Hi There! I'm Dr. Becca Ballinger, Child Psychologist, Modern Parenting Expert, and mom to two wonderful young adults. This podcast is where I share my best advice and strategies for Modern Parents who want to raise young people who are happy, healthy, moral, motivated, and feel confident to pursue their natural talents and passions. Because I work with young people and their families every day in my Southern California private practice, I know the topics that interest today's parent the mos ...
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The Secret To a Stress-Free and Meaningful Holiday Season Starts NOW
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41:05Hey, Friend! It's been a few weeks since our last episode, and I've missed being here with you! But there's a reason I haven't been around—I've been busy creating something that so many of you have been asking for: new, court-approved online parenting skills classes designed just for you. These classes go way beyond the basics, diving deep into wha…
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87. Toughen Up or Validate? Why You Need to Rethink How You Respond to Your Child or Teen's Distress
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32:44Stop Jumping In! The Simple 3-Step Strategy That Will Transform How You Handle Your Child's Tough Moments Ever find yourself caught between trying to solve your child or teen's problems or pushing them to "toughen up"? You're not alone. Most parents struggle to find the right balance, especially when their young person is upset, stressed, or overwh…
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86. Let's Fix Your Child's or Teen's Sunday Scaries (Because Mondays Don't Have to Be a Battle)
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37:16Does your child or teen seem perfectly fine on Saturday, only to become moody, anxious, or withdrawn by Sunday afternoon? Maybe they start complaining about school, feeling overwhelmed, or even develop those familiar headaches or stomachaches. Sound familiar? You're not alone. In this episode, we're tackling the Sunday Scaries head-on. Whether it's…
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85. Want to Stop Your Child or Teen's Anxiety Spiral? Here's How!
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44:05The Tool That Will Change How You and Your Child or Teen Handles Anxiety Does your young person's anxiety feel overwhelming, and you're not sure how to help them? You're not alone. Anxiety is becoming a bigger challenge for kids and teens every year, and as parents, we often wish we could wave a magic wand and just - poof! - make it disappear. Now,…
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84. YOU Are Your Child or Teen's Biggest Influencer - But Are You Squandering That Opportunity?
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44:59Do you ever feel like social media influencers, peer groups, or the latest TikTok trends have more sway over your child or teen than you do? Are you worried that your young person's self-esteem, mental health, and habits are being shaped by the world outside your home? If you're nodding right now, friend, you're not alone. Here's the good news: By …
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83. The Tough Truth: 5 Habits That Will Transform Your Parenting Game
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39:56Boy, I've seen it ALL when it comes to parents—and today, I'm sharing some truths that you NEED to hear! If you've ever felt like you're just not doing this parenting thing right, you're not alone. I get it—I hear this from parents all the time: "Just give me a playbook I can follow." Well, Friend, that's exactly what I'm doing in this episode. I'm…
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82. How to Get Your Reluctant Child or Teen to Join an Extracurricular Activity
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48:08You know your child or teen would benefit from an extracurricular—but they flat-out refuse to get involved. Now what? Don't worry, I've got you covered. In this episode, we're tackling one of the toughest parenting challenges: how to motivate a reluctant child or teen to join an extracurricular activity. Whether it's fear of failure, preferring to …
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81. The Secret to Helping Your Child or Teen Make Friends: And Why It Matters More Than Ever
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39:54What if I told you that the secret to your child or teen's academic success, confidence, and overall happiness isn't just about their grades -- but about the quality of their friendships? That's right—this episode dives deep into the often-overlooked but absolutely crucial role that friendships play in your young person's school experience. It's ea…
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80. Your Ultimate Back-to-School Prep Kit!
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13:27Access The Back-To-School Prep Playlist 7 Resources By Clicking HERE This episode is a game-changer for busy parents like you. I know the start of the school year can feel like a whirlwind, but I've got you covered. This isn't just another podcast episode – it's a challenge. I've curated the ultimate back-to-school playlist and packed it with free …
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79. Ready, Set, Success: 3 Steps to Rock the New School Year
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39:41Are you experiencing "Back To School Dread"? You know, that sinking feeling that this year will be just a frustrating repeat of the last? This year CAN be different for your child or teen – and it's easier than you think. In this episode, I'll show you how three simple focus areas can transform your entire school year from chaos to calm, from stres…
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78. Knowing These Science-Backed Strategies About Creativity and Curiosity Will Improve Your Child or Teen's Motivation, Confidence, and Love of Learning
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45:42What if I told you that you're missing out on a simple parenting hack that could skyrocket your child or teen's motivation, confidence, and mental health? This episode is about to blow your mind and change the way you think about creativity and curiosity in your young person's life. I used to think creativity was something you either had or didn't.…
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77. Why Your Tween or Teen Pushes You Away (And How to Pull Them Back In)
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42:17Why Does My Teen Push Me Away? Do you feel like your tween or teen is pushing you away and you're left wondering why? You're not alone. In this episode, we're diving deep into why your young person might be creating distance and what you can do to rebuild your relationship. You'll feel better after listening to this episode because you'll realize t…
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76. 10 Clues Your Discipline Approach Needs an Upgrade
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46:24Ever feel like your discipline strategies just aren't working, no matter how hard you try? If I had to guess, I'd say you've experienced moments where your child or teen's behavior seems to spiral out of control, despite your best efforts. Those times when the rules you set are ignored, the consequences don't seem to stick, and you're left feeling …
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75. From 'Are We There Yet?' to 'Best Trip Ever!' – Vacation Tips for Families
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47:41Is your dream family vacation turning into a nightmare of sibling squabbles or teen moodiness? We've all been there – those vacations that were supposed to be great but ended up in misery. This episode is your ticket to transforming those potential disasters into unforgettable, joy-filled adventures. Join me as I share proven strategies to ensure y…
