Welcome to The Circle, an on-going conversation about men’s work, men's embodiment practices, and personal growth from the perspective of two queer men. Hosted by Eric Bomyea and men’s embodiment coach, Tim Bish, together, we investigate the purpose of men’s work, how queer men can participate, what value they might receive, and the unique value they add in the pursuit of growth for all. We also explore the challenges, dynamics, and transformative practices that empower men to show up authen ...
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Conversations exploring Non-Monogamy, Conscious Relationships & Sexuality. Join Abbey and her husband Liam, as they share from their own lived experiences, and chat with special guests. evolvingloveproject.substack.com
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Taking It All In: The Art of Receiving Without Shame or Obligation
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43:37Why is it so hard to simply take it in—a compliment, a gift, a moment of care, or even a deep breath? In this episode of The Circle Podcast, Eric and Tim unpack the cultural, emotional, and personal blocks that make receiving feel vulnerable, awkward, or even shameful. Whether it’s feeling unworthy of love, fearing hidden strings, or being conditio…
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How We Communicate - Radical Honesty, Conflict & Sleepy Husbands
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59:50In today’s episode we dive deep into the art of communication in long-term, non-monogamous relationships. We explore the nuances of radical honesty—when it’s helpful, when it’s too much, and how to balance truth with tact. From navigating attraction to others, to the infamous “chewer vs. spewer” dynamic, we unpack how our differing communication st…
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The Shaman’s Mind: Jonathan Hammond on Queer Wisdom, Nature’s Intelligence, and the Power to Co-Create Reality
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1:00:52In this episode of The Circle, Eric and Tim sit down with Jonathan Hammond—author, spiritual teacher, and trained shamanic practitioner—to explore how earth-based spirituality and Hawaiian wisdom can help us reclaim authenticity, heal limiting beliefs, and reimagine a more connected world. From the ancient role of queer people in shamanic cultures …
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Confessions Of A Dominatrix w/ Mistress Fleur Driver
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58:07Mistress Fleur Driver is a professional Dominatrix and BDSM practitioner with over thirteen years of experience in the sex work industry. Originally trained in the courtesan tradition by European Madams, her practice is grounded in immersive, intentional experiences that welcomes people from all walks of life. From her private dungeon in Sydney to …
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Remembering to Pretend: Why Imagination Might Be the Most Important Grown-Up Thing You’ve Forgotten
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51:38In this episode of The Circle Podcast, Eric and Tim explore the transformative power of imagination—not as a childhood relic, but as a radical tool for adult healing, creative expression, emotional intelligence, and personal growth. From visualizing future goals to softening interpersonal conflicts, they unpack how reconnecting with our imagination…
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Rope and Radical Communication: Mr. R on Trust, Consent, and Kink
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1:03:35Curious about kink—but unsure where to start? In this episode of The Circle Podcast, Eric and Tim are joined by Mr. R, a rope rigger, dominant, and BDSM educator, to explore how consent, communication, and trust form the bedrock of safe and empowering experiences in BDSM and beyond. Through real stories, thoughtful analogies, and insights from kink…
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Unpacking the Prickle: Irritation, Annoyance, and the Needs Beneath the Noise
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56:25Ever found yourself snapping in traffic or spiraling over something small? In this episode of The Circle Podcast, Eric and Tim unpack the deeper truth behind irritation and annoyance—and how these emotions often reveal unmet needs, unconscious beliefs, and moments where we fall out of integrity with ourselves. With personal stories, embodied insigh…
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"Beyond Monogamy" on ABC TV - Reactions, Triggers & Our Experience
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1:02:10In today’s episode we discuss our appearance on the ABC’s Compass program “Beyond Monogamy” which was released on Sunday 27th April 2025. We dissect the process of filming, the feedback we have been receiving, counter-opinions presented in the show and how we are feeling after our highest profile media appearance yet… Watch The Doco Evolving Love L…
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Seeing Ourselves in Others: Gregory Ganymedes on The Power of Projection in Dreams and Life
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53:52Projection is a fundamental yet often unnoticed aspect of human experience. We see in others what we cannot yet recognize in ourselves, whether in moments of conflict, admiration, or even within the mysterious landscapes of our dreams. In this episode of The Circle, Eric Bomyea and Timothy Bish welcome dream worker Gregory Ganymedes to go all in on…
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Harnessing the Fire Within: Transforming Anger into Empowerment
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56:48Anger is a powerful and often misunderstood emotion, especially among men. While society may encourage its suppression or view it negatively, anger, when acknowledged and channeled appropriately, can serve as a catalyst for personal growth and transformation. In this episode of The Circle, hosts Eric Bomyea and Timothy Bish go all in on the comple…
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Leaving A Cult: Love, Intimacy & Relationships with Evan Buckley
