Best PolySoCal Podcasts (2025)

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Gratitude, Healing, and the Power of Being Thankful 44:00

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19h ago44:00

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This week’s PolySoCal conversation centered around gratitude — and it turned deeply personal fast. The group shared what they’re most thankful for in life, exploring how trauma, resilience, and identity shape the love we give and receive. Themes of healing from injury and illness, releasing grief, and supporting partners through transformation were…

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Aging, Desire, and the Changing Shape of Intimacy 49:52

8d ago49:52

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this episode dives into the emotional landscape of aging within polyamorous and kink-friendly relationships. The group explores vulnerability, sexual confidence, physical changes, emotional safety, and the evolving experience of intimacy between partners of different ages. What starts as a discussion about sexual safety expands into honest storytel…

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What Does Sexual Safety Mean? 40:38

15d ago40:38

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The discussion moves far beyond physical protection, delving into emotional safety — the kind of trust that allows someone to be fully vulnerable, seen, and accepted. Each guest brings a deeply personal perspective: Patty speaks about freedom of expression and emotional honesty, John reflects on being “a safe person” and the complexities of male vu…

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Patty: Lessons in Love and Longevity 35:20

22d ago35:20

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In this candid interview, host Alonzo Banx sits down with Patty, a cornerstone of the PolySoCal community, for a deep and heartfelt conversation about her 31-year relationship with her husband John, their journey through polyamory, and the wisdom that only comes from decades of experience. Patty shares stories from their early days — from swinging …

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Is Poly Kinky? — Where Love, Labels, and Laughter Collide 35:00

29d ago35:00

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One of the most spirited PolySoCal roundtables yet, exploring the question: Do you have to be kinky to be poly? and Isn’t poly just swinging, anyway? What begins as a lighthearted discussion quickly evolves into a candid exploration of love, sex, and self-definition. With a full cast including Max, Patty, Cupcake, John, Noah, and Heather, the conve…

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Feeling Secure — Building Safety and Trust in Poly Relationships 44:38

1M ago44:38

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In Episode 18, Alonzo Banx brings together a familiar and lively panel — Heather, Cookie, Noah, Blake, and Lana — for a deep, candid conversation about what it really means to feel secure in polyamory. The discussion explores how love languages, trust, and communication shape emotional safety, and how security isn’t static — it’s something partners…

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New Relationship Energy — The High, the Hurt, and the Balance 39:57

1M ago39:57

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The PolySoCal crew dives deep into the electric, chaotic, and beautiful phenomenon known as New Relationship Energy (NRE) — that intoxicating rush when a new connection begins. Hosted by Alonzo Banx with Heather, Noah, Max, and Cupcake, the conversation explores how to recognize, manage, and sustain relationships when NRE hits hard. From emotional …

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Cupcake: Becoming My Authentic Self 39:40

2M ago39:40

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In this intimate and powerful one-on-one, Alonzo Banx sits down with Cupcake, one of the most loved voices of the PolySoCal community. For the first time, she shares her journey through trauma, recovery, and self-discovery — from surviving assault and toxic relationships to finding love, strength, and healing through kink, polyamory, and community.…

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What makes someone feel truly ‘part of the community 37:10

2M ago37:10

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In this heartfelt roundtable, the PolySoCal crew opens up about belonging, rejection, and what it truly means to feel part of a community. Hosted by Alonzo Banx with guests Lana, Noah, Ash, Sy, and Cupcake, this episode dives into the emotional undercurrents of inclusion — when we feel invited, when we don’t, and how our own perceptions shape that …

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Male Anxiety in Poly 41:14

2M ago41:14

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What does fear look like when you’re trying to love openly? In this episode, three men sit down to talk honestly about confidence, insecurity, aging, and the quiet ways anxiety shows up in polyamorous relationships. It’s not a debate or a lectureit’s a real conversation between friends who’ve lived the questions they’re asking. From feeling “replac…

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Types of Poly, Finding What Fits You 35:28

2M ago35:28

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Guest host Noah leads a lively and heartfelt discussion exploring the many forms of polyamory — from kitchen-table dynamics to monogamish relationships, harems of cuddle buddies, and solo poly living. The conversation opens with introductions from the full PolySoCal crew and new guests, each sharing their experiences and definitions of what “poly” …

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How to Join the Community, and Do It Right 41:52

