Best Retroactive Jealousy Podcasts (2025)

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Retroactive Jealousy: Why Her Past Haunts You (And How to Stop Obsessing) 10:32

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10d ago10:32

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Men ask me all the time: “Why can’t I stop thinking about her past?” You know she had a life before you… but that doesn’t stop your brain from obsessing over every ex, every hookup, every “what if.” This is retroactive jealousy. And it’s more common — and more damaging — than most guys realize. In this episode, I’ll explain the science behind it, h…

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Why You Can’t Stop Thinking About Her (Even Though It’s Over) 8:50

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You ever catch yourself stuck in a mental loop? Replaying the breakup, the betrayal, the one thing she said that cut deep? That’s rumination — and it’s not helping you heal. In this video, I explain what rumination really is, why your brain gets stuck there, and how to break out of the loop before it drives you insane. We’ll look at the neuroscienc…

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"My Husband Cheated with 100 Sex Workers… While I Begged for Intimacy" 11:31

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This letter hit hard. A woman writes in to share her story: 20 years of marriage. Zero sex. She thought he had a medical issue. Turns out, he was sleeping with nearly 100 sex workers behind her back. And now… he wants to reconcile. In this video, I break down what’s really going on here—from the psychology behind sex addiction and shame, to the hea…

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Why Therapists Focus on You (Not Your Avoidant Wife) 13:58

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Why does it feel like the therapist is always on your case, even when your wife is the one shutting down emotionally? In this video, I explain why anxious men—like many of you—end up being the focus in therapy sessions... and it’s not because the therapist is against you. It's because you're actually the one most likely to change and grow. We’ll ta…

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Why So Many Men Are Lonely (And Won’t Admit It) 9:22

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A lot of men joke about single women dying alone with 12 cats... but here’s the truth: that’s projection. Men are facing a loneliness crisis. We isolate ourselves, chase careers across the country, let friendships die, and pretend we’re fine being “lone wolves.” Then we wake up in our 40s, 50s, and 60s and realize—we’ve built a resume, not a life. …

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Why So Many Men Are Secretly Controlled by Shame (Especially Around Sex) 10:00

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Most men carry shame. But they don’t talk about it—especially when it comes to sex. They were raised to be "good boys," "nice guys," and "respectful partners"... but underneath that, many are dealing with something toxic: sexual shame. It wrecks their confidence. It kills their desire. And it silently poisons their relationships. In this video, I b…

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Dating After Divorce: What No One Tells You About the New Rules 11:49

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Dating after divorce is a minefield—and if you haven't been single since your twenties, you're stepping into a completely different world. In this video, I break down what actually happens when men re-enter the dating market after a long-term relationship. I cover the emotional aftermath of divorce, the brutal realities of modern dating apps, what …

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The Truth About the Honeymoon Stage (and Why It Always Fades) 13:45

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Every man has felt it—that wild rush of lust, energy, and connection in the beginning of a relationship. You can’t stop thinking about her. You’re having sex like teenagers. It feels like you finally “found the one.” That’s the honeymoon stage… and it’s biology. In this episode, I break down what’s really going on inside your body (and hers) during…

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“My Military Wife Checked Out of the Marriage After SSRIs & Kids” 14:19

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In this Dear DSO, a military husband opens up about his wife emotionally and physically checking out of their marriage. After three kids, mood swings, and now being on SSRIs for anxiety, she’s not the same woman he married. No sex for nine months. He does 95% of the parenting while she’s glued to her phone and in nursing school. Is he being anxious…

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“He Forgot Our Anniversary… Again. Should I Finally Leave?” 11:21

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A 65-year-old woman wrote in with a gut-wrenching story. After 42 years of being married to a man who never listens, never remembers their anniversary, and always puts his own priorities first, she's wondering if it's time to finally walk away. She’s tried everything—even picked up The Dead Bedroom Fix hoping for one last Hail Mary. But this story?…

