Best Kerrah E. Fabacher, LPC S Podcasts (2025)

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122. "Clear is Kind. Unclear is Unkind." 11:19

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Digging into this quote from Brene Brown today, especially some specific ways being unclear with others and ourselves is unkind. Listen in. Kerrah's Instagram Be Known, the Podcast Instagram Website

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121. The Five Trauma Responses 13:27

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Last week, we talked about three things the nervous system needs to feel safe, and this week, I'm briefly explaining the five trauma responses of the nervous system when it DOESN'T feel safe. Follow me on Instagram !

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120. What We Need to Feel Safe 12:35

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Our nervous system needs three main things in order to feel safe according to Polyvagal Theory. In this episode, we're talking about all three! Check us out on Instagram

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119. Self-compassion vs. Compassion for Others 8:06

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These two don't need to be at war with each other. They're on the same side. Let's talk more about what it can look like to have some compassion for ourselves and for others. www.instagram.com/kerrahelizabeth www.instagram.com/beknownthepodcast

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118. Stop Apologizing for Taking Up Space 9:59

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You don't have to keep apologizing for who you are and how you show up in the world. You don't have to become small to not make waves. You can take up space because you matter. Listen in. One- on -one coaching: [email protected]

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117. Grieving Someone Who's Still Living 16:35

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Grief shows up in so many forms., but it can be complicated to grieve someone who is still alive. Listen in.

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116. When Relationships Fail 13:57

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Not all relationships last forever. Sometimes, that's relieving. And sometimes? It sucks. Sometimes it hurts so much you can barely breathe. I'm sharing some of my story today, and I hope it reminds you that you aren't alone. That I have broken relationships, too. It was hard to come back to this podcast space, but I'm thankful to be here. So come …

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115. When People Don't Understand Your Boundaries 13:49

1y ago13:49

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Because they won't sometimes. Sometimes they'll try and still not understand. Sometimes they won't try to understand at all and makes all kinds of assumptions about your boundaries. Resources and Links: Instagram- @kerrahelizabeth and @beknownthepodcast Want to inquire about working with me one-on-one? Email [email protected] with any questio…

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114. What All Humans Need 11:59

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We're all different and unique, but there are some things that connect us all. At our core, all humans have many of the same longings and needs. Listen in. Links mentioned: @beknownthepodcast or @kerrahelizabeth on Instagram [email protected] for one-on-one coaching inquiries

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113. "Help Me Understand" 8:15

1+ y ago8:15

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Let's talk about a simple empathy statement that can be so helpful to diffuse tension in hard conversations and moments. Resources and Links: Episode 24: Practice Active Listening Episode 85: Practicing Empathy Instagram: @beknownthepodcast or @kerrahelizabeth

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112. From the Archives of Our Favorites--Picket Fences and Good Boundaries 18:23

1+ y ago18:23

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Originally published as Episode 6, let's talk about boundaries in relation to closeness and distance in relationships with one of my favorite metaphors-- houses with picket fences. Follow along with me on Instagram at @beknownthepodcast or @kerrahelizabeth

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111. The Process of Forgiveness (and why it's hard) 18:36

1+ y ago18:36

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This is the second part of a two-part mini series on forgiveness. Today, we're talking about what forgiveness entails and why it's so hard sometimes. Listen in, Resources and Links Mentioned: Forgiveness definition Lysa TerKeurst's Forgiving What You Can't Forget Instagram: @beknownthepodcast or @kerrahelizabeth…

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110. What Forgiveness Is and What It Isn't 16:32

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Forgiveness is a really tough topic, because though it is something that is good for us all to learn and to practice, it is nuanced and complicated and so, so hard. Here's more of what I've learned about forgiveness over the years. Resources and Links mentioned: https://www.compassionandwisdom.org/blog/2023/9/19/respect-the-key-to-success-happiness…

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109. The Most Generous Interpretation 11:29

1+ y ago11:29

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There is usually a more generous interpretation of how someone is acting than what we see on the surface. This concept is from Dr. Becky of Good Inside, and I've shared it with you to help be able to apply to your relationships. Links and Resources: Dr. Becky See the Inner Child Episode @beknownthepodcast or @kerrahelizabeth on Instagram…

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108. A Season of the Unseen 10:57

1+ y ago10:57

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After a long break, the podcast is back! Sometimes we can be in seasons where we are more seen, and others where we need to be unseen. And sometimes that unseen season lasts longer than we expect it to. But it's just what I needed. Connect with me more over on Instagram: @beknownthepodcast @kerrahelizabeth…

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107. Reflections on 2023 10:56

2y ago10:56

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For the final episode of the year, I love to go back and reflect. I hope you can hear your story in some of mine. I'll see you in the New Year.

