episode centers on the Kingdom PHL experience hosted at REC Philly on January 17th, 2025. The first few minutes of the episode shared a lot of the context for Will, Keith and Scott’s relationships over the years as …
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FAMILIES SPEAK: How Do You Have Difficult Conversations?
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45:35When your Loved One has substance use and/or mental illness, communication can get sticky and prickly pretty quickly. Yet there's no world where we'll never need to have difficult conversations with our family members. CRAFT provides an incredibly effective toolbox for developing more easeful relationships. In this episode, our co-hosts—family memb…
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Setting the Stage Season 4 In this episode Scott Smith & Jarrett Moses sit down to “set the stage” again. This time the conversation is to wrap up season 3 and turn the page into season 4 of the “Time Is Ripe” podcast. The episode begins with Jarrett sharing about his overall views of the podcast and the growth he’s seen from season 1 until now. Mi…
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FAMILIES SPEAK: These Episodes Helped Us Get Where We Are Today
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27:21What goes around, comes around. Kenny, Bridget, and Elizabeth came to Allies in Recovery as family members looking for help with shifting the dynamic with an addicted Loved One. At the time, rather than recording episodes for the world, they were listening and learning, like you. Listen to them speak about their all-time favorite Coming Up for Air …
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FAMILIES SPEAK: Should I Give My Loved One Money?
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42:16Money is already such a huge issue for almost everyone, before you even add Substance Use Disorder (SUD) into the mix! Things get exponentially more complex when it's your loved one with addiction issues asking for money. Whether it's "just 20 dollars" or rent for an apartment, families often experience the feeling of being hostage to their fear fo…
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FAMILIES SPEAK: Favorite Tools from CRAFT, Pt. 2
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24:20In part 2 of 2, Isabel, Kayla, and their co-hosts -- family members with direct experience -- discuss their favorite tools and tips they've picked up from working with the CRAFT method through Allies in Recovery. Our Families Speak series features a wonderful team of people navigating life with an addicted loved one. They are all members of Allies …
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FAMILIES SPEAK: Favorite Tools from CRAFT, Pt. 1
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22:34Isabel, Kayla, and co-hosts with direct experience discuss their favorite tools and tips they've picked up from working with the CRAFT method through Allies in Recovery. Part 1 of 2. Our Families Speak series features a wonderful team of people navigating life with an addicted loved one. They are all members of Allies in Recovery, an online platfor…
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2 Lines - December '24 In this episode, Scott is joined by Jarrett Moses, Gabriel Angrand aka “AVG” and Simone Wesley. The group talks about the 2 Lines on December 13th, 2024 hosted at TopMop Savage Studios in Philadelphia. AVG was featured for this specific 2 Lines Open Mic event. The first few minutes of the episode focuses on 2 Lines decision t…
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VOICES from the Front Lines: Unpacking "Survival Mode" with Wellness Coach Emily Cooney
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41:33If you have an addicted loved one, chances are you're all too familiar with "hyper-arousal" or "survival mode." As Emily explains with brio, this state is meant to serve us when there's danger, then pass. What does it look like when we're chronically in this mode? Physical and mental/emotional signs are there and can serve as signposts, Emily expla…
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Sometimes, our Loved Ones' situations call for incredibly difficult decisions. Co-host Hazel shares a recent high-stakes moment that felt like a necessary betrayal. Our Families Speak series features a wonderful team of people navigating life with an addicted loved one. They are all members of Allies in Recovery, an online platform providing traini…
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S3E18 - Good Soil ESUMC - November '24
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1:10:23Good Soil ESUMC - November '24 In this episode, Scott is joined by Jarrett Moses, Craig Watson, and first-time guest Graham Allen. The group talks about the “Good Soil” event hosted on Sunday, November 17th at East Stroudsburg United Methodist Church. The first chunk of the episode focuses on Craig and Graham's invitations to become official Ripe A…
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FAMILIES SPEAK: Using CRAFT with Substance Use and Mental Health Issues
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28:51When there's Substance Use Disorder (SUD) and mental health diagnoses, what do you do? Can you use CRAFT? Yes, most of the time you can, unless the mental health issues make you or them unsafe. Co-host Bridget offers a central point: with this difficult combo, think of what is, not "what if." Our Families Speak series features a wonderful team of p…
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How do you deal with having hard feelings around your loved one's substance use? Kayla, Carolyn, Bridget, Elizabeth, and Kenny discuss their experiences and feelings of anxiety, frustration, and fear and their tools for handling the situation. The Allies in Recovery program and the CRAFT Method for families seeking to help a loved one with addictio…
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FAMILIES SPEAK: Don't Let Perfectionism Get in the Way
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28:22It's easy to feel like you have to be perfect with CRAFT, perfect with your loved one to be successful. But perfectionism gets in the way of connection. It can blind us, keep us from seeing our loved one fully. Acknowledging things not going the way you wanted, taking responsibility for behavior that doesn’t work--that’s part of the connection, and…
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FAMILIES SPEAK: What If I Believe My Loved One Isn't Capable?
