Best Hopefully We Dont Breakup Podcasts (2025)

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#314: You Don't Have to Be the Family Savior 39:59

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For those who have felt they have given up much to take care of those in their family and it has become increasingingly overwhelming, this is for you. Click here to enroll in the BGH Method, our 90 day recovery accelator for love addicts and love avoidants to heal their relationships, unresolved trauma and improve their relationship with themselves…

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#313: The 3 Best Partners for Love Avoidant Archetypes 34:22

8d ago34:22

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In this episode, Shena explores the three archetypes of love avoidants. She unpacks their unique strengths, their fatal flaws, and what healthy love looks like for each type. If you’ve ever felt trapped in the same relationship patterns or struggled to understand why love feels so intense yet painful, this episode will help you see yourself with co…

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#312: How Love Addicts Can Find Love (4 Ways for Each Archetype) 29:37

7d ago29:37

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In this episode, Shena explores the four archetypes of love addicts. She unpacks their unique strengths, their fatal flaws, and what healthy love looks like for each type. If you’ve ever felt trapped in the same relationship patterns or struggled to understand why love feels so intense yet painful, this episode will help you see yourself with compa…

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#311: Finding Hope When Everything is Not Okay 21:33

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In this episode, Shena talks about using hope as an act of resistance when everything is not okay around you. Click here to enroll in the BGH Method, our 90 day recovery accelator for love addicts and love avoidants to heal their relationships, unresolved trauma and improve their relationship with themselves Join the BGH Members Club to get access …

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310: 3 Ways to Keep Fostering Deep Love With Your Person 27:30

6d ago27:30

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In this episode, Shena reviews 3 tips to help recovered love addicts and love avoidants foster deep love when you are with your person. The goal is to combat unhealthy patterns you may have brought into your loving relationship to keep the love and connection easy. Click here to enroll in the BGH Method, our 90 day recovery accelator for love addic…

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#309: Why Stressed Women Stay and How to Make Them Leave 23:23

28d ago23:23

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In this episode, I review what are the things that will make a woman who is in a relationship that is draining her finally leave and what are the things that may make her stay. Get this week's podcast episode worksheet in our BGH Members Club at http://www.blackgirlsheal.org/club Break this cycle and step out of this issue with the BGH Method, our …

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#308: How to Know They Like You (And Why That's Important) 23:43

26d ago23:43

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In this episode, Shena returns refreshed and ready to dive deep into an important and affirming topic: how to recognize when someone actually likes you—and why that clarity matters. She explains that while we often focus on red flags, it’s just as vital to know the green flags of emotional safety, care, and genuine interest. This episode is all abo…

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27. Neuroscience basics & protocols 1:26:21

2M ago1:26:21

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"Until you make the unconscious conscious, it will direct your life, and you will call it fate." - Jung In order to master your mind, you've got to read the manual on how it works. In this episode, I synthesize everything I've learned about neuroscience as it pertains to mental health. I explore the dopamine cycle and how it relates to mental healt…

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Understanding the anxious & avoidant 53:50

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I never thought I'd see the day that I'd be happy for getting ghosted, but here we are. It's almost like the only way to truly get over your fear of rejection and abandonment is to get repeatedly rejected and abandoned. In other words, the only way out is through, and this is me finally getting to the other side of my breakup. The deep pain it caus…

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Emotional regulation for the anxiously attached 8:46

3M ago8:46

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In the beginning of me learning emotional regulation, I didn’t really know how to “feel my feelings” - like what did that even mean or look like? I put together this short little audio guide to give you a real time example of how I emotionally regulated today - putting blueprint for the anxiously attached overview into a real life practicum. When w…

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26. Breakup blueprint for the anxiously attached 40:36

3M ago40:36

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For some, breakups are just, "he's not for me, I'm over it." They mean it and they move on. For me, it's, "why did this happen? What did I do? How are they seeing me? Why won't they come back?" And then I go and do a doctorate analysis on the "why." I find it extremely hard to let go even when the person has proven to not be a good fit for me. Now …

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#307: Consequences of Being With the Wrong Person (Thoughts from Love Island) 36:37

3M ago36:37

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In this episode, Shena reflects on the consequences and how one's life can be affected if we are connected to those who give red flag behaviors and indicators that they may not be a good match for us emotionally, mentally, or physically (in regards ot safety). Our Sponsors: * Check out Infinite Epigenetics: https://infiniteepigenetics.com/BGH * Che…

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25. Dealing with emotionally immature parents and partners 44:47

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Dealing with emotionally immature parents and partners can feel like you're fighting for your life. You desire close and meaningful connection, but it feels like it's just a matter of time where the other shoe is going drop and you'll be the one blamed. It can feel like you're constantly in fight-or-flight mode and don't know how to break through t…

