Best M. Bruce Abbott Podcasts (2025)

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Anxious Attachment & Self-Worth (Attachment Styles Podcast Series) 25:59

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This episode explains why you look confident on the outside but still do not feel “enough” at home. I show how a hidden worth wound drives chasing, fixing, people-pleasing, and fear of conflict. You will learn simple steps to calm your body, keep your truth, and build real safety with your wife without begging for approval. What You’ll Learn: How a…

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Be Emotionally Safe For Her Without Becoming Smaller For Her (Attachment Styles Podcast Series) 29:28

4d ago29:28

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You do not create safety by shrinking. You create safety by staying rooted. This episode is for anxious or preoccupied men who feel they must keep the peace at all costs. You try to fix her mood. You say you are fine when you are not. You over-apologize and over-give. You disappear to avoid conflict. This does not build trust. It builds pressure. I…

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Sex: The Battle of Anxious vs Avoidant Attachment (Attachment Styles Podcast Series) 32:23

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Sex fights often are not about sex. They are about safety. If you have anxious attachment and your wife leans avoidant, your needs and her needs clash. You reach for closeness to feel calm. She steps back to feel safe. This episode explains why that happens and what to do instead. You will learn how to bring calm, invite freedom, and rebuild desire…

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10 Ways You Accidentally Push an Avoidant Wife Further Away (Attachment Styles Podcast Series) 28:00

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If you keep trying harder in your marriage and she keeps pulling away, you’re not crazy — and you’re not failing. You may just be anxious attached, and she may be avoidant attached. That means the way you try to connect may feel like pressure to her, even if your heart is in the right place. This episode breaks down 10 common things anxious husband…

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Anxious Attachment - 10 Truths (Attachment Styles Podcast Series) 25:31

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Do you feel anxious when your wife pulls away or goes quiet? Do you replay conversations and overanalyze every text? You’re not weak—you’re just carrying an anxious attachment style. This episode breaks down 10 clear truths about anxious attachment and how to find calm, strength, and security in love. You’ll hear real stories, simple examples, and …

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When Neediness Destroys Attraction 24:52

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Do you try harder and feel her pull away? This episode explains why neediness kills attraction and how you can shift into calm, steady leadership. You will learn clear steps to stop people-pleasing, hold your frame, and rebuild trust and desire. What you’ll learn: What neediness is and how it shows up Why pressure destroys safety and desire How to …

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When Sex Becomes About Control, Not Connection 20:42

13d ago20:42

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Do you push for sex to feel wanted, but still feel empty after? This episode explains why sex can turn into control, not connection. You will learn how to stop chasing validation and start building real safety, trust, and closeness. What you’ll learn (clear and simple): Why chasing sex often hides a need for validation How fear and shame turn desir…

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When You Feel Retaliated Against After Couples Counseling 11:38

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Have you ever left a couples counseling session feeling punished for being honest? Maybe you opened up, shared something vulnerable, and instead of connection — you got silence, coldness, or distance. You start thinking, “Why did I even bother saying anything?” You’re not crazy. You’re not weak. And you’re definitely not alone. In this episode of T…

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My Needs Feel Like a Burden to My Wife 12:04

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Have you ever calmly expressed your needs to your wife — only for her to be annoyed, angry, or shut down? You’re not yelling. You’re not blaming. You’re finally speaking with emotional maturity… and yet, she still treats your needs like they’re too much. In this episode of The Secure Husband Podcast, Bruce Abbott breaks down what’s really happening…

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How Do I Break Generational Patterns? 11:56

18d ago11:56

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Do you ever catch yourself saying something to your wife or kids and think, “ugh… that sounded just like my dad”? No matter how hard you try to be different, you keep falling into the same emotional patterns — anger, withdrawal, people-pleasing, shame, or silence. And deep down, you worry you’ll pass it all down to your kids too. In this episode of…

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How Can I Stop Overthinking Every Little Thing? 11:21

21d ago11:21

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Do you feel like your brain never stops? Like you’re constantly replaying conversations, analyzing your wife’s tone, or second-guessing everything you said? Overthinking can drain your energy, destroy your peace, and make your marriage feel heavier than it already is. In this episode of The Secure Husband Podcast, Bruce Abbott walks you through why…

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How Do I Stop Worrying About What Everyone Else Thinks? 11:51

27d ago11:51

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Do you ever feel like your whole life is a performance — constantly trying to please others, keep the peace, or avoid judgment? You say yes when you mean no. You hold back what you really think. You feel anxious if someone’s upset with you. Deep down, you’re tired of it — but you don’t know how to stop. In this episode of The Secure Husband Podcast…

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How Do I Know If I'm Abandoning Myself in Marriage? 13:14

