Best Multiamory | Pleasure Podcasts Podcasts (2025)

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544 - Are You Sabotaging Your Relationships by Seeking Security? 58:51

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2d ago58:51

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Today we're discussing our drive to seek security in relationships, especially as economic uncertainty increases, and how sometimes, that can turn around and bite us. We'll be talking about why we seek security in relationships, some paradoxes of security, and as always, some tools to help better understand your own behavior around seeking security…

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543 - My Metamour Refuses to Meet Me: Listener Q&A 48:53

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Today we're fielding another question from one of our Supercast subscribers. We'll be discussing how to handle your metamour not wanting to meet you or be a part of your life. If you want one of your questions answered on a future Q&A episode, join our amazing community of listeners at . We offer sliding scale subscriptions so everyone can also get…

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542 - Is Emotional Intelligence the Key to Getting Out of Our Own Way? 58:24

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Today we're talking about emotional intelligence, self-sabotage, and being objective about our thoughts and emotions. Have you ever had a thought that won't go away for a long time, especially a negative one about yourself? Sometimes our insecurities take advantage of us and encourage us to engage in self-sabotaging behavior. We're going to talk to…

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541 - Make Agreements with Yourself, Not With Your Partner 55:18

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We're revisiting agreements, but this time with ourselves, not others. We're going to be talking about agreements, self agreements, how they differ from boundaries, and ways to generate self agreements so that you can start exploring what you expect from yourself in relationships versus what you expect from others. Dedeker's Constitution For subscr…

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540 - Banish the Ghost of Relationships Past 59:58

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This week we're bringing back a remastered episode about the ghosts of relationships past...and getting into a good relationship after being in a bad one. Do you have trouble trusting a good relationship? Are you always waiting for the other shoe to drop and things to turn bad? You might be suffering from relationship PTSD, which can inhibit your a…

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539 - Introducing My Polyamorous Partner to My Monogamous Parents: Listener Q&A 43:01

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This week, we're answering a question from one of our subscribers: how do I introduce my polyamorous partner to my monogamous parents? We'll be discussing ways to approach coming out to family, share some tips on how to make social situations run smoothly, and ways to handle potential conflict or big emotions. If you want one of your questions answ…

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538 - When Knowing Better Doesn't Mean Doing Better 1:05:06

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Today, we're discussing why we struggle to put the communication and relationship lessons we learn into practice. Current generations are more therapy-literate than ever, but that doesn't mean our relationships are healthier. What happens when everyone knows the psychological buzzwords but hasn't done the deeper work of integration and change? We'r…

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537 - Breaking the Cycle: Releasing the Grip of Control 56:47

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Welcome back to our series on control! This week, we're talking about control from the perspective of the person who wants to have the control or power in the relationship. There are a multitude of reasons why someone might want to control another person, which we're going to explore in this episode. We'll also discuss the science of control, and t…

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536 - Finding Your Voice: Navigating Control and Taking Back Your Power in Relationships 59:26

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Welcome to part one of our deep dive into control in relationships! Every relationship has power dynamics, but when they get out of control it can be devastating. In this episode, we'll be discussing the experience of loss of control in a relationship, why it might happen, and what to do if you find yourself on this end of the control spectrum. Joi…

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535 - How Do You Maintain Equity Across Multiple Relationships? Listener Q&A 38:17

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Today we're tackling a question from one of our Supercast subscribers about equity in multiple relationships, feel prioritized, and how to handle tough conversations about energy, money, and mismatched desire in relationships. Become one of our Supercast subscribers at multiamory.com/join to get your question answered on a future Q&A episode! Join …

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534 - When We're Asked to Change (and When It's Okay to Refuse) 1:06:25

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This week, we're diving into what happens when a partner asks you to change, whether it's a small behavioral change or a big fundamental or values change. Regardless of what kind, change can be difficult, for both the one asking for change and the one being asked to change. We're going to discuss the feelings that arise when being asked to change a…

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533 - How to be Dateable with Julie Krafchick & Yue Xu 1:09:45

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Today we're joined by Julie Krafchick and Yue Xu from the podcast Dateable to talk about--you guessed it--how to be dateable. We're going to be talking about traditional dating advice, dating archetypes, different perspectives on dating, and more! Julie and Yue are active daters turned dating insiders, and top influential voices of modern dating, r…

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532 - Is Attachment Theory Just Bullsh*t? 1:00:49

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We're returning to attachment theory this week as we go over some of the criticisms it has faced since rising in popularity. For some, attachment theory has been a powerful tool of self-discovery, but others dismiss it as pseudo pop psychology. Where do you fall on that spectrum of credibility? Today we're discussing the cases for and against attac…

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531 - What's Wrong with Enjoying Consensual Sex with Multiple People? Listener Q&A 57:02

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We're back with another Q&A episode this week! Today we'll be discussing some listener questions about using the word "love" in a relationship, polyamorous identity, and talking about non-monogamy with friends and family who think it's all about the sex. Join Dedeker and Orit Krug for our polyamory somatic retreat in northern Spain (September 22-25…

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530 - Why You Keep Having the Same Fight – 3 Toxic Patterns that Keep Us Stuck 55:49

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Today we're bringing back a popular episode on relationship conflict. We're talking about three different patterns that show up in conflicts, how to recognize which one is showing up for yourself, and discuss some ways to disrupt the pattern and create new choreography with your partner(s). Join Dedeker and Orit Krug for our polyamory somatic retre…

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529 - Yes, You Can Think Your Way Out of Your Feelings (Sometimes) 1:03:38

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Today we're discussing cognitive reappraisal, or the notion of thinking your way out of a negative emotional response to a given situation. We'll be going over research available on cognitive reappraisal, what it looks like in real life, and whether or not it's just gaslighting yourself into feeling like your relationship is better than it actually…

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528 - The Art of Stepping Back: De-escalation 1:05:44

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This week we're getting into the nitty gritty details of ending relationships, whether it's by breaking up or de-escalating. We'll be discussing all the different ways relationships constantly change, defining some terms for uncoupling, how to navigate the challenges of separating, and some practical ways you can make these transitions smoother, he…