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#306: 7 Tips to Recover after a Friendship Breakup 50:52

3M ago50:52

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This episode for anyone who is experiencing or has experienced a friendship breakup that has been hard to recover from. I hope these 7 tips help you move forward and find friendships that help you feel fulfilled and whole. Resources mentioned in the episode: Join the BGH's Members Club: blackgirlsheal.org/members The 4 Step Roadmap to Heal Love Add…

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#305: 4 Ways to Tell the Friendship May Be Temporary 51:18

3M ago51:18

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In this episode of the Black Girls Heal podcast, we're diving into a topic that often brings up complex emotions - recognizing when friendships might be temporary. You know those relationships that feel so intense and meaningful in the moment, but somehow don't stand the test of time? Let's talk about why that happens and why it might actually be p…

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#304: Starting A Healing Circle 57:13

4M ago57:13

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In this episode, we break down how to start creating your own healing circles. Resources mentioned in the episode: Join the BGH's Members Club: blackgirlsheal.org/members The 4 Step Roadmap to Heal Love Addiction: https://www.blackgirlsheal.org/roadmap Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Join The Recovery School, my signature coachi…

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#303: How to Make Adult Female Friendships with Danielle Bayard Jackson 47:34

4M ago47:34

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Why is it so difficult for some women to find and maintain healthy female friendships? Joining me today is Danielle Bayard Jackson, The Friendship Expert, to share more about this topic and to help provide actionable advice to get your friendships back on track, even if they’ve fallen off due to the pandemic. Danielle is a publicist by day and a ce…

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#302: Dealing with Disappointment from Your Mom as an Adult 30:35

4M ago30:35

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In this episode, I talk about managing disappointment from your relationship with your mother as an adult if you have experienced false starts towards intimacy or seen self sabotage on your mother's part. Resources mentioned in the episode: Join the BGH's Members Club: blackgirlsheal.org/members The 4 Step Roadmap to Heal Love Addiction: https://ww…

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#301: When Your Mom is Competitive With You 47:47

4M ago47:47

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In this episode, Shena discusses how to cope when you have a mother who is competitive with you, the signs of the jealousy and competition, and potential sources of where it may come from. Resources mentioned in the episode: Join the BGH's Members Club: blackgirlsheal.org/members The 4 Step Roadmap to Heal Love Addiction: https://www.blackgirlsheal…

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#300: How to Heal From Your Mother Wound? 30:59

5M ago30:59

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Our mother relationship is our first relationship as we come into this world. As a result, if we have unresolved trauma, it will manifest in how we see ourselves, how we see others, and what we pass down to future generations. Resources mentioned in the episode: Join the BGH's Members Club: blackgirlsheal.org/members The 4 Step Roadmap to Heal Love…

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24. Fundamentals in communication: exploring strategies for resolving interpersonal conflict with the anxious, avoidant, masculine & feminine 57:43

5M ago57:43

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Following my breakup, I really wanted to make sure I was learning all the lessons I needed to learn to not only pick a better partner in the future but also be a better partner in the future. I started to realize that the majority of my part in our issues were around communication and understanding where I faltered not just in what I said, but the …

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#299: How to Stop Financial Codependency 49:47

5M ago49:47

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In this episode of Black Girls Heal, we dive deep into financial codependency—a pattern where you feel obligated to support others financially, even to your own detriment. We explore its roots, how it manifests in various relationships, and the emotional toll it takes. You'll learn about practical steps to break free from this cycle, including a 90…

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23. Breakthrough moment: how to deal with aching feelings of emptiness - let's talk God, vulnerability, fear, control & contentment & how surrender is the answer to everything 27:11

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I've always struggling with this horrible, aching sense of emptiness. The only way I can really describe it is a black abyss that comes over me and fills me with a sense of dread. I know I've gone through how to feel all different feelings, but this emptiness was one I could never really feel the "cure" for. I found it purposeless and strange and n…

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22. Breakups: how to move on, set new standards, and hone new skills 47:42

5M ago47:42

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Breakups are hard. There's no way around that. You think this person is a dream and you're finally closer to finding your person only to find it crumbling beneath your feet. When there's no real closure, the person chooses to ghost and quickly replace you with someone you wonder if any of it was ever real. You feel shaken with distrust for yourself…

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#298: How to Feel Deserving 39:29

5M ago39:29

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In this episode of Black Girls Heal, we discuss the crucial topic of feeling deserving and why it's essential for receiving the love you desire. We explore how internalizing negative beliefs and trauma can lead to feeling undeserving, even when we outwardly affirm our worth. You'll learn practical steps to identify the emotional 'weeds' that choke …