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1:19:48Evan's story is unlike anything you've heard. Imagine spending your most formative years within the confines of a religious fundamentalist cult. How would this shape your approach to sex, love and relationships? In addition to his vulnerability, honesty and ability to self-reflect, Evan is also a talented songwriter and frontman of his Canberra-bas…
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Emotional Alchemy with Alex Lehmann: Transforming the Pain of Otherness into Purpose
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59:41Many men grow up feeling othered—whether due to cultural differences, personal identity, or societal expectations. This sense of disconnection can shape their emotional landscape, leading to shame, isolation, and a struggle to express their true selves. But what if those experiences could be transformed into a source of clarity, strength, and purpo…
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Rediscovering Joy in Men's Work: Unlocking Personal Growth and Purpose Through the Embodiment of Joy
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53:27In this episode of The Circle Podcast, we go all in on the often-overlooked role of joy in men’s work and embodiment practices. While grief, anger, and fear frequently dominate men’s spaces, joy remains an underdeveloped muscle—one that, when cultivated, can become a profound source of purpose and connection. Eric and Tim unpack why many men strugg…
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The Proposal - A Wedding Anniversary Special
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55:46We take the opportunity to celebrate our 10th Wedding Anniversary by reliving the night of the proposal! Evolving Love Links: Website | Instagram | Substack This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit evolvingloveproject.substack.com/subscribe…
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Leading with Heart: Steve Azar on Community, Spirituality, and Transformation
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50:35In this episode, Tim and Eric sit down with real estate entrepreneur and environmental engineer Steve Azar to explore how leading with heart can shape not just businesses, but entire communities. From high-rise developments to Provincetown’s historic Gifford House, Steve’s work is deeply rooted in impact, intention, and connection. We discuss his j…
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Policing Language, "Adolescence" & Chris Williamson
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57:10In todays episode we discuss Liam being shamed, how we police language, a recent Chris Williamson Instagram caption, an incredible new TV show “Adolescence”, and so much more! Evolving Love Links: Website | Instagram | Substack This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit evol…
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Transforming Judgment: A Path to Growth in Men's Work
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59:36Judgment is a natural human response, but how often do we pause to examine its impact on our lives? In this episode, Eric and Tim go all in on the role of judgment in men's work, exploring how it can disrupt presence and hinder personal growth. They discuss the nuances of self-judgment and the fear of being judged by others, particularly within the…
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Steady Leadership: Julian Cyr on Calmness as a Form of Resistance
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58:27In a world that rewards quick reactions, what happens when we choose calmness as a form of resistance? In this episode of The Circle Podcast, we sit down with Massachusetts State Senator Julian Cyr to explore how steadiness, patience, and emotional regulation shape leadership, activism, and personal growth. Senator Cyr shares his journey from growi…
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We have a difficult discussion in today’s podcast that relates to child safety and Abbey’s recent Substack article “We Must Be Critical of Non-Monogamy”. We unpack the reception and criticisms around the article, the importance of nuanced conversations around this topic, why no community is immune from having these discussions and so much more. Imp…
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Embracing Discomfort: Transforming Limiting Beliefs Through Patience and Discipline
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1:03:09In this episode of The Circle Podcast, we explore the discomfort that comes with breaking free from limiting beliefs and stepping into a more empowered way of being. Transformation isn’t instant—it requires patience, discipline, and a willingness to sit with discomfort rather than avoid it. Eric and Tim unpack why growth often feels unsettling and …
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Moral Panic & Non-Monogamy w/ Philosopher Dr. Tim Dean
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53:18Tim is a philosopher, award-winning writer and teacher. He has a doctorate in philosophy from the University of New South Wales on the evolution of morality and specialises in ethics, critical thinking, the philosophy of science and the philosophy of education. Currently, Tim is the Senior Philosopher at The Ethics Centre (who run the brilliant “Fe…
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Healing the Wounded Boy: How Men's Work Helps Us Step Into Maturity with Soma Miller
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54:31In this episode of The Circle Podcast, we sit down with Soma Miller, founder of The Essential Man, to explore how unresolved wounds shape our lives and how men’s work, brotherhood, and embodiment practices help us step into maturity, integrity, and purpose. Soma shares his personal journey into men’s work, influenced by mentors like Francis Weller …
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In today’s episode we unpack Liam’s recent vasectomy procedure. We discuss the procedure, the lead up and the aftermath, delve into the ethics of contraception, the importance of peas and double briefs, semen, myths around vasectomies, manhood and so much more… Evolving Love Links: Website | Instagram | Substack This is a public episode. If you'd l…
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From Obligation to Choice: Reframing Shoulds & Embracing Intentionality in Men's Work