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106. Honor What's It's Taken You to Survive 11:24

2y ago11:24

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We've all had to survive. And that in of itself is extremely hard. So it seems like it's time to honor what it's taken for us to survive. Listen in. Website Instagram

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105. Permission to Name What You Want 13:36

2y ago13:36

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How many of us have been conditioned to believe that our wants and desires don't matter or that they're inherently wrong? So we don't really ever get acquainted with or acknowledge our wants. But we do have permission to want. And we have permission to name what we want. Listen in. Resources mentioned and links: The Soul of Desire by Curt Thompson …

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104. The Four Cs of Communication 11:18

2y ago11:18

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Let's talk about things we must remember when talking with someone about something hard, like something they've done to hurt us, something we've done to hurt them, or something they've done that's caused emotional distress in some way. There are ways to go about these kind of moments, so let's all do our best.…

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103. The Knowledge of Good and Evil 13:17

2y ago13:17

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There is so much pain. So much trauma. So much sorrow. So much grief. Too much knowledge of good and evil. The world is longing for the light. For life instead. Resources Mentioned in this Episode: Every Moment Holy, Volume 2 Follow along on Instagram More resources and how to connect with Kerrah

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102. Pursuers and Withdrawers 18:02

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Coined by Dr. Sue Johnson, founder of EFT, pursuers and withdrawers are often the roles people play in their close relationships, especially romantic relationships. Some relationships may have two pursuers. Some two withdrawers. But many times one is the pursuer and one the withdrawer, and it causes a lot of tension and conflict. So let's talk look…

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101: We All Process Differently 15:18

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We all need to process through our experiences. We may not always be able to know the meaning behind something or why it happened in our lives, but we can understand it more fully and notice how we feel and think in it, because of it. Today, we're talking about the difference between internal and external processors, as well as slow vs. fast proces…

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100. Cheers to 100 Episodes! 12:09

2y ago12:09

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Man, what a ride! Can't believe we've made it to 100 episodes. Listen in for some of the story behind the show and what the podcast has taught me over the last several years.

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99. When Someone's Story Bumps Up Against Your Own 9:03

2y ago9:03

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Stories draw us together, but sometimes someone else's story triggers us because it's a little too similar to our own. Listen in for how to handle this when it happens.

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98. Not All Connection is Created Equal 12:09

2y ago12:09

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We all need connection, but not all connection is the same. There are various types of connection, and there are different levels of connection, too, based on the different kinds of relationships we have. So let's identify these kinds of connection so we understand them better. Come connect with me on our new Instagram page: Instagram…

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97. A Gentle Reminder 7:45

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It's so good to be back! We've taken a couple of months off, and now I'm reminding listeners what this podcast is all about as we ease into new episodes this fall! Listen in. Other resources and how to connect: www.kerrahfabacher.com Instagram www.instagram.com/beknownthepodcast

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96. Reactive Boundaries vs. Proactive Boundaries 10:38

2y ago10:38

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For our last episode in summer '23, we're talking about how to have proactive boundaries, and how they're different from reactive boundaries. Listen in.

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95. Felt Safety vs. Actual Safety 10:28

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Felt safety is one of the most important things in our healing journeys. We should shoot for actual safety, too, but let's talk about the difference between the two. Resources Mentioned: Strong Like Water, By Aundi Kolber

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94. Retell the story you've told yourself (about yourself) 9:58

2+ y ago9:58

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Narratives are powerful, but they can be changed. What if it's possible to change the narrative we have about ourselves? Resources and Links Mentioned: Healing Through Words, By Rupi Kaur

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93. Grace is for the things we don't know 8:30

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Because we never know what someone may be walking through.

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92. What I'd Wish I'd Known About Friendship When I Was Younger 14:05

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We all grow and change through the years, and hopefully, we mature, too. I wish I'd known (and done) some things differently regarding friendships, so here are some of those things so you (or a young person you know) can begin to start approaching friendship in more healthy ways. Resources and Links Mentioned: Episode 43: Safe People Safe People, b…

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91. God Hears (A Blessing) 7:28

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Even when we're silent, He hears.

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90. Boundaries Can Heal the Nervous System 12:32

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Boundaries are all kinds of magic. Let's talk about the nervous system and how boundaries can help the nervous system get regulated and reduce stress. Links and Resources Mentioned in This Episode: MHS Article APA on Trauma Instagram post on boundaries and trauma Boundaries Coaching Aundi Kolber's Try Softer and Strong Like Water…

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89. What to Do When Your Friend Gets Married with Mary B. Safrit 13:03

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MaryB. Safrit is an author, producer, and singles coach passionate about closing the gap between what the church offers and what single Christians need. Her book, The Single Christian's Church Survival Guide: How to Navigate Church Culture and Conversations Without Losing Your Mind, is available on Amazon. You can listen to Unsuitable with MaryB. S…

