You struggle to overcome your Social Anxiety? You're frustrated over how it affects your life? Worried you'll have to live with your Social Anxiety forever? This podcast is for you! You'll hear me - an ex-Social Anxiety Disorder sufferer - interview the superstars of the therapy and psychology world. They’ve been traditionally trained psychologists or psychotherapists and have incorporated an exciting new field into their practice: "Energy psychology". These experts share their most successf ...
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How to Face Social Anxiety Without Forcing Yourself
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12:49Avoiding social situations because they feel overwhelming? You are not broken. There is a safer way to take action. In this episode... I show how to stop shrinking your life and start building social ease with gentle at-home tapping and non-scary exposure. You will learn how to reduce fear first, then take small steps that create real-world wins. W…
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Healthy Boundaries and Emotional Strength for Social Anxiety Relief (with Dr. David Lake)
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1:12:05Are you saying yes when you want to say no? Struggling with people-pleasing and feeling unsafe in social situations? You are not alone. Weak boundaries keep social anxiety in place. In this episode... I talk with Dr. David Lake, medical practitioner and psychotherapist, about building inner security, setting clear boundaries, and using tapping to c…
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From Social Anxiety to Social Ease, One Step at a Time
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7:08Feeling stuck or demotivated? In this episode... I share a simple way to make real progress with social anxiety. We keep it small and doable with short daily tapping sessions (start with 15 minutes a day) that build momentum. I show what to do when you do not feel like tapping: tap on the resistance first. You will hear practical examples you can t…
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Licensed Therapist Reveals Little-Known Social Anxiety Hacks
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48:26😰 Still anxious after CBT, exposure, or affirmations? You are not broken. You may be missing a few little-known social anxiety hacks that calm the nervous system and remove inner blocks. In this episode... I talk with Greg Carpenter, licensed marriage and family therapist and intention tapping trainer. We dig into intention tapping, how it pairs wi…
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Think You’re Not Good Enough? How to Finally Respect Yourself
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1:05:30Are you stuck in self-doubt, always worrying you’re not good enough? You’re not alone. Low self-respect is one of the hidden drivers of social anxiety. In this episode... EFT Master Andy Bryce explains how painful past experiences shape your self-image and what it really takes to build lasting self-respect. You’ll learn how to stop people-pleasing,…
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Reduce Fear of Rejection Fast (Guided Tapping Exercise)
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16:39In this episode... Do you constantly worry about being rejected? Feel anxious when people ignore you, disapprove, or don’t respond the way you hoped? I guide you through a powerful EFT tapping session to reduce your fear of rejection fast. You’ll learn how this fear gets wired into your system, how it stems from painful past experiences, and why it…
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Afraid of Being Judged? Here’s the Real Reason Why
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9:56In this episode... Are you afraid of what other people think of you? Worried they’ll judge you negatively? You’re not alone. In this episode, I share my personal journey with the fear of judgment and how it shaped my social anxiety for years. You’ll hear how constantly seeking approval and avoiding disapproval becomes a rigid pattern, and why that …
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Why EFT “Doesn’t Work” for Some People (and How to Fix It)
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57:05In this episode... Tried EFT tapping and didn’t get results? You might think you’re a “tough case” or that nothing works for you, but there’s usually a deeper reason why tapping seems to fall flat. I talk with EFT Master and psychotherapist Carol Look about what really causes tapping to “fail” and how to turn it into lasting change. We explore the …
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Tried Everything for Social Anxiety? This Could Be What’s Holding You Back
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50:31In this episode... 😣 You’ve tried therapy, affirmations, exposure, and still feel stuck with social anxiety. What if the real problem isn’t you, but something hidden running in the background? I speak with Lindsay Kenny, one of the 29 EFT Founding Masters and a pioneer in emotional healing. She introduces the concept of subconscious resistance, a q…
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Why Blushing Feels So Awful (It’s Not What You Think)
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13:29In this episode... Why does blushing feel so humiliating? It’s not just the redness. It’s what you believe that redness means about you. I share a powerful insight from a live coaching session inside my Social Confidence Club. You’ll discover: • Why blushing is often linked to deeper emotional wounds • How self-judgment and non-acceptance make it w…
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People Don’t Make You Anxious — This Does
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10:41In this episode... Think your boss, that confident guy, or a certain social group is what triggers your anxiety? Think again. Seb shares a powerful shift that helped him stop blushing, feel confident around others, and finally feel safe in social situations. It’s not people that are the problem. It’s how you perceive them. And once you change your …
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3 Questions to Feel Better Fast (Even If Someone’s Ignoring You)
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15:26In this episode... Ever felt ignored and instantly spun into overthinking, worry, or self-doubt? In this minisode, Seb shares 3 powerful self-inquiry questions that help stop that downward spiral, plus how EFT tapping helps you release the emotional charge underneath. It’s a relatable and practical tool for moments when your brain starts jumping to…
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How I Stopped Blushing In Social Situations
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11:36Do you panic at the thought of blushing in public? That rising heat in your chest… the burning in your ears… the shame of knowing people see it? I used to live in fear of that exact moment. In this episode... I share my personal story of dealing with chronic, uncontrollable blushing in social situations, where it started, how it became tied to my s…
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Self-Acceptance: The Missing Key to Overcoming Social Anxiety
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54:49In this episode... Most people think they’ll accept themselves after they overcome social anxiety. But what if that mindset is exactly what’s keeping you stuck? In this episode, Sebastiaan and psychologist Steve Wells reveal why self-acceptance is the starting point for true social ease, and how tapping can help you get there gently and effectively…
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How I Stopped Seeing Sensitivity as Weak—and Turned It Into My Superpower
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9:45In this episode...If you grew up hearing “don’t be so sensitive” or “man up,” this might forever change how you see yourself. In this short minisode, Seb and ex-MMA fighter Tom Woodfin get real about what it’s like to grow up hiding your sensitivity—especially in a world that sees it as pathetic or weak. They share how years of inner work helped th…
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Replay: Live EFT Coaching – Can You Be Shy and Still Be Confident?