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56:49In this episode of The Circle, Eric and Tim explore how men can shift from living in a world of “shoulds” and obligations to consciously choosing their actions with clarity and intention. Drawing from men’s embodiment practices, Marshall Rosenberg’s Nonviolent Communication, and mindfulness techniques, they unpack the subtle but powerful difference…
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Fake Orgasms, Embodiment & Desire with Georgia Grace
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46:40Georgia Grace is a certified sex and relationship practitioner and somatic therapist who is particularly known for her work in somatic sexology, embodied counselling and trauma-informed practices. Her approach to working with sex and relationships is inclusive, sex-positive and shame-free, and supports individuals, couples and groups to overcome co…
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Reclaiming Fitness: Queer Strength, Body Image, and Self-Love | GBTQ+ Wellness with Matt Boyles
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1:05:24How do queer men reclaim fitness as a space of empowerment rather than exclusion? In this episode of The Circle, we sit down with Matt Boyles, founder of Fitter Confident You, a fitness platform designed specifically for gay, bi, and trans men. Together, we explore the intersection of body image, societal expectations, and movement—unpacking the hy…
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In today’s episode we trial a new format for the show as we play with hypothetical scenarios! Abbey’s lover Caspian leaves his socks everywhere! When is enough enough? How will Abbey confront him? Brenda, Kai, Abbey and Liam embark on a polycule camping trip…. come along for the ride!! Evolving Love Links: Website | Instagram | Substack This is a p…
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Expanding Capacity: Building Real Strength to Move from Burnout to Balance
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51:56In this episode of The Circle, the Podcast for Queer Men's Embodiment, we take a deep dive into the strong man archetype—the societal expectation that men must always have the answers, never ask for help, and handle everything alone. These pressures often lead to overwhelm, isolation, and burnout, especially for queer men navigating mental, emotion…
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Do Men's Voices Matter? with James Winestock
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1:22:02In today’s conversation we discuss whether men deserve a voice, sensitive men, rolemodels, social media and the influence of the manosphere, how to bring men into the conversation, how men can advocate for men’s issues and hold feminist ideals in tandem, the importance of men expressing affection, the role of a competitive nature in masculinity, wh…
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Embodying Polarity: Mackenzie on Masculine & Feminine Energies Through Drag
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50:18In this episode of The Circle, Timothy Bish and Eric Bomyea are joined by Mackenzie, a drag entertainer, philanthropist, and artist. Mackenzie shares their journey of navigating the balance between masculine and feminine energies, using drag as a powerful tool for self-expression and transformation. Together, they explore breaking societal norms, n…
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In today’s episode we discuss one of our favourite New York experiences… a photoshoot that was impossible to forget… on the Brooklyn Bridge with Kenn Lichtenwalter. Kenn Lichtenwalter Links: Instagram BSky Dive Deeper This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit evolvinglovepr…
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The Complexity of Gratitude: Moving Beyond Obligations and Performative Thank Yous
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55:59In this episode of The Circle, Tim and Eric go all in on the emotional complexities of gratitude, exploring how to move beyond performative expressions and embrace authentic gratitude. Through personal stories and reflections, they unpack the challenges men face in connecting with genuine feelings of gratitude—particularly when societal expectation…
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Today we're diving headfirst into the taboo world of cuckolding with Shy. We'll be exploring the psychological and emotional complexities of this relationship dynamic through an intimate interview with Shy - a ‘cuckoldress” who is in a 24-7 cuckolding dynamic. Get ready for an honest and insightful conversation that may challenge your understanding…
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Queer Confidence in Healthcare: Advocating for Authenticity and Empowerment
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1:11:02In this episode of The Circle, Eric and Tim welcome Jeffrey Schaffer, a nurse and LGBTQ+ program manager, to explore how queer men can approach healthcare with confidence and authenticity. They dive into how men’s work provides tools to navigate medical spaces, unpack stigma, and advocate for oneself with courage and clarity. Discover practical adv…
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In today’s episode we share about what has been happening for us recently. It is a different kind of episode, with a tone that is different to our usual discussions. This conversation covers how we approach conflict, the importance of space, external stresses on the relationship, communication styles and so much more*. *We also manage to pivot the …
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Authentic Power: Moving Beyond the ‘Strong Man’ Archetype in Men’s Work
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56:57In this episode of The Circle, Tim and Eric break down the difference between fear-based, control-driven power and a more authentic, heart-centered approach to strength. They challenge the “strong man” stereotype—where force and dominance prevail—and introduce men’s work principles that help men tap into self-awareness, conscious choice-making, and…
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Body Image, Self-Acceptance & Non-Monogamy with Kate Gordon
