Best Kink Perspective Podcasts (2025)

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Season 4 Episode 37 - When Both Are Hurting: How to Care Without Losing Yourself... 40:50

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On today’s show, I discuss what it means to care for a partner when both of you are hurting. We look at the risks of one-sided care, the pressure of roles in D/s and other relationships, and the shifts that make support sustainable. This episode explores how to stay present without losing yourself, and how honesty and flexibility keep relationships…

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#23-Autopilot, Lots of Feelings and New Perspectives 45:17

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Jen and Noelle catch up about hormonal, seasonal and other changes, the mixed feelings of being uncomfortable in your own body and smarter ways to communicate about that. A lovely message from Jen's Spirit Guide comes through with words of affirmation including "Enjoyment (of the season of life you are in) is in the meaning." Instagram: @VaginaWhis…

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Ep. 51 - The Sound of Desire: Exploring the Importance of Moaning 14:11

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✨ In this episode, we dive into why moaning is so much more than just a sound—it’s an expression of pleasure, release, and connection. 💋 From boosting confidence to intensifying intimacy with a partner, moaning can transform your erotic experiences. We’ll explore how sound frees the body, enhances arousal, and creates a deeper energetic exchange du…

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Season 4 Episode 36 - Kink, Community, and the Politics of Silencing... 40:29

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On today’s show, I discuss how the rise of silencing, exclusion, and conformity is affecting kink communities. We look at the psychology of groupthink, the danger of rhetoric turning violent, and why protecting difference is essential to the foundations of BDSM. At its heart, kink depends on consent, creativity, and dignity. When fear takes their p…

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#22 part 1-Choices, Outgrowing Fantasy and Being Grateful 36:56

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Jen and Noelle talk about possible past/parallel life impacting today including choices, decisions and growing past being stuck and bringing your energy with you. Jen shares about a Shamanic visit with her recently departed dad. Lots of vulnerability and some genuine laughs. Instagram: @VaginaWhispering Email Jen and Noelle at: VaginaWhispering@Gma…

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#18 Part 2-Queer, Kink and Conversation with Big Dick Energy's Whitni Miller (TW) 26:41

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Whitni Miller is a Queer Couples Intimacy Coach and Sex Educator. Whitni shares stories and examples and tips of how to increase communication, safety, security, related to intimacy and connection. She reminds us that we own ourselves and that "pleasure is the fuel for your productivity." She brings in BDSM principles, conscious kink, TAG (trauma i…

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#19 The Energetic Impact of a Hysterectomy and More with Maria and her Vagina 28:18

9d ago28:18

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Jen and Noelle interview Maria, an intuitive medium, looking for more connection and communication with her body. Lots of metaphors, loving suggestions, humor, a bit of snark and lots of info to get back to be more fully alive and integrated. Instagram: @VaginaWhispering Email Jen and Noelle at [email protected] Website: www.VaginaWhisperi…

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#21-Braces, Self-Consciousness and EmBracing You Now 36:29

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Jen shares about how getting braces has impacted her. Noelle talked about some of her own self-consciousness that is coming up at this time. Both look for ways to outgrow self-consciousness and do things to feel good now. Instagram: @VaginaWhispering Email Jen and Noelle at [email protected] Website: www.VaginaWhispering.com Disclaimer: Wh…

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#20 - THE Vagina Whisperer shares a wealth of knowledge. 47:19

9d ago47:19

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Sara Reardon, The Vagina Whisperer, really graces us with her presence, wisdom and passion for teaching women about their vaginas, pelvic floor needs and so much more. Her book, FLOORED: A Complete Guide to Women’s Pelvic Floor Health at Every Age and Stage is her first book, is available through Amazon and will start shipping on June 10th. Here is…

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Ep. 50 - Reclaiming Pleasure: Intimacy, Imprints & Liberation with Khrys & Dalya 1:16:45