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24:59If we're doing too much for our loved ones with substance use disorder, we'll never truly know how capable they are. We need to step back to see their capability and witness their choices, realizing that they have their own motivations and values. CRAFT is about creating a strong connection without necessarily doing things for them. This is a proce…
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Creatives' Cafe - November '24 In this episode, Scott is joined by Jarrett Moses and first time guest El-Fatih Chase. The trio talks about the Creatives’ Cafe open mic event where El-Fatih served as the closing incognito feature hosted on Tuesday November 12th at Bedrock Fishtown in Philadelphia. The episode begins with El’s story of connecting to …
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Partner CRAFT: The Hokey Pokey of Rewarding
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33:47Kayla and Isabel discuss the complications of rewarding your Loved One with addiction, in the context of a partner relationship. How does it affect time with children? How about intimacy? Partner CRAFT is the podcast series by Allies in Recovery that focuses on applying the CRAFT method with a romantic partner (or ex-partner) who struggles with add…
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S3E16 - Good Soil Manoa Community Church - November '24
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1:00:21Good Soil Manoa Community Church - November '24 In this episode, Scott is joined by Jarrett Moses, DJ Ant G, Esteban Nieves and first time guest Priscilla Nieves. The squad talks about their “Good Soil” event hosted on Saturday November 2nd at Manoa Community Church in Havertown. The first third of the episode focuses on the team’s history with thi…
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Kayla and Isabel discuss the challenges of early recovery. What are realistic expectations to have of our loved ones in this period? What can we do as a family member to support them and, importantly, to keep ourselves in check? It's helpful to know what "early recovery" means -- there's a spectrum that goes from complete abstinence to harm reducti…
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FAMILIES SPEAK: How Do You Make It Through the Holidays?
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23:56Oy, the holidays. It can be a time full of triggers, for our Loved One with substance use disorder, but also for the family member. It's also a time where we can get disconcerting questions about our how our loved ones have been doing. Three family members join Kayla to share wisdom and experiences around the holidays, from answering questions abou…
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Amped - October '24 In this episode, Scott is joined by first-time guests Mike Montgomery and Jordan Duenas to discuss the “Amped” youth event hosted by Arrundel Christian Church in Southern Maryland. Mike Montgomery, the church's youth pastor, booked Ripe Worship for the event, which took place on Sunday, October 27th, 2024. After the guests' intr…
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FAMILIES SPEAK: Recovery—Progress, not Perfection
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29:52Recovery is progress, not perfection, and it doesn’t look the same for everyone. As the family of a Loved One with substance use disorder (SUD), it can be tempting to impose our own expectations onto our Loved One. But as we ease up on expectations, we're taking pressure off our Loved One, allowing them space to try things and see how it goes. Some…
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FAMILIES SPEAK: When Your Loved One is Homeless
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32:03It’s incredibly hard to have a Loved One who’s experiencing homelessness. Our hosts—Hazel, Kevin, and Greer—join Kayla Solomon to discuss their experiences with their Loved Ones and offer hard-won advice. They say it’s important to try to create an environment of openness, connection, and availability—up to a point. But it’s also important to have …
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S3E14 - Creatives' Co-Bill ft. Olivia Weatherbe - October '24
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54:00Creatives' Co-Bill ft. Olivia Weatherbe - October '24 In this episode, Scott is joined by Jarrett & first time guest, Olivia Weatherbe to talk about the Creatives’ Concert Co-Bill event that featured Olivia, Sarah Juers and Peter Collins. The event was hosted at The Story Factory PHL on Tuesday, October 8th, 2024. The episode begins with talking ab…