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Anxious & Passive: Why You're Stuck in a Sexless Marriage 12:25

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In this Dear DSO submission, a man reaches out from the middle of an eight-year sexless marriage. He’s passive, anxious, and paralyzed by confusion—and he’s not alone. So many men fall into this trap. In this episode, I walk through his message and break down what’s really going on here: the anxious attachment, the avoidant wife, the therapy cycles…

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“My Wife Calmly Told Me She’s Not Attracted to Me Anymore” – What That REALLY Means 12:37

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Seventeen years of marriage. Three kids. Nice house. Dead bedroom for almost a decade. Then, during an argument, she looks him in the eye and says the words that’ll haunt him forever: “I’m just not attracted to you anymore.” No yelling. No drama. Just a calm, matter-of-fact gut punch. This is what happens when a woman has emotionally and physically…

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Why Women Really Cheat (Dual Mating Strategy Explained) 13:51

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Why do so many women in long-term relationships cheat—and often with men who seem like total losers? In this video, I break down the science behind two popular theories about female infidelity: the Mate Switching Hypothesis and the Dual Mating Strategy. One of these is more “romantic.” The other is... well, it’s the one most men fear deep down. We’…

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"When Is It Time to Walk Away from Your Marriage?" 13:08

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So many men ask me the same question: "How do I know when I've done enough?" They’ve put in the work. They’ve read the books. They’ve hit the gym, led with strength, stayed patient—and still… she avoids connection. In today’s Dear DSO, Alejandro writes in with a story that I’ve heard far too many times. A disconnected wife. Years of emotional avoid…

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"My Wife Said I Was Her 'Safe Choice' – Now What?" 14:33

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A husband finds out—after 12 years of marriage and two kids—that he was never his wife's first choice. After a night of drinks and a fight, she admitted she "settled" for him and still thinks about her college ex. This is brutal. And it’s more common than you think. In this video, I break down his story, talk about what’s really going on in situati…

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When She Tells You Who She Is... Listen 16:26

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In this Dear DSO episode, I respond to a man who saw the signs early on—but kept going. She told him who she was from the beginning. The problem? He didn’t listen. We talk about the consequences of ignoring red flags, the fantasy that keeps men trapped, and why your gut instinct is often your best guide. If you’ve ever thought, “I should’ve known b…

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ADHD, Shame, and Approaching Women: Real Talk for Neurodivergent Men 17:45

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Today’s Dear DSO submission is from a neurodivergent man—he’s got ADHD, a lot of anxiety, and not much dating experience. He feels like he’s defective, like he’ll never figure out how to talk to women or attract them. He sent in a long list of brutally honest questions: “How do I feel confident when women have all the power?” “How do I not look nee…

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Why Your Wife Changed Overnight: The Hidden Truth About Menopause and Marriage 9:45

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Most men don’t see it coming—until their marriage is on life support. One day she’s your best friend and lover… the next, she’s distant, irritable, and completely checked out. You think you did something wrong. You didn’t. In this video, I break down the biological and psychological changes that happen during menopause—how they affect your wife, yo…

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"I Married a Woman Who Refused Sex for Two Years… What Was I Thinking?" 13:45

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This one’s brutal. A 36-year-old man marries a 49-year-old woman who insisted they wait until marriage for sex. Two years in, he’s still never touched her. No sex. No intimacy. Nothing. He’s confused, frustrated, and finally waking up after reading The Dead Bedroom Fix. This is a classic case of mismatched libidos, avoidant behavior, and religious …

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"She Kept a Log to Avoid Sex With Me — What Did I Do Wrong?" 11:52

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Mr. K wrote in with a story that’s, sadly, all too familiar. He blames himself for a relationship that was dysfunctional from day one. She showed no attraction. She weaponized sex. She even stopped showering to repel him — and kept a log of when he initiated. He thinks he’s the problem. But here’s the truth: Some relationships are doomed from the b…

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“Why Autistic Men Attract Toxic Women” 10:26