28d ago13:14

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Have you ever caught yourself thinking, “I don’t even know who I am anymore”? Maybe you’re always keeping the peace, saying “it’s fine” when it’s not, or pretending your needs don’t matter. That’s not strength — that’s self-abandonment. In this episode of The Secure Husband Podcast, Bruce Abbott breaks down what it really means to lose yourself in …

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Why Does My Wife Shut Down When I Share My Feelings? 12:08

1M ago12:08

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Have you ever tried to share something real with your wife — your loneliness, stress, or sadness — and she just shuts down? Maybe she goes quiet, gets defensive, or seems to disappear emotionally. You’re left standing there, wondering what just happened — and why you feel worse for even trying. In this episode of The Secure Husband Podcast, Bruce A…

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Can I Be Happy In A Sexless Marriage? 12:13

29d ago12:13

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Can a man really be happy in a marriage without sex? Most husbands facing this question feel torn — wanting to stay faithful and kind, but also feeling unseen, rejected, and empty. You’re not broken for wanting intimacy. You’re not selfish for craving connection. You’re human. In this episode of The Secure Husband Podcast, Bruce Abbott shares the s…

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Why Do I Self-Sabotage Right Before Success? 14:24

1M ago14:24

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Do you ever pull away when things finally start to go right? Maybe your marriage starts improving, your business gains traction, or you feel more confident than ever — and then you suddenly check out, pick a fight, or quit. That’s self-sabotage. And it’s more common than you think. In this episode of The Secure Husband Podcast, Bruce Abbott explain…

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What Does It Really Mean If My Wife Never Wants Intimacy? 15:06

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By M. Bruce Abbott, M.A, CPC

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How Do I Stop Resenting My Wife For No Sex? 14:52

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Do you feel resentful toward your wife because of a lack of sex in your marriage? You’re not alone. Many men in sexless or low-sex marriages feel lonely, rejected, and ashamed. Resentment builds — not because you’re bad or broken, but because your deeper pain has gone unspoken. In this episode of The Secure Husband Podcast, Bruce Abbott shares the …

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Using Alcohol to Numb the Pain: How Self-Abandonment Keeps You Stuck 15:56

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Do you reach for a drink to take the edge off? Do you tell yourself it’s “just to relax” — but deep down you know it’s about numbing? Many men use alcohol to escape feelings of shame, stress, and loneliness. In this episode of The Secure Husband Podcast, Bruce Abbott explores how alcohol becomes less about celebration and more about self-abandonmen…

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Am I In A Toxic Relationship? 15:48

1M ago15:48

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Are you walking on eggshells in your marriage? Do you feel like nothing you do is ever enough, or that your needs are always dismissed? Many men wonder if they’re simply in a hard season… or if what they’re in has crossed the line into toxic. In this episode of The Secure Husband Podcast, Bruce Abbott shares what it means to face the truth about yo…

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Putting Yourself First: You Can Do It With Love and Empathy — It Doesn’t Mean You Have to Be a Jerk 15:24

1M ago15:24

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Many men lose themselves in marriage by always saying yes, avoiding conflict, and ignoring their own needs. They believe self-sacrifice equals love. But over time, this leads to burnout, resentment, and disconnection. The truth? Putting yourself first does not make you selfish — it makes you honest, present, and stronger for your family. In this ep…

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Am I Sacrificing Authenticity for Attachment? 11:56

2M ago11:56

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Many husbands silence their truth to keep the peace. They say yes when they mean no. They laugh off painful comments. They hold back needs to avoid conflict. Over time, this quiet self-betrayal leaves them empty, resentful, and unsure of who they really are. In this episode of The Secure Husband Podcast, Bruce Abbott unpacks why men trade authentic…

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Financial Stress Is Affecting My Marriage 16:27

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Financial stress can shake more than your bank account — it can shake the foundation of your marriage. When money feels tight, many men stop feeling like husbands and start feeling like failures. But the truth is, financial stress is about more than numbers. It touches safety, control, shame, and identity. In this episode of The Secure Husband Podc…

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How Do I Stop Questioning if I Am Man Enough? 17:38

2M ago17:38

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Do you ever catch yourself asking, “Am I man enough?” Maybe your wife is distant, critical, or cold, and every interaction leaves you doubting yourself. Maybe you’re working hard to provide, lead, and love your family, but no matter what you do — you still feel like you’re failing. That weight eats at your confidence and leaves you wondering if you…

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Why Do I Always Second-Guess Myself? 13:49

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Do you feel like you’re always second-guessing yourself in your marriage? You walk away from conversations wondering if you said the wrong thing, set the wrong boundary, or made the wrong choice. Over time, that constant doubt makes you feel smaller, weaker, and disconnected from the man you want to be. In this episode of The Secure Husband Podcast…