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✨ Episode Description ✨ What does it really mean to be sexually liberated? In this powerful conversation, Dalya dives deep into the layers of sexual liberation—from unlearning shame to embracing pleasure without apology. She opens up about the ways sexual imprints—those early messages, experiences, and conditioning around sex—can shape the way we l…

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Ep. 49 - Beyond Vanilla: Exploring the World of Kink with a Professional 1:19:59

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Episode Summary: In this episode of Sex Talk with Khrys, I sit down with a seasoned kink professional, Sir Lezzus who brings years of wisdom, experience, and passion for the art of kink. This conversation is raw, real, and oh-so-revealing. From safety to seduction, to fantasy, we dive into what kink really is beyond the stereotypes. What You’ll Lea…

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Ep. 48 - Own It: Power, Sex & The Man Behind the Business 57:59

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Own It: Power, Sex & The Man Behind the Business 💋 SHOW DESCRIPTION He’s not in the kitchen—but he owns the damn kitchen. In this episode, I sit down with a young, successful restaurant owner and we strip back the layers of ambition, image, and masculinity. What’s love like when you run the show? What turns him on when the doors close? And what kin…

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Season 4 Episode 35 - Jealousy, Envy, and the Digital Trigger... 40:25

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On today’s show, I discuss the sting of jealousy and envy in the digital age, and how even a simple like on social media can trigger deep insecurities. We’ll break down the difference between jealousy and envy, explore how exclusivity is tested in public spaces, and talk about practical ways to respond when those pangs hit. I’ll also bring this int…

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Season 4 Episode 34 - My Interview with Redwarrior... 57:03

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On today’s show, I sit down with redwarrior, a Leatherwoman, author, teacher, and titleholder who has been part of the BDSM community for decades. We talk about what first drew her into the lifestyle, how she discovered her roles as both sadist and masochist, dominant and submissive, and her passion for the Leather community. We explore her views o…

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Season 4 Episode 33 - Gender, Power, and the Pressure to Stay Put... 33:57

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On today’s show, I discuss how social pressure and conditioning shape the way we experience power dynamics in kink. We’ll look at why curiosity about crossing the slash often collides with fear, shame, and self-judgment, and how internalized expectations can hold us back from exploring roles that might feel authentic. This episode challenges the id…

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Season 4 Episode 32 - The Messy Middle: Between New and Grounded... 37:48

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On today’s show, I discuss the messy middle of kink, that stage where the thrill of being new has faded but you do not yet feel fully grounded. We explore what this phase looks like, why it often feels awkward or isolating, and how psychology helps explain identity drift, loss of novelty, and comparison traps. I also talk about how to reframe this …

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Season 4 Episode 31 - Reclaiming Kink After Abuse... 34:50

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On this episode, I discuss the real process of reclaiming your kink after it has been used to harm you. From understanding the unique impact of abuse in kink, to navigating the messy middle of recovery, to taking small steps toward safety and choice, this conversation is about rebuilding trust in yourself and others without losing the parts of you …

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Season 4 Episode 30 - When Sadism Becomes the Self... 25:31

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On today’s show, I discuss what happens when sadism shifts from a chosen erotic expression to the only way a top feels seen, safe, or connected. We’ll explore how dominance can begin with presence and intention, but over time, turn into emotional regulation or even identity. This episode isn’t about shame, it’s about reflection. I’ll walk through t…

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Season 4 Episode 29 - Being Outed – The Cost of Exposure... 39:15

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On today’s show, I discuss what happens when someone in the kink community is outed, whether by carelessness or intent, and why it’s a serious breach of trust and consent. I share real stories, including my own recent experience, and explore the psychological fallout, community responsibility, and the quiet ways outing erodes safety. This episode i…

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Ep. 47 - 💋 Sex Talk With Khrys: The Art of Dirty Talk 💋 24:52

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💋 Sex Talk With Khrys: The Art of Dirty Talk 💋 In this episode, Khrys breaks down the art of dirty talk and how it can ignite your sex life, deepen connection, and help you confidently express your desires. We explore different dirty talk styles so you can find what feels sexy, playful, and authentic to YOU. ✨ What We Covered: • Why dirty talk matt…