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21. Truth, lies, and healthy coping 56:07

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We all know that our thoughts drive our emotions and behavior, but what's even more critical to understand is distinguishing the validity and truth or falsehood of our thoughts and beliefs. I've found that the majority of arguments we have with other people isn't necessarily a difference in values, but a difference in perspective and how each other…

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#297: Codependency & Boundaries 50:30

5M ago50:30

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In this episode, Shena discusses healing from codependency to improve your self love and the questions you need to ask yourself to adjust your boundaries. Resources mentioned in the episode: Join the BGH's Members Club: blackgirlsheal.org/members The 4 Step Roadmap to Heal Love Addiction: https://www.blackgirlsheal.org/roadmap Ready to heal your Lo…

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#296: Is it Compatibility or Codependency? 36:17

5M ago36:17

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In this episode, Shena discusses how to tell if the connection that you're feeling in a relationship is codependency or compatibility. Resources mentioned in the episode: Join the BGH's Members Club: blackgirlsheal.org/members The 4 Step Roadmap to Heal Love Addiction: https://www.blackgirlsheal.org/roadmap Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love …

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#295: 3 Mistakes I made Dating as a Love Avoidant 32:20

6M ago32:20

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When I was dating, I made a lot of mistakes related to how I presented in my intimacy disorders. This week, I'm talking about how my love avoidance showed up for me in my relationships. For me, my personal experience and how that connected to my religious education really amplified a lot of my avoidance which is also discussed. This episode will no…

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#294: 3 Hidden Ways We Ignore (and Encourage) Red Flags in Others 52:32

6M ago52:32

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In this episode, I review 3 hidden ways we may unknowingly ignore (and encourage) red flags in new people we meet. Resources mentioned in the episode: Join the BGH's Members Club: blackgirlsheal.org/members The 4 Step Roadmap to Heal Love Addiction: https://www.blackgirlsheal.org/roadmap Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Join The …

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#293: When You Like Someone as a Love Avoidant 33:32

6M ago33:32

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What does it look like to be available to others after you've been working on your love avoidance symptoms. In this episode, I share 3 tips for those who are starting this journey building relationships in a different way. Resources mentioned in the episode: Join the BGH's Members Club: blackgirlsheal.org/members The 4 Step Roadmap to Heal Love Add…

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#292: Going from Being Love Avoidant to Love Available 22:07

6M ago22:07

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In today's episode, we review going from Love Avoidant to Love Available using the Healed and Loved Woman framework model. Resources mentioned in the episode: Join the BGH's Members Club: blackgirlsheal.org/members The 4 Step Roadmap to Heal Love Addiction: https://www.blackgirlsheal.org/roadmap Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? J…

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#291: Don't Text Them (Sit on Your Hands) 41:53

6M ago41:53

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In this episode of Black Girls Heal, we revisit the topic of 'No Contact' and the seven-day 'Don't Text Them: Sit on Your Effing Hands Challenge.' This discussion is aimed at those caught in addictive or trauma-bonded relationships, whether romantic, familial, or friendships. We discuss topics like recognizing toxic relationships, the importance of…

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#290: Setting Unrealistic Fantasies as a Love Addict (Love Addiction Series) 27:44

7M ago27:44

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Watch our free How to Stop Dating the Wrong People & Fix Your Internal Magnet masterclass: Click here register Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled CONNECT WITH US ELSEWHERE Website: Blackgirlsheal…

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#289: How Childhood Emotional Neglect Leads to Love Addiction (Love Addiction Series) 36:43

7M ago36:43

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In today's episode I talk about the impact of childhood emotional neglect and how it leads to the behaviours of love addiction Whether you are connected to love addition, love avoidance or low self esteem, if you are wondering why you continue in the same type of self doubts or keep being attracted to certain types of people, my hope is that this e…

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#288: The 4 Archetypes of Love Addiction 41:37

7M ago41:37

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Which love addict archetype do you identify with and how do you begin to heal from it? In this week’s episode of Black Girls Heal, I’m breaking down the four main archetypes of love addiction and why each of these patterns comes with its own unique set of challenges AND beautiful qualities. Whether you're constantly chasing “the one,” afraid to be …

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#287: How to Deal with Grief and Unexpectedly Losing a Loved One 40:30

7M ago40:30

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How do you hold yourself through grief when it feels too heavy to carry? In this heartfelt episode of Black Girls Heal, I’m sharing my personal reflections and tools for navigating the emotional waves of grief, especially aftera sudden or unexpected loss. Whether it's the loss of a family member, a friend, a beloved pet, or a mentor, grief can shak…

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#285: 3 Mistakes Love Avoidants Make in Dating 37:42