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I Feel Broken In My Marriage 15:32

2M ago15:32

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If you’ve ever said, “I feel broken in my marriage,” you’re not alone. Many men carry the weight of providing, protecting, and holding the family together — all while quietly falling apart inside. In this episode of The Secure Husband Podcast, Bruce Abbott shares why this happens, how one of his coaching clients rebuilt from rock bottom, and how yo…

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My Wife Doesn't Understand Me - What Now? 14:24

2M ago14:24

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Many husbands feel like their wives don’t understand them — and the pain runs deep. You try to explain yourself, but she misreads your tone, gets defensive, or shuts down. You feel invisible, frustrated, and alone. In this episode of The Secure Husband Podcast, Bruce Abbott explains why this happens, what’s really going on beneath the surface, and …

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I Had No idea I Struggled With Self-Worth 17:13

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Most men don’t realize they struggle with self-worth — until their marriage starts falling apart. You might not feel unworthy, but the patterns give it away: people-pleasing, shutting down, overreacting, craving validation, or collapsing when your wife pulls away. In this episode of The Secure Husband Podcast, Bruce Abbott breaks down how hidden be…

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Don't Make Your Wife Your Therapist 17:43

2M ago17:43

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Your wife is your partner — not your therapist. Too many men put the weight of their healing on their wives, expecting comfort, validation, or emotional guidance. This creates pressure, kills attraction, and leads to distance instead of connection. In this episode of The Secure Husband Podcast, Bruce Abbott explains why making your wife your therap…

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Real Change Requires Action, Not Just Information 15:14

2M ago15:14

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You’ve read the books. You’ve listened to the podcasts. You know the language of healing — triggers, emotional safety, nervous system. But here’s the truth: if you’re still stuck, it’s not because you don’t know enough. It’s because knowledge alone doesn’t change your life. Action does. In this episode of The Secure Husband Podcast, Bruce Abbott ex…

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Stop Doing Things In Secret (Practicing Integrity) 12:32

2M ago12:32

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Many men hide small things in their marriage — a deleted message, a hidden receipt, or avoiding a hard truth. You tell yourself, “It’s harmless” or “She’d overreact.” But here’s the truth: secrecy is not safety. It’s a prison. In this episode of The Secure Husband Podcast, Bruce Abbott explains why secrecy destroys self-respect, damages trust, and …

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Stop Beating Yourself Up 12:48

2M ago12:48

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So many good men punish themselves with self-blame. You think being hard on yourself makes you stronger. But the truth is, beating yourself up keeps you stuck in shame, fear, and disconnection. Healing doesn’t come from self-punishment. It comes from self-compassion, truth, and grounded leadership. In this episode of The Secure Husband Podcast, Bru…

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Practice Gratitude as A Pathway To Strength and Healing 13:18

2M ago13:18

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Gratitude is more than a cliché—it’s a lifeline for men who feel unseen, disconnected, or stuck in their marriage. You don’t heal by ignoring your pain. You heal by grounding yourself in truth. Gratitude isn’t about pretending things are fine. It’s about learning to see what is good while still being honest about what hurts. In this episode of The …

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Letting People Help You (A Response to the Previous Podcast About Asking for Help) 10:57

2M ago10:57

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Most men are good at giving—but freeze when it comes to receiving. You’ll support others, carry the load, and stay strong for everyone else… but when someone tries to help you? You brush it off, deflect, or say, “I’m fine.” Even when you’re not. In this episode of The Secure Husband Podcast, Bruce Abbott explains why letting people help you is not …

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Reaching Out For Help Is Not Weakness 9:56

2M ago9:56

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Most men were never taught how to ask for help. Instead, you were told to “man up,” push through, and figure it out on your own. But carrying pain in silence doesn’t make you strong—it makes you isolated. And isolation slowly destroys your marriage, your peace, and your sense of self. In this episode of The Secure Husband Podcast, Bruce Abbott brea…

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It's OK To Say No 13:07

2M ago13:07

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Most good men struggle to say “no” in their marriage. You want to keep the peace. You don’t want to be seen as selfish, cold, or unloving. But every time you say “yes” when your gut is screaming “no,” you abandon yourself—and that kills intimacy. In this episode of The Secure Husband Podcast, Bruce Abbott explains why saying “no” is not rejection, …

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Speak Up For Your Needs 12:42

3M ago12:42

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Do you struggle to ask for what you really want in your marriage? Maybe you stay silent, hint, or hope your wife will notice—but it only leads to resentment and disconnection. Speaking your needs calmly and clearly is not weakness. It’s leadership. In this episode of The Secure Husband Podcast, Bruce Abbott shows you how to break free from silence,…

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Action Leads To Courage 13:00