3M ago41:52

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In this roundtable conversation, the PolySoCal Podcast takes on one of the most common questions newcomers ask: “How do I join the community and conduct myself properly?” Alonzo Banx is joined by Cupcake, Noah, Ash, Oslo, Heather, and Craig for an honest and sometimes raw discussion about the do’s and don’ts of entering poly and lifestyle spaces. T…

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Men – What to expect in the community 43:41

3M ago43:41

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Hosted by Alonzo Banx, this episode of the PolySoCal Podcast brings together a group of men—Jon, Beeb, Craig, Blake, Max, and Noah—for an unfiltered conversation about what it really takes to show up in shared spaces and non-monogamous dynamics. They tackle hard truths about ego, consent, communication, and emotional responsibility, sharing both pe…

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Ladies – What to expect in the community 31:57

3M ago31:57

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In this powerful episode of the PolySoCal Podcast, host Patty guides a roundtable of six incredible women—Heather, Jenna, Cupcake, Captain Lynn, and Lana—through a deeply honest conversation about what to expect when entering the world of open or non-traditional relationships. Drawing on lived experience and hard-earned wisdom, they explore how to …

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Unequal Playtime: Navigating Attention in Polyamory 37:41

3M ago37:41

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This episode of PolySoCal podcast dives into one of the most challenging and relatable dynamics in open relationships: the uneven balance of attention and playtime between men and women. Our panel of voices shared personal stories of jealousy, reassurance, cultural bias, and creative solutions—like being your partner’s wingwoman, setting clear agre…

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When four become family 45:45

4M ago45:45

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In this episode of the PolySoCal Podcast, Alonzo sits down with Patty, John, Heather, and Beeb — a four-person polycule — to talk about how their connection began, what it’s like to grow from swinging into a committed quad, and how they navigate the everyday challenges of jealousy, compersion, agreements, and family disclosure. From playful banter …

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So... I’ve Been Thinking: How Do We Even Start This Conversation? 34:47

4M ago34:47

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In this episode of the PolysoCal Roundtable Talk, host Alonzo Banx and a diverse group of guests discuss the intricacies of polyamorous relationships. They explore how to navigate the introduction of new partners, the importance of communication, and the lessons learned from past experiences. The conversation emphasizes the significance of mental h…

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What Is Poly, Really? 32:46

4M ago32:46

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What does the word “polyamory” actually mean anymore? In this thoughtful and sometimes spirited roundtable, Alonzo Banx opens the floor to unpack a question that’s become more complicated with time: Has the word “poly” lost its meaning—or expanded it? From ethical non-monogamy to monogamish dynamics, from swinging to polyfidelity, this episode dive…

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If Judgment Fell Away: How Would You Love? 30:57

4M ago30:57

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In this powerful, vulnerable roundtable, the PolySoCal community explores a single, profound question: “If society never judged your relationships, how would that change the way you love?” What unfolds is a raw and deeply human conversation about family rejection, corporate fear, the grief of lost friendships, and the bittersweet path to self-accep…

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Agreements in Action: Building Trust and Boundaries in Polyamory 25:53

5M ago25:53

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In this week’s PolySoCal Roundtable, host Alonzo Banx welcomes an engaging mix of voices—from seasoned polycule partners to a guest with a monogamish perspective—for an honest conversation about relationship agreements. Together, they explore how couples create, uphold, and evolve agreements that foster trust, respect, and safety in ethical non-mon…

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Beyond Equal Time: Presence, Intentionality, and Connection in Polyamory 31:23

5M ago31:23

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In this week’s PolySoCal Roundtable, host Alonzo Banx and an inspiring panel of voices explore one of the most persistent myths in ethical non-monogamy—the idea that fairness means splitting time equally between partners. Through candid stories, laughter, and heartfelt insights, they reveal why emotional presence, intentionality, and genuine connec…

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Love Beyond Limits: A Journey into Connection & Compersion 43:42

5M ago43:42

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In our very first episode of The PolySoCal Podcast, we sit down with Noah, Cookie, and Cupcake — a connected, loving polycule navigating life, love, and growth together. They share their journey from friendship to deep connection, the joys and challenges of joining an existing relationship, and the powerful lessons they’ve learned about compersion,…

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Unlearning Love: A Roundtable on Redefining Commitment 31:48

5M ago31:48

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In this special PolySoCal Podcast Roundtable, Alonzo Banx gathers voices from across our community — Cookie, Noah, Cupcake, Patty, and Captain Lin — for an open, fireside-style conversation about the beliefs around love and commitment we’ve all had to unlearn. From breaking free of “one true love” conditioning to learning that jealousy can be a tea…