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1:05:30Today we are joined by Kate Gordon. Kate competed at the Cross Fit Games in 2015 and 2019 and has since become a certified Cross fit trainer and certified nutrition coach. In 2021 she started CFK nutrition and also hosts two podcasts - Gone Rogue which explores her journey in non-monogamy, and the CFK nutrition podcast. In this discussion we discus…
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From Superheroes to Real-World Heroes: Phil Jimenez on Men’s Work and Authentic Heroism
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1:02:08In this episode of The Circle Podcast, we dive into the world of superheroes with special guest Phil Jimenez, renowned comic book artist and writer. Together, we explore how the traits that define our favorite heroes—presence, authenticity, vulnerability, and courage—are also the “superpowers” everyday men can cultivate through men’s work. Phil sha…
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We handpicked some of our 2024 guest highlights to round out a big year for 2024 and Evolving Love. This episode features Andrew Gurza, Chris Ryan , Alex Alberto , Molly Roden Winter , Lina Dune , Multiamory, Dr. Constantine R. Campbell, Casey Calvert, Kyron Kruger & Normalizing Non-Monogamy. Evolving Love Links: Website | Instagram | Substack Gues…
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Structured vs. Unstructured: Balancing Masculine and Feminine Practices in Men’s Work
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59:36In this episode of The Circle, we explore two core approaches in men’s work: masculine embodiment (clear, structured, linear steps) versus feminine embodiment (open-ended, unstructured, fluid exploration) and discover how each can expand your personal growth. Join us as we explore why perfectionism often emerges in structured, linear practices and …
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In today’s episode we discuss why we are not interested in becoming coach, the importance of good therapists and coaches, and we test Gemini AI to see if it could replace the role of a traditional coach. During the episode we refer to three wonderful coaches and therapists: Kathy Labriola Dr Joli Hamilton Dr. Marie Thouin Lina Dune a.k.a AskASub Ev…
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Beyond Doing - Exploring Identity Outside of Roles and Accomplishments
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53:32In this episode of The Circle, we challenge the prevailing notion that a man’s worth is measured by what he does, rather than who he truly is. We examine the cultural pressures that drive men to define themselves by their careers, achievements, and external success markers—and how this often leads to disconnection, stress, and a loss of authentic i…
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Detoxing Limiting Beliefs and the Narrative of Unworthiness and Shame
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50:19In this episode of The Circle, we tackle the transformative process of letting go of harmful narratives and limiting beliefs that hold us back. Drawing inspiration from a recent embodiment circle, we reflect on common struggles men face—feeling unloved, undeserving of love, or carrying shame, particularly as queer men. What You’ll Learn: * How to i…
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Abbey and Liam discuss a podcast listener (Margaret), who has been leaving comments throughout the year on Spotify. We discuss the comments, her critiques, hypothesise a “theory of mind” and so much more. Evolving Love Links: Website | Instagram | Substack This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access …
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Meeting Your Edge: How Men’s Work Helps You Push Through
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47:03Men’s Work often asks us to meet our edge—the point where we encounter discomfort and resistance. In this episode, we discuss what it means for men to confront their edges and how Men’s Work can help them push through to new levels of personal growth. We share practices for navigating these moments and embracing the transformation that happens on t…
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In this special episode, hosts Timothy Bish and Eric Bomyea take you behind the mic to share their stories, their connection to men’s work, and why they’re passionate about creating a space for queer men to explore personal growth, embodiment, and spirituality. Discover how Tim’s journey as a professional dancer and acupuncturist intertwined with h…
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In today’s episode we discuss our recent getaway to Sydney for the Australian Podcast awards, metamour gifts, chance encounters and so much more. Evolving Love Links: Website | Instagram | Substack This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit evolvingloveproject.substack.com/s…
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Men’s Retreat Recap: Showing Up Powerfully as a Queer Man
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58:52Join us as we recap our recent men’s embodiment retreat. Tim has attended eight retreats, while this was Eric’s first. We discuss the power of showing up in these spaces, especially as a queer man, and the challenges and opportunities it presents. We cover what happens at a men’s retreat, the growth that unfolds, and how queer men can show up authe…
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Holding Space, Creating Space, and Sacred Drala
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45:56Holding space is one of the most powerful gifts men can offer to others. In this episode, we explore the art of holding space, creating space for self and others, and the concept of sacred drala—a spiritual awareness that enhances presence and intention. We dive into how men can develop these skills to foster deeper connections and create environme…
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In todays episode we respond to a listener question asking us: “Have you ever broken each others trust? How did you navigate it?” Evolving Love Links: Website | Instagram | Substack This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit evolvingloveproject.substack.com/subscribe…
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