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Do you wait to feel “ready” before you take action in your marriage? Do you hold back, hoping the fear will go away first? The truth is, courage doesn’t come before action—it’s built by taking action, even when you’re afraid. In this episode of The Secure Husband Podcast, Bruce Abbott explains why waiting for fear to leave keeps you stuck, and how …

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Being Present In Your Marriage 15:50

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Do you feel like you check out when things get hard in your marriage? Maybe you zone out, distract yourself, or shut down when your wife pulls away. You’re not alone—and it doesn’t mean you don’t care. It means your body and mind are trying to protect you. In this episode of The Secure Husband Podcast, Bruce Abbott explains why presence—not control…

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Healing in A Sexless Marriage 15:53

3M ago15:53

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A sexless marriage is one of the deepest wounds a man can carry. It leaves you feeling unwanted, unseen, and rejected. But you are not broken for wanting sex. You are not wrong for craving connection. You are human. In this episode of The Secure Husband Podcast, we walk step by step through The Secure Husband Process to help you heal, reclaim your …

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Understanding False Core Beliefs and Where They Come From 12:59

3M ago12:59

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False core beliefs are the silent drivers that shape how you think, feel, and respond in marriage. They were formed in childhood, often from painful experiences, and they still influence your relationships today. In this episode of The Secure Husband Podcast, we uncover what false core beliefs are, where they come from, and how to break free from t…

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Men Need Connection Too 15:12

3M ago15:12

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Many men are starving for connection in their marriage but feel they can’t ask for it without being called needy or weak. The truth is simple: men need connection too. In this episode of The Secure Husband Podcast, I’ll show you how to honor your need for love and closeness without losing your strength or self-respect. You’ll learn how to stop hidi…

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When She Has Time for Her Phone, But Not for You 12:22

3M ago12:22

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It’s one of the most frustrating moments in marriage — you walk into the room, and your wife doesn’t look up from her phone. You try to talk, but she’s still scrolling. You want connection, but instead you feel invisible. In this episode of The Secure Husband Podcast, I’ll show you how to handle this without anger, guilt, or shutting down. You’ll l…

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Not Every Healing Journey Has A Fairy Tale Ending 11:49

3M ago11:49

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You can do all the work — heal childhood wounds, stay calm, lead with love — and your marriage still might not survive. This episode of The Secure Husband Podcast is about facing that truth without losing yourself. We talk about what to do when you’ve grown as a man, but your wife remains distant or checked out. It’s about detaching from the “fairy…

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Do You Struggle With Male Friendships? 12:28

3M ago12:28

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Many men start healing with one goal — to win back their wife’s affection. They work on themselves, stay calm, and show up differently… but inside, they’re still performing for approval. In this episode of The Secure Husband Podcast, you’ll learn why that approach keeps you stuck — and how to shift into real growth that lasts. What you’ll learn in …

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Healing For The Right Reasons 16:05

3M ago16:05

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Many men start healing with one goal — to win back their wife’s affection. They work on themselves, stay calm, and show up differently… but inside, they’re still performing for approval. In this episode of The Secure Husband Podcast, you’ll learn why that approach keeps you stuck — and how to shift into real growth that lasts. What you’ll learn in …

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How Do I Know When I’m Healed? 14:01

3M ago14:01

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You’ve done the work. You’ve stayed calm during fights. You’ve stopped yelling. You’ve started listening. But now you wonder… “How do I know if I’m really healed?” In this episode of The Secure Husband Podcast, we break it down in plain, simple steps. You’ll learn what real healing looks like — not perfection, but presence. Not control, but calm. H…

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Wounded Men Are Extremely Loyal — To a Fault 14:13

3M ago14:13

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Do you feel proud of your loyalty… but broken inside? In this video, we talk about how wounded men stay loyal — even when it’s hurting them. You’ll learn how to stop bleeding for approval and start living from truth and strength. Some men stay loyal to pain. To women who don’t care. To marriages that feel one-sided and cold. To roles where they car…

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You Are Worthy of Affection 16:47

3M ago16:47

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If your wife avoids touch, hugs, or affection, this episode is for you. It’s painful to feel unwanted. You might feel like something is wrong with you. But that thought is a lie. You are not broken. You are not too much. You are not unlovable. This video will help you stop blaming yourself. You’ll learn how to care for your heart, meet your own emo…

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When Your Wife Withholds Sex As Punishment 13:18

3M ago13:18

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If your wife withholds sex, it can feel like pain, punishment, or rejection. It hurts. It’s confusing. And it can make you feel small, angry, or lost. This episode helps you stop reacting and start healing. It shows you how to lead yourself with strength — even when your wife pulls away. What You Will Learn: ✅ Why some wives withhold sex ✅ What thi…