Best Iona Monk / Pam Stewert Podcasts (2025)

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ep 120 / Making Peace with Anger (Without Exploding) 53:25

7d ago53:25

53:25

In this episode, Pam and Iona unpack how childhood experiences with explosive anger shaped their adult relationships—and their own relationship with anger. From avoiding conflict to striving for perfection, they explore what happens when we bury our feelings to keep the peace, and how that can backfire. With honesty and humor, they show how learnin…

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ep 119 / Who Are You Showing Up As—Parent, Child, or Partner? 49:07

22d ago49:07

49:07

In this episode, Iona and Pam dig into the powerful dynamics of over- and under-compensating in relationships and how these patterns often reflect parent-child ego states. Drawing from personal stories and therapeutic insights, they explore how mindfulness, validation, and understanding our triggers can help us shift into an adult state—where real …

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ep 118 / Childhood Wounds in Adult Relationships 44:28

1M ago44:28

44:28

Do your childhood wounds still have a seat at the table in your relationships? In this episode of Relationship Dish, Pam and Iona dive into how early emotional experiences shape our adult love lives—often in ways we don’t realize. They explore how childhood traumas, attachment wounds, and subconscious patterns can lead to conflict, insecurity, or e…

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ep 117 / Face Your Feelings 50:32

2M ago50:32

50:32

In this episode, therapists Iona and Pam explore how facing—and honoring—your feelings is the key to clear communication and successful negotiation in relationships. They discuss why recognizing and processing emotions, rather than avoiding them, leads to deeper understanding, stronger connections, and more meaningful conversations. Tune in to lear…

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ep 116 / Is It Possible to Have an Amicable Divorce? 55:28

2M ago55:28

55:28

This week, Iona and Pam dish about whether or not it's possible to have an amicable divorce or breakup. What if only one of you wants to end the relationship? What if you have kids? What if those kids are still young, and your ex brings a new partner into the family? If you're thinking about—or maybe even in the midst of—a divorce and hoping for mi…

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ep 115 / You've Lost That Lovin' Feeling—What Now? 1:00:10

3M ago1:00:10

1:00:10

Iona and Pam dish about what people really mean when they say that they've "fallen out of love" with their partner. It can sound so nebulous, scary, and final, and no one really knows how to deal with it! This week, the therapists dig into the logistics of what that statement really means and what to do to avoid it altogether in a relationship. The…

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ep 114 / Are You Overriding Your Instincts? 46:36

4M ago46:36

46:36

Are you overriding your instincts—and potentially putting your safety in jeopardy—to make others feel comfortable? Listen in this week as the therapists dish and dive into their personal experiences with feeling unsafe and vulnerable as women. The conversation explores how their childhood experiences of feeling powerless and voiceless have impacted…

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ep 113 / What Are You Afraid Of? 1:05:24

4M ago1:05:24

1:05:24

Listen in this week as the therapists dish and dive about their fears and vulnerabilities. Pam shares that she struggles with a fear of humiliation, especially related to her intelligence and competence. She recounts past experiences of being publicly embarrassed as a child, which have shaped her tendency to avoid vulnerability in order to protect …

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ep 112 / Dating with Differences 44:34

5M ago44:34

44:34

Listen in this week as the therapists dish and dive about navigating the differences between you and your partner. How alike—or unalike—can you be in a successful relationship? And can shared values overcome opposing political views? What if you’re raising kids together? Pam and Iona explore how differences in upbringing, personality, and life expe…

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ep 111 / Navigating Life Transitions 55:34

5M ago55:34

55:34

Listen in this week as the therapists dish and dive about navigating life transitions. Iona shares her personal experiences with her daughter's departure to university and its impact on her relationship. Pam opens up about her journey through dating and the lessons she's learned about attachment and intimacy as she navigates her own transitions.…

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ep 110 / Quick TIP Creating Positive Cycles 6:37

5y ago6:37

6:37

We are on a much needed break between seasons 4 and 5. We leave you with a 5 min reminder tip to stay open and vulnerable in your relationship with your loved one and with the important people in your life.By Iona Monk, Pam Stewart

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ep 109 / Quick TIP Vulnerability 5:12

5y ago5:12

5:12

We are on a much needed break between seasons 4 and 5. We leave you with a 5 min reminder tip to stay open and vulnerable in your relationship with your loved one and with the important people in your life.By Iona Monk, Pam Stewart

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ep 108 / Narcissism It's All About Me 45:36

5y ago45:36

45:36

By Iona Monk, Pam Stewart

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ep 107 / Men In Relationships PART 2 30:28

5y ago30:28

30:28

By Iona Monk, Pam Stewart

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ep 106 / Men In Relationships PART 1 29:25

5y ago29:25

29:25

By Iona Monk, Pam Stewart

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ep 105 / The Withdrawer 51:24

5y ago51:24

51:24

By Iona Monk, Pam Stewart

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Valentines Day Greetings 0:45