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Season 4 Episode 28 - Pickup Play, Negotiation, and the Crossroads of Swinger and BDSM Culture... 37:36

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On this episode, I discuss what happens when BDSM and swinger cultures overlap in shared spaces, and why the differences between them matter. Prompted by a listener’s question, I break down how consent, structure, and intention can quickly get blurred in environments that weren’t built with kink ethics in mind. From navigating pickup play to holdin…

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Season 4 Episode 27 - Living with Agency, Not Obligation... 39:25

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On today's show, I discuss the often misunderstood concept of agency, what it is, what it isn’t, and why so many people unknowingly live without it. We explore how agency gets eroded through trauma, family systems, cultural roles, and relationship dynamics, including in kink and power exchange. I break down the difference between agency and control…

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Season 4 Episode 26 - Emotional Needs and Navigating Relationships... 46:25

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On today's show, I discuss the challenge of feeling like you're "too much" in relationships, especially when your emotional and sexual needs aren't being met. We explore how emotional needs are not too big but are often about finding the right compatibility with someone who can truly meet you where you are. Whether you’re in a traditional or BDSM r…

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Season 4 Episode 25 - The Urge to Lose... 37:20

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On today’s show, I discuss what it really means when someone feels the urge to lose. To give in, fold, apologize, or beg for forgiveness, not out of peace but out of fear. We look at the collapse response as a survival strategy, not a flaw, and explore how it shows up in both vanilla and kink relationships. I break down the difference between colla…

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#18 Part 1 - Queer, Kink and Conversation with Big Dick Energy's Whitni Miller (TW) 33:09

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Whitni Miller is a Queer Couples Intimacy Coach and Sex Educator. Whitni shares stories and examples and tips of how to increase communication, safety, security, related to intimacy and connection. She reminds us that we own ourselves and that "pleasure is the fuel for your productivity." She brings in BDSM principles, conscious kink, TAG (trauma i…

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Season 4 Episode 24 - Trauma Bonding in Relationships... 29:50

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On today’s show, I discuss trauma bonding, what it is, how it forms, and why it feels so powerful. We take a clinical and grounded look at the psychological mechanisms behind trauma bonding, from intermittent reinforcement to early survival adaptations shaped by attachment wounds. I break down how these patterns show up in both vanilla relationship…

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Season 4 Episode 23 - Love Bombing: Intensity Isn’t Intimacy... 38:45

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On today’s show, I discuss the reality behind love bombing: what it is, why it works, and how it shows up in both vanilla and kink dynamics. We’ll look at the psychology behind the behavior, the emotional impact on the person receiving it, and the signs you might already be in it without realizing. From rushed intimacy to coercive affection, I brea…

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Season 4 Episode 22 - When the Terms Change... 36:00

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On today’s show, I discuss what happens when the relationship you built no longer fits the life you’re living now. I explore the need for renegotiation, not because something is broken, but because people change. From emotional contracts and outdated roles to attachment patterns and the psychology of growth, I break down why honest check-ins matter…

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Ep. 46 - Finance Over Love: When Love Isn’t Enough 49:56

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💔 Episode Summary: In this raw and unapologetic episode, Khrys sits down with a woman who chose financial stability over romantic fantasy. After years of marriage, she made the bold decision to walk away—not because she stopped loving her husband, but because he consistently failed to meet the financial responsibilities she believed came with being…

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Season 4 Episode 21 - Erotic Mismatch in Relationships... 39:09

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On today’s show, I discuss what happens when love and erotic identity don’t align. Can a relationship survive when one partner is kinky and the other isn’t? I explore the emotional split, the impact of performative dynamics, the hope that love can “convert” desire, and the quiet cost of suppressing who you are to stay connected. This is an honest l…