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88. Parent Yourself 14:15

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Part 2 of 2 of the inner child content, today we're talking about how to parent yourself in ways you needed to be parented as a child. Nurture, Protect, and Counsel. Listen in. Resources and Links Mentioned: Sponsor an episode: email [email protected] Follow me on Instagram @kerrahfabacher

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87. See the Inner Child 11:35

2+ y ago11:35

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What if we chose to see beyond others' behaviors, beyond their defenses, and saw the inner child in them instead? It could be transformative in our relationships. Listen in. Don't forget! Follow, Rate, and Review the show! How to financially support the podcast (just click the "Support" button) Come follow me!…

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86. Find the Light (A Meditative Practice) 8:16

2+ y ago8:16

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As the podcast preps to take a break during this Lent season, I wanted to do something a bit different today. This is a meditative practice for when the darkness feels a bit too dark and when the light is hard to find. May this season be healing. And I'll see you soon.

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85. Practicing Empathy 14:29

2+ y ago14:29

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Most people are beginning to realize how empathy needs to play a role in all relationships, but they're not sure how. In this episode, we'll give some specific statements and behaviors to help. Resources and Links Mentioned in the Episode: One-on-one coaching Episode 72: Make Space for Interruptions

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84. On Celebrating Relationships and Dating Yourself 10:41

2+ y ago10:41

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Oops! For those who already heard the unedited version that accidentally got released, here's the cleaned up version! :) Cheers to learning how to date ourselves and push back on the culture that says Valentine's is just for romance.

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83. How Your Story Affects Your Relationships 13:58

2+ y ago13:58

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We all have a story. And if we're not willing to look back at it, process it, move through it, and resolve it, our relationships will suffer. Sometimes, they'll suffer greatly. Let's talk about the impact our stories can have. Resources and Links Mentioned: To Be Told, by Dan Allender Become a monthly supporter!…

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82. Relational Wholeness 11:42

2+ y ago11:42

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That's what we're striving for, right? Listen in for a gentle reminder of why relational wholeness matters, some signs your relationships may be unhealthy, and questions to ask yourself to begin working toward health.

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81. Endings and Beginnings 13:55

2+ y ago13:55

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Entering a New Year can be so quick that we neglect to slow down and reflect on what we just ended. And we do this when lots of things end and begin in our lives, so to welcome us back to the podcast after a break, I'm reflecting, too. Listen in.

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80. Reflections on 2022 14:33

3y ago14:33

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As I prepare to enter into a more quiet season during Advent, this will be the last episode of 2022, and I thought it'd be fitting just to spend time reflecting on the year together. Some come on in a sit a while. Grab a cup of coffee and listen in.

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79. Respect the Autonomy of Others 14:07

3y ago14:07

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People's choices are their own to make, and we need to let them have autonomy to make them. Listen in to what this can look like for us in a healthy way.

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78. Developing More Secure Attachments 14:13

3y ago14:13

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As a follow-up to the last episode, today, we're digging deeper into secure attachment and how to get there. This is is one of the most important topics you'll ever need to talk about and understand as you pursue healthier relationships, so listen in. Resources and Links Mentioned in Episode: Questions to Build Emotional Awareness The Anatomy of Tr…

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77. On Attachment Styles and the Journey to More Secure Attachments 16:48

3y ago16:48

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Written by my friend and boss, Carianne Pritchett, a Licensed Professional Counselor, Episode 77 is her story of how she realized she didn't know secure attachments in her relationships and how she began to heal. We're talking briefly about attachment styles and beginning the conversation on how to heal and develop more secure attachments. Next epi…

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76. How to Know When to Walk Away 18:00

3y ago18:00

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I can't tell you how many times I've had this conversation lately-- people who are struggling in their relationships, something major had happened, the same old patterns are happening and nothing's changing. And they don't know whether to leave the relationship or stay. This could be in many different types of relationships, too, not just romantic.…

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75. Be Intentional 14:31

3y ago14:31

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We talk about being intentional with others, but what does it mean? In this episode we're talking about how to be intentional in our relationships. Listen in. Resources and Links Mentioned in This Episode: Monday Minute Instagram Website

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74. When You Expect Too Much of Yourself 13:28

3y ago13:28

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We aren't always very kind to ourselves. I think a lot of the expectations we have of ourselves are unrealistic and unhealthy, so let's talk about how to adjust them so we can be kinder. And more compassionate and gracious. Listen in. Resources and Links Mentioned in This Episode: Episode 17: Adjust Your Expectations Instagram Website…

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73. How to Practice Genuine Apology 15:18

3y ago15:18

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As humans, we all need to do better at apology, normalizing it and practicing it in effective, honest ways. Let's jump into what genuine apology is and is not. Listen in. Resources and Links Mentioned in This Episode: Full Life Christian Counseling Blog Post: Let's Normalize Genuine Apology Instagram Website…