5y ago0:45

0:45

By Iona Monk, Pam Stewart

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ep 104 / The Pursuer 44:17

5y ago44:17

44:17

By Iona Monk, Pam Stewart

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ep 103 / When Couples Grow Apart 49:18

5+ y ago49:18

49:18

By Iona Monk, Pam Stewart

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ep 102 / The Husbands part 1 51:27

5+ y ago51:27

51:27

By Iona Monk, Pam Stewart

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ep 101 / Hypochondria 53:53

5+ y ago53:53

53:53

By Iona Monk, Pam Stewart

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ep 100 / Guilt, what is it good for? Absolutely everything! 43:00

5+ y ago43:00

43:00

By Iona Monk, Pam Stewart

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ep 99 / Self Regulation 44:46

5+ y ago44:46

44:46

By Iona Monk, Pam Stewart

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ep 98 / Falling in Love. New Years Version Replay. 41:07

5+ y ago41:07

41:07

By Iona Monk, Pam Stewart

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ep 97 / The Critic. Xmas Version Replay. 44:17

5+ y ago44:17

44:17

By Iona Monk, Pam Stewart

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ep 96 / Second Time Around. Part 2 27:50

5+ y ago27:50

27:50

This week the therapists continue their interview with a couple who are beating the odds! Typically divorce rates for second marriages are even higher than for firsts. But not for this couple! Listen in and learn how they've persevered against toxic ex partners, blended families and outside responsibilities to keep and nurture the love they found w…

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ep 95 / Second Time Around. Part 1 30:57

5+ y ago30:57

30:57

This week the therapists interview a couple who are beating the odds! Typically divorce rates for second marriages are even higher than for firsts. But not for this couple! Listen in and learn how they've persevered against toxic ex partners, blended families and outside responsibilities to keep and nurture the love they found with each other the s…

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ep 94 / Who do you want to be when you grow up? 52:29

5+ y ago52:29

52:29

Listen in this week as the therapists dish and dive about adult growth and development. Why is it that so many adults believe that once you’re of drinking age, that you’re done developing? Adults must continue to grow and mature until death or else stagnation ensues! Learn how to grow and mature in your adult years so you can have the best possible…

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ep 93 / All the Single Ladies Part2 32:01

5+ y ago32:01

32:01

Listen in this week as the therapists conclude their conversation with the single ladies. Learn from them how to have a happy and full filling life, with or without a partner and understand how they find joy and meaning in their day to day lives.By Iona Monk, Pam Stewart

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ep 92 / All the Single Ladies Part1 37:35

5+ y ago37:35

37:35

Listen in this week as the therapists talk with two single women about their lives and loves. Learn how they thrive in a “couples’ world” and understand where and how they find meaning in their lives. What relationships matter most to them? What fulfills them? What teaches them about themselves? Part 2 will continue next week. Don’t miss it!…

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ep 91 / Low Level Forces That Compete With Intimacy 38:10

5+ y ago38:10

38:10

This week the therapists dish and dive about the low level forces that can compete with intimacy. They look at their own relationship struggles and learn how things like pride, the search for objective truth and power struggling can arm wrestle with the intimacy you share with your partner. Learn how to spot and conquer these forces before they dam…

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ep 90 / Falling into SAD (Seasonal Affective Disorder) 42:23

5+ y ago42:23

42:23

This week the therapists dish and dive about Seasonal Affective Disorder aka SAD. With the fall time change upon us, many of us struggle with having less daylight hours. Pam and Iona weigh in on the issue of seasonal depression and come up with some great preventative measures to keep you from feeling down during the darkest months of the year.…

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ep 89 / When The Universe Throws You a Curve Ball 45:26

5+ y ago45:26

45:26

This week the therapists dish and dive about getting blindsided; when the universe throws you a curveball. Iona weighs in on her recent experience of being knocked off her feet with unexpected bad news and realizes how excessive worry does not protect her or control any further reverberations. Pam weighs in on some of the curveballs that life’s thr…

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ep 88 / My Mother Myself 48:54

5+ y ago48:54

48:54

This week the therapists weigh in on their relationships with their mothers....cue scary music! They wonder how they’re like them, different from them and how they’ve been generally influenced by their mothers. They then dive into the literature on the mother daughter relationship to determine if they are destined and predisposed to become their mo…

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ep 87 / Breaking up is Hard to Do 48:12

5+ y ago48:12

48:12

Listen in this week as the therapists answer a listener’s question: How do you know when to leave a relationship? Pam and Iona discuss the reasons for having left or stayed in their own relationships through the years, then dive into some literature that can help guide the decision whether to stay or to go.…

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ep 86 / One is the Loneliest Number 37:13

5+ y ago37:13

37:13

This week, as a special thanksgiving episode, the therapists dish and dive about loneliness. Pam and Iona discuss the difference between being alone and being lonely and reminisce about times in their lives when they’ve felt lonely. They dive into the literature and learn that there’s a difference between being alone and feeling lonely. They’re not…