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Season 4 Episode 20 – The Rise of Trauma-Irresponsible Educators in Kink... 41:36

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On today’s show, I discuss the growing misuse of trauma language in kink education and why it’s more than just a trend. From burnout worksheets shared without context to influencers offering therapy-adjacent advice without credentials, we’re exploring where personal experience stops and clinical responsibility begins. I break down the differences b…

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Ep. 45 - Body Count Battles: Truth, Ego & the Double Standard "A BVI Perspective" 1:05:00

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In this unfiltered and island-flavored episode, Khrys sits down with two bold men from Tortola, BVI, to unpack a hot and controversial topic — does a woman’s body count really matter? Or is it just a reflection of fragile egos and outdated expectations? We dive deep into the double standards, male insecurities, and the emotional triggers behind “th…

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Season 4 Episode 19 - Ghosting, Autonomy, and the Cost of Closure... 29:00

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In this episode, I return to a topic I covered early on: rejection resilience. This time, I’m taking a direct look at ghosting. We explore the difference between hurt and harm, why not every disappearance is an act of betrayal, and how emotional entitlement shows up in the aftermath. For those in the BDSM community, where intensity and vulnerabilit…

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Season 4 Episode 18 - The Slow Burn of Resentment in Power Exchange... 34:07

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On today’s episode, I discuss how resentment takes root in power exchange relationships and why it often goes unnoticed until real damage is done. I explore the emotional cost of silence, how forgiveness gets misused, and why avoiding conflict can slowly erode trust and connection. This is a conversation about clarity over comfort, and what it real…

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#17 Tantra, Subtleties, the Art of Love and Pleasure with Francoise Ginsberg, PhD 43:43

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Francoise Ginsberg, Tantra teacher for 40 years joins Jen and Noelle to share about the deeper meaning behind Tantra being the idea of expansion. She also talks about different ways to connect using the principles of acceptance and connection with one's own body, surrender being key to pleasure, alchemy versus chemistry and what men and women need …

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#16 Love Languages, Learning and Layers Part 2 25:21

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Timeless classic, The Five Love Languages, is broken down and applied with the help of Jen, Noelle and ChatGPT. As always, honesty, humor, friendship and caring as we talk about tending to the relationships in our lives. Instagram: @VaginaWhispering Email Jen and Noelle at [email protected] Website: www.VaginaWhispering.com Disclaimer: Whi…

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#16: Love Languages, Learning and Layers Part 1 35:43

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Timeless classic, The Five Love Languages, is broken down and applied with the help of Jen, Noelle and ChatGPT. As always, honesty, humor, friendship and caring as we talk about tending to the relationships in our lives. Instagram: @VaginaWhispering Email Jen and Noelle at [email protected] Website: www.VaginaWhispering.com Disclaimer: Whi…

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#15 - Reaching out with your heart first, Connecting and Pear Sauce 42:43

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Jen and Noelle talk about different ways of connecting including their recent in-person meeting, the biggest lesson from Jen's daughter, Teal's intense sensory therapy and how a non-verbal/verbal-ish person got Noelle to bring her pear sauce. Instagram: @VaginaWhispering Email Jen and Noelle at [email protected] Website: www.VaginaWhisperi…

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Ep. 44 Unmarried, Satisfied & LOVING IT 1:18:50

5M ago1:18:50

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On this episode of Sex Talk With Khrys, we’re breaking down the myth that marriage is the only path to satisfaction. Our guest is single, sexually liberated, emotionally whole, and deeply fulfilled—without a ring in sight! We talk: • Reclaiming your body and pleasure on your own terms • Emotional peace vs. relationship pressure • Dating for fun, no…

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Season 4 Episode 17 – Craving Punishment: BDSM, Shame, and the Psychology of Discipline 28:15

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On today’s show, I discuss the eroticism of punishment, and why, for many, it’s not about pain but about being seen. I explore how early attachment wounds, shame, and emotional neglect can shape our adult desires, especially in kink and power exchange dynamics. This episode dives into the psychology of arousal, trauma reenactment, and the thin line…