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16:03In this episode... "Can you be shy… and still feel confident in social situations?" In this live EFT tapping session, Sebastiaan helps a volunteer release shame and anxiety around being labeled “shy.” Together, they explore how childhood messages shaped her identity—and how tapping can shift self-perception fast. 🎧 You’ll discover: The difference b…
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Why You Still Fear Rejection and How to Stop
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55:12In this episode... If rejection terrifies you, you’re not alone, and you’re not broken. In this episode, Social Confidence Coach, Sebastiaan van der Schrier, and EFT expert, Rick Wilkes, reveal what’s really behind your fear of rejection… and why it lingers, even after therapy or exposure. You’ll discover how to gently dissolve the emotional charge…
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Carol Look has a distinguished background in traditional psychotherapy, was trained as a Clinical Social Worker and earned her Doctoral Degree in Clinical Hypnotherapy. This was before she became one of the only 29 EFT Masters in the world. Carol is known for combining her background in traditional psychotherapy with “energy medicine” and she appea…
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Why Bullying Still Hurts... and How to Finally Heal It
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9:52Have you ever been teased, humiliated, or bullied... and felt like you should be over it by now, but it still haunts you? In this episode, Seb shares how bullying in his own past triggered years of social anxiety, and why those early experiences can quietly shape how safe you feel in the world today. You’ll hear a short but powerful conversation wi…
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In this episode... Tiffany shares her powerful journey of healing social anxiety after decades of sadness, isolation, and self-judgment. She talks openly about the trauma that shaped her, how she discovered what was really driving her anxiety, and how she gently found freedom through deep inner work. We worked together for 17 sessions using the bes…
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Replay: Live EFT Coaching – Fear of Feeling Confident
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16:36In this episode... “If I feel confident… I’ll be humiliated.” This is a fear many people with social anxiety carry, but almost no one talks about. In this live coaching session, you’ll hear a Social Confidence Club member gently unpack that exact fear. What unfolds in under 15 minutes is a calm, respectful release of what’s been blocking her from f…
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“I Have to Be Perfect or Else…” - A Simple Way to Start Breaking This Pattern
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5:20In this episode... Do you feel like you have to be perfect just to be accepted? Or to avoid criticism or rejection? This unconscious belief can quietly fuel social anxiety, burnout, and relentless self-pressure In this short minisode, EFT Founding Master and psychotherapist Carol Look shares a powerful insight to help uncover where this pressure re…
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Always Trying to Be Cool? Do This to Finally Feel Free
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14:30Always trying to be cool... but just end up feeling anxious? 😓 If you've ever felt the pressure to impress or be seen as “cool,” this video is for you. Discover why trying to be cool actually creates social anxiety, and how letting go of that need unlocks real confidence. 🙌 In this episode, you’ll: ✅ Learn how the pressure to be cool fuels anxiety …
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Replay: Live EFT Coaching – Why Social Anxiety Makes You Feel Like You Have to Be Perfect (Tap-Along)
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13:45In this episode... You’ll hear a live EFT coaching session where a Club member opens up about a deep fear: sounding dumb in social situations. He shares how he constantly overthinks what to say, feels pressure to sound smart, and worries he’ll be judged if he messes up — a pattern Seb calls social perfectionism. As they tap through it, the pressure…
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Releasing Shame: A Key to Social Confidence – with EFT Master Emma Roberts
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51:22Shame is at the core of social anxiety. Yet, most people don’t realize it. Emma Roberts does. She’s lived it. Once held back by deep embarrassment and fear of being seen, Emma now trains therapists around the world. In this episode, she shares: How shame manifests and why it often goes unrecognized Her raw, personal story (including hiding in a bat…
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