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ep 85 / Have You Any Dreams You'd Like to Sell 46:58

5+ y ago46:58

46:58

This week Pam and Iona weigh in on dreams. Listen in as they share some of the more exciting, reoccurring and cryptic dreams they’ve had over the years. Then they dive into the literature about dreams and share some of the most interesting psychological ways to interpret dreams. Do dreams really come from the unconscious, bringing with them valuabl…

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ep 84 / The Stigma of Couples Counselling 47:23

5+ y ago47:23

47:23

This week the therapists dish and dive about couples counselling. Both of them have attended and benefitted from couples counselling over the years but also understand that sadly, it can be quite stigmatized in our society. They dive into the literature and understand why it’s been such a stigma, both socially and culturally, and offer some ideas t…

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ep 83 / Value of Admitting our Impulses 43:24

5+ y ago43:24

43:24

This week the therapists dish and dive about some of the impulses they have and what they do with them. It seems that both therapists have some pretty dark impulses in their relationships and aren’t always sure how to proceed. As they dive into the literature, they learn why these impulses are both useful and informative. Learn how to work with you…

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ep 82 / The Kindness of Strangers a Tribute to 911 43:31

5+ y ago43:31

43:31

This week the therapists dish on the kindness of strangers as they remember the anniversary of the 9/11 attacks. Within the darkness that unfolded, there were many stories of human connection, vulnerability and love. One particular story is the Gander, Newfoundland story in which a small town opened their hearts, resources and wallets to almost 7,0…

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ep 81 / Back to School Ugh. 44:45

5+ y ago44:45

44:45

It’s back to school time and this week the therapists dish and dive about the anxiety they experience around this time of year. Why, even as adults, do we experience back to school jitters and anxiety? Well, the literature shows that we’re not alone. Listen in and learn how you can ride through the early days of September with less anxiety and more…

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ep 80 / Why the Bad Outweighs the Good. 41:50

5+ y ago41:50

41:50

This week the therapists look at how and why we get more stuck in our negative emotions and experiences than in our positive ones. Pam and Iona both have a tendency toward negative bias- recalling and ruminating about negative experiences more so than the joyful ones. Through their dive into the literature, they learn why this is adaptive yet short…

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ep 79 / Therapy.. What is it Good For? 49:07

5+ y ago49:07

49:07

Listen in this week as the therapists wonder if therapy is helpful after all. They discuss the different types of therapy models out there and determine just how useful each one is. Listen in so you can make informed choices about your own therapy!By Iona Monk, Pam Stewart

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ep 78 / Overfunctioning 42:07

5+ y ago42:07

42:07

Listen in this week as the therapists dish and dive about over functioning. Pam and Iona both learned to over function to control and distract themselves from chaotic situations in their lives. They discuss the price of over functioning and the toll it can take on your life. Learn how to recognize over functioning as a coping mechanism in your own …

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ep 77 / Jealousy 44:31

6y ago44:31

44:31

This week the therapists dish and dive about jealousy. Iona’s had an episode of feeling very jealous, which catches her off guard. Pam weighs in on how those ugly feelings have raised their head repeatedly throughout her relationship as well. Listen in as they dive into the literature about the function of jealousy and learn how to reign in that wi…

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ep 76 / Trauma part 2. The whole body tragedy. 48:12

6y ago48:12

48:12

This week the therapists finish their discussion about trauma with a dive into the literature about trauma. We learn about the different types of trauma, how it develops and how to treat it. Not all trauma is created equal and the more you know, the more you can do to manage, move past and even grow from the trauma in your own life.…

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ep 75 / Trauma part 1. The whole body tragedy. 38:27

6y ago38:27

38:27

This week the therapists dish extensively about their own experience with trauma and the ongoing impact these traumas have had on their lives. There is no dive this week folks, just juicy dishing! Stay tuned for next week’s dive into the trauma literature. Season 4 is here, and it's going to be great! Iona and Pam…

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Season 4 Welcome! 1:02

6y ago1:02

1:02

Season 4 is here, and it's going to be great! Join us on a new season where we Dish and Dive on topics sure to peak your interest. Iona and PamBy Iona Monk, Pam Stewart

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Appetizer 4 / Your Partner is your client 1:05

6y ago1:05

1:05

Hi listeners, we're still on our break between season 3 and 4 but in the meantime we're going to leave you with a quick appetizer today. Try treating your partner as you would treat your client, and see your relationship as something alive and ongoing. We will be back next week to launch season 4 on July 24th with new exciting episodes that are sur…

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Appetizer 3 / The Balance to Stand Alone 0:56

6y ago0:56

0:56

Here is a quick little 1 minute Appetizer for you about The balance and courage to stand alone. We're taking a 2 week break while preparing to launch season 4 and will return July 24th with new exciting episodes that are sure to give you the dish you are looking for in your relationship. Iona & Pam, Relationship Dish…

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