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FAMILIES SPEAK: What You Don't Do Is Important, Too
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19:41What you don’t do – like get caught up in being a superhero, or telling your Loved One what they “should do” – can help your relationship emerge as a partnership. If we develop good relationships, we have power. If we have the capacity to change, we have power. If we have awareness, we can make choices, and that gives us power, too. By accepting th…
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S3E13 - Breakaway Middle School Retreat - September '24
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56:26Breakaway Middle School Retreat - September '24 In this episode Scott is joined by Jarrett Moses, Emily Phillips, and second-time guest on the podcast, Meghan DeHaven, to talk about the Breakaway Middle School Retreat. The annual weekend retreat took place at Northbay Adventure Camp in Maryland from September 27th-September 29th 2024. Ripe Worship …
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Self-care is a pillar of CRAFT; helping yourself is essential to helping your Loved One. A lot of CRAFT focuses on a parent trying to help an adult child, so how do we shift things in a partner relationship so we're able to play the starring role in our own lives? Is there room to focus on ourselves when our loved one is not showing up in the relat…
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When your partner suffers from Substance Use Disorder, what are realistic expectations in your relationship? Are your expectations setting you up for frustration? Which of your needs can you meet for yourself? Kayla Solomon and Isabel Cooney explore the often sticky nature of partnership when SUD is involved. Partner CRAFT is a podcast series by Al…
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When your partner is using substances year after year and you don't see change, you may end up wondering, "Why am I staying?" A listener wrote in that she wondered about staying with her husband, who struggles with alcohol but hasn't responded to her efforts to practice CRAFT thus far. Would leaving him constitute "natural consequences?" Isabel Coo…
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How CRAFT Works in the Mental Health Field
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25:48The original CRAFT is outcome-driven and behavioral-based, aimed at getting people into treatment. Allies has made it more connection- and relationship-oriented, focused on listening and communication. The same skill set Allies focuses on — validating, not arguing, not giving advice or challenging someone's reality or perception — often works with …
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Creatives' Pier - July '24 In this episode, Scott is joined by Jarrett Moses and first-time guest Mike Weatherbe to talk about the Creatives’ Pier Outdoor Open Mic and Artist Showcase. The event took place at Venice Island Performing Arts Center on August 27th, 2024. The episode begins with Mike introducing himself to the podcast audience while Sco…
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What happens to the 30 percent who, in the traditional, research-based CRAFT model, don't make it to treatment in 12 weeks? The Allies in Recovery version — "applied" CRAFT — goes beyond the 12-week version and focuses on change, not just going to treatment. We discuss where you can begin the process, and how you can lead by modelling. Long-term ch…
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2 Lines Anniversary - August '24 In this episode, Scott is joined by Greg Snow, and first-time guest Simone Wesley to talk about the 2 Lines Philly anniversary showcase, which took place on August 17th, 2024. The episode begins centering on 2 Lines Philly’s overall journey and Simone’s personal story of how she became a part of the team. During the…
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Using Tropes: "Dry Drunk" and "Manipulation"
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25:30What do these terms mean? Should we use them? And are they disparaging? "Dry drunk" comes from Alcoholics Anonymous, and refers to someone who's abstinent, but may not obviously be doing more than remaining abstinent. And "manipulation" is often in the eye of the beholder. CRAFT can help take the judgment out of it and help you get to know your pro…
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