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Have you ever looked back at a relationship and thought, “What the hell was that?” You were loyal. Honest. Steady. She was chaos. This happens all the time to autistic men—diagnosed or not. They end up in emotionally volatile relationships with women who may have traits of borderline personality disorder. These women are intense, manipulative, unpr…

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"SSRIs Killed Her Sex Drive – What Do I Do?" 13:55

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In this Dear DSO submission, Richie asks a brutally honest question: What do you do when your wife is on SSRIs, has no sex drive, and has basically shut down in the bedroom? He’s not alone. A lot of men are quietly struggling with this. Kids, careers, medication, depression—it all adds up. And many men are left wondering if they’re crazy for wantin…

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The Final Talk: Should You End a Sexless Marriage? 12:58

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In this episode of Dear DSO, a man named Mark writes in about the pain of being stuck in a long-term, sexless marriage. He’s done the work—therapy, self-improvement, romantic gestures—but his wife still shows zero interest. Now he’s wondering: Should he blow up the family just to feel loved again? This one hits hard, and it’s a story I hear all the…

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Is She Avoidant... or Just Not That Into You? 11:56

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I hear from a lot of men who fall hard for a woman… and then she starts pulling away. Hot one minute, cold the next. Is it an avoidant attachment style—or is she just not that into you? In today’s Dear DSO episode, we break down Paul’s situation. He’s stuck in the push-pull dynamic with a woman who’s triggering every anxious bone in his body. I exp…

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"Worried About My Adult Kids Stuck With a Toxic Mom" 17:01

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In this Dear DSO episode, we tackle Holden’s powerful story: ✅ A 22-year marriage, wrecked by infidelity ✅ A toxic ex dragging their adult kids down ✅ A father who rebuilt his life, career, and confidence — but still worries about his boys I break down what happens long-term when kids get stuck in a toxic home and what (if anything) you, as the hea…

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Retroactive Jealousy: Why Her Past Haunts You (And How to Stop Obsessing) 10:32

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Why You Can’t Stop Thinking About Her (Even Though It’s Over) 8:50

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"My Husband Cheated with 100 Sex Workers… While I Begged for Intimacy" 11:31

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Why Therapists Focus on You (Not Your Avoidant Wife) 13:58

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Why So Many Men Are Lonely (And Won’t Admit It) 9:22

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Why So Many Men Are Secretly Controlled by Shame (Especially Around Sex) 10:00

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Dating After Divorce: What No One Tells You About the New Rules 11:49

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The Truth About the Honeymoon Stage (and Why It Always Fades) 13:45

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“My Military Wife Checked Out of the Marriage After SSRIs & Kids” 14:19

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“He Forgot Our Anniversary… Again. Should I Finally Leave?” 11:21

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Anxious & Passive: Why You're Stuck in a Sexless Marriage 12:25

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“My Wife Calmly Told Me She’s Not Attracted to Me Anymore” – What That REALLY Means 12:37

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Why Women Really Cheat (Dual Mating Strategy Explained) 13:51

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"When Is It Time to Walk Away from Your Marriage?" 13:08

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"My Wife Said I Was Her 'Safe Choice' – Now What?" 14:33

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When She Tells You Who She Is... Listen 16:26

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ADHD, Shame, and Approaching Women: Real Talk for Neurodivergent Men 17:45

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Why Your Wife Changed Overnight: The Hidden Truth About Menopause and Marriage 9:45

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"I Married a Woman Who Refused Sex for Two Years… What Was I Thinking?" 13:45

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"She Kept a Log to Avoid Sex With Me — What Did I Do Wrong?" 11:52

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“Why Autistic Men Attract Toxic Women” 10:26

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"SSRIs Killed Her Sex Drive – What Do I Do?" 13:55

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The Final Talk: Should You End a Sexless Marriage? 12:58

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Is She Avoidant... or Just Not That Into You? 11:56

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"Worried About My Adult Kids Stuck With a Toxic Mom" 17:01