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Ep. 43 Unapologetically Him: A Deep Dive Into Gay Male Sexuality 1:13:48

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In this candid and unfiltered episode of Sex Talk with Khrys, we sit down with a proud gay man who takes us on a raw and intimate journey through his sexuality. From early awakenings to navigating desire, pleasure, shame, and freedom—no topic was off limits. We unpack stereotypes, celebrate liberation, and explore what it means to truly own your er…

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Season 4 Episode 16 - BDSM and Alcohol and Substance Use in Dungeon/Event Spaces... 43:50

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On today’s show, I discuss the growing trend of drinking and substance use at dungeons and BDSM events. As different lifestyles like polyamory and swinging increasingly overlap with kink spaces, the standards around consent, autonomy, and responsibility are starting to shift, and not in ways that protect the community. I break down why sobriety mat…

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Ep. 42 Healed and Ready 54:26

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In “Healed and Ready,” we dive into the vibrant journey of life after divorce for women in their 30s. This empowering episode explores how shedding the weight of an old relationship can spark a personal rebirth – from rediscovering your sensual self to rebuilding unshakable self-worth. You’re not alone in this transformation: nearly 70% of divorces…

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Season 4 Episode 15 - BDSM and Personal Power and Sovereignty... 25:31

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Sovereignty On today’s episode, I discuss personal power and sovereignty, not as abstract ideas but as lived experiences that shape how we navigate identity, roles, and relationships. I explore the difference between positional power and personal power, how trauma impacts our ability to trust ourselves, and what it means to reclaim our sense of sel…

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Ep. 41: From Order my Shots to Order my Steps... 1:21:23

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In this raw, reflective, and real conversation, Khrys sits down with the vibrant and unapologetic Isoke—whose journey has taken her from the wild nights of “order my shots” to the deeply intentional path of “order my steps.” We dive into her transformation from living for the moment to living with purpose, pleasure, and power. Isoke opens up about …

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Season 4 Episode 14 - BDSM and Trauma vs. Desire... 33:00

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Does trauma cause BDSM desires? Is kink just a reenactment of old wounds? Or can it be something more, a form of healing, reclamation, or simply joy? I break down the difference between influence and origin, explore what it means when kink feels familiar, and offer a path forward grounded in choice, consent, and self-understanding. This is not abou…

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Season 4 Episode 13 - BDSM and the Sex Offender Debate... 33:34

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On this episode, I discuss a topic that continues to challenge kink communities everywhere: should individuals on the Sex Offender Registry be allowed into public events or dungeons? I explore the emotional and psychological impact these decisions have, not just on survivors but on entire communities. From leadership accountability to the erosion o…

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Ep. 40: Postpartum and Still Drippin 59:57

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Postpartum is still dripping… Let’s be real—postpartum isn’t just about bouncing back. It’s the leaking, the losing yourself, the silent cries in the shower, and trying to find the woman you were before your body, your mind, and your life changed forever. In this episode, we get into the thick of it with one woman’s raw, unfiltered postpartum journ…

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Season 4 Episode 12 - BDSM and Coercion, Boundaries and Consent... 30:40

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On this episode, I discuss coercion, boundaries, and consent, not as buzzwords, but as lived realities inside power exchange relationships. We break down what these terms actually mean, how they get confused or manipulated in kink spaces, and why that confusion causes real harm. I speak to the ways coercion can be disguised as Dominance or devotion…

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Ep. 39: Under the Sheets with Two Sex Coaches: What We Wish Everyone Knew 1:15:29

6M ago1:15:29

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In this raw and revealing episode, two powerhouse sex coaches crawl under the sheets — not just with each other, but with you, the listener — to share the truths we wish everyone knew about sex, intimacy, desire, and real connection. Join Sex Coach Aspen and Khrystal Jones as they break down: • What keeps people stuck in unsatisfying sex lives • Wh…