8M ago37:42

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Is your fear of intimacy keeping you from the love you want? In this episode of Black Girls Heal, we’re diving deep into love avoidance—what it is, how it shows up, and the mistakes that keep us from building healthy, connected relationships. If you find yourself pulling away when things get too good, struggling to be vulnerable, or avoiding dating…

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20. Ego-defense mechanisms & emotion-driven behaviors 1:02:40

8M ago1:02:40

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Dissolution of relationships in any form can be so difficult, leaving you feeling angry and confused. This is exactly how I felt following coming back to a situationship after a year only to be rejected and discarded once again. I felt I had done nothing but try to understand and be there for him when all he ever did was use me. I recently went to …

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#284: 3 Dating Mistakes to Avoid as a Love Addict 33:16

8M ago33:16

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Are you falling in love with potential instead of reality? In this episode of Black Girls Heal, I’m diving into three critical mistakes love addicts make when dating—mistakes that can keep you stuck in unhealthy cycles. Whether you're unknowingly romanticizing red flags, struggling to walk away from emotionally unavailable partners, or making datin…

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#283: How to Host a Healing Circle With Friends 50:57

8M ago50:57

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In this episode of the Black Girls Heal podcast, I'm diving deep into how healing circles can transform your journey through love addiction recovery. After years of coaching women through attachment struggles, I've seen firsthand how creating the right community can accelerate healing in ways individual work simply can't. We explore exactly how to …

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#282: How to Heal in Community (7 Tips to Make Sisterhood Work) 50:15

9M ago50:15

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In this episode of the Black Girls Heal podcast, I'm diving deep into something that's essential for our healing journey but often overlooked—the power of sisterhood and community. As someone who's experienced both the isolation of healing alone and the transformative power of healing in community, I'm sharing seven practical tips to help you build…

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#281: Why You Stay in Relationships When You're Tired 47:24

9M ago47:24

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In this episode of the Black Girls Heal podcast, we're having an honest conversation about something that hits deep—why we stay in relationships even when we're completely exhausted. From social media discussions to real-life experiences, we're seeing how women often find themselves caught in cycles of emotional labor and self-improvement, all whil…

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19. The importance of emotional regulation & its relationship to fear, trauma, addiction, attachment, toxic relationships & familiar family dynamics 1:32:56

9M ago1:32:56

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I really wanted to make shorter episodes for you guys, but this episode really needed the length to explain each issue of fear, trauma, addiction, attachment, toxic relationships, and familiar family dynamics, while also bridging the gap between them to illustrate how they are each so intimately connected. Often times, we see we have issues, but do…

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#280: How to Cope When Your Dating Partner Stops Responding (No Contact) 49:48

9M ago49:48

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In this episode of the Black Girls Heal podcast, we're diving deep into something that can shake your whole world—when someone you're dating suddenly goes quiet or starts feeding you breadcrumbs of attention. Whether they're ghosting you completely or keeping you hanging with "I'm just busy" texts, we're getting real about what this behavior actual…

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#279: 4 Steps to Help Yourself Heal & Relationships to Flourish 35:33

9M ago35:33

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In this episode of the Black Girls Heal podcast, I'm breaking down the complete framework I use with my coaching clients to transform their relationship patterns — the Bloom Method. After years of helping women heal from love addiction, love avoidance, and love deprivation, I've developed this powerful approach that guides you from identifying toxi…

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#278: The First 3 Steps to Heal Love Addiction 35:11

10M ago35:11

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In this episode of the Black Girls Heal podcast, we dive deep into the topic of love addiction and explore the steps to break free from its cycles. Learn about the free downloadable resource “The Five Step Roadmap to Heal Love Addiction” and discover how to identify and detox from addictive relationships. We also discuss the importance of addressin…

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#277: 3 Ways to Not Move Too Fast in a New Relationship 33:26

10M ago33:26

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In this episode of the Black Girls Heal podcast, we're diving into something that many of us struggle with—protecting our individuality when new love enters the picture. You know that excitement when someone new comes into your life and suddenly you want to share every moment with them? Today, we're talking about why that impulse, though natural, n…

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My little roster experiment 10:33

10M ago10:33

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Ever date someone you didn’t really think you’d like and then all of a sudden you find yourself pining after them like, “why they don’t like me anymore? Why does no one ever care about me?” Have you ever really asked yourself - before the attachment - happened if you ever even wanted them? Maybe, but your craving for that love and validation that s…

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#276: How I Use Astrology for Love and Healing 1:17:45

10M ago1:17:45

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In this episode of the Black Girls Heal podcast, I'm diving deep into how I personally use astrology as a powerful tool for healing and understanding relationships. As someone who was once skeptical and came from a Christian ministry background, I share how astrology has evolved from being something I dismissed to becoming an invaluable resource in…