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74. Finding Purpose: How to Help Your Tween or Teen Find Meaning in Life (Even If You Don't Go To Church)
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28:58Is your young person feeling lost, wondering what the point of it all is? In today's episode, we tackle a challenge many parents face: helping their child or teen find a sense of purpose in life. It's all too common for young people to feel like life is just an endless cycle of meaningless tasks: going to work, doing boring work, coming home to pay…
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73. Want Your Rules To Stick? The Best Parenting Advice No One Ever Told You
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36:40What if I told you that the reason you often give up on enforcing a household rule with your child or teen is because they're using science against you? And what if, by understanding this science, you could finally stop giving up RIGHT BEFORE they give in? In today's episode, I'll show you why you're giving up too soon when your child or teen pushe…
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72. Stop Feeling Manipulated By Your Child or Teen By Using These 4 Proven Strategies
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37:59Today, you'll discover how to stop feeling manipulated by your child or teen using four proven strategies. This episode is a masterclass in understanding and managing emotional manipulation. You'll learn about the science behind why parents get caught in these cycles and, most importantly, how to break free. Dr. Becca Ballinger shares the four key …
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71. Yes! You've Got To Start Planning For Your Summer Now - And Here's How
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49:47Summer's coming, and I know what you're thinking: How long until I'm secretly wishing for school to start again? This year, I want you to flip the script! Summer isn't just about avoiding the summer 'brain drain' or surviving until fall—it's your golden opportunity to focus on your child or teen's natural strengths, deepen family bonds, and create …
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70. Parenting with Heart: The PEACEful Approach to Discipline
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42:21Ever feel like your discipline approach is more of a mess than a success? Let's flip that script! If you're worried about being ineffective, crushing your child or teen's incredible spirit, or if tensions are high - it's time to introduce some PEACE into your routine. My 5-point PEACE plan isn't just about keeping order; it's about empowering your …
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69. Setting Boundaries: The Tough Love Your Family Really Needs
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36:58Think setting boundaries is just about laying down the law? Let's flip that idea on its head. In this episode, I'm diving into something truly eye-opening—the reciprocal nature of boundaries. This isn't your typical chat about rules and limits. It's about understanding that when you teach your child or teen to respect others' boundaries, you empowe…
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68. 4 Ways To Motivate a Child or Teen Who Could Care Less
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31:50You asked...and I answered. After last week's episode, many of you wrote to me to tell me that you wanted to use the strategies discussed in the last episode, but you're dealing with a VERY unmotivated child or teen. Well...consider that problem solved! In today's episode, I dive deep into 4 strategies for igniting a lasting spark of motivation in …
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67. Yes! Your Child Or Teen CAN Improve Their Grades With Only A Few Months (Or Weeks!) Left In The School Year
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36:13Feeling like it's too late to turn your child or teen's school year around? Think again! Discover the inspiring story of how I helped a family transform their sons' academic paths, boosting grades, confidence, and attitudes with only weeks to spare. In this episode, I weave the journey of working with this family into a powerful narrative, showing …
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66. Raised By a Narcissist Parent? Move Forward As a Happier Individual And a More Effective Parent With These 10 Steps
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47:53If you were raised by a narcissist parent, then this episode is your key to breaking the cycle and forging a healthier, more joyful parenting path. In today's episode, I dive into a topic that hits close to home for many: overcoming the impact of being raised by a narcissistic parent. This journey is about more than understanding your past; it's ab…
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65. Is College Right For Your Young Person? New Information You Need To Know
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48:21You cannot afford to miss today's episode. I'm about to share insights that could dramatically shift your perspective on one of the biggest decisions facing your family: the journey to and through college for your teen. In a world where the value of a traditional college education is being questioned more than ever before, understanding the right p…
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64. 4 Categories of Life Skills You Can't Ignore Teaching Your Child or Teen
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49:13If you're a parent, you've likely pondered over how to best prepare your child or teen for the world beyond school walls. You might even feel the pressure mounting as you wonder how to tackle this monumental task. But what if I told you that embedding essential life skills for your child or teen into your daily routine could be straightforward, imp…
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63. Redefining Obedience: How To Go From Blind Obedience To Mutual Trust
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37:54Ever found yourself at a loss when your tried-and-true phrase 'because I said so' falls flat with your child or teen? You're not alone. As parents, we've all been there, stuck in the cycle of demanding obedience without truly connecting with our young person. It's a frustrating, often ineffective method that leaves both parties feeling misunderstoo…
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62. The Secret to Being a Happy Parent: Why Embracing the 'Gain' Changes Everything
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30:47Is that all the progress you've made? If you've sometimes had this thought about your child or teen, then today's episode is a must-listen! Today's episode is all about turning that thought on its head, using a concept called the Gap and the Gain. This is a mindset strategy that's easy to use - and packs a HUGE punch too! This strategy shows you ho…
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61. How To Help A Child or Teen Who Feels Different From Everyone Else
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47:19Navigating the journey of parenting a child or teen who feels "different" from their peers is a topic close to my heart. If you've ever found yourself wondering how to support your young person's unique qualities, or how to empower them to embrace their individuality - this episode is crafted especially for you. In today's heartfelt discussion, I'm…
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60. From Trends to Teachable Moments: How To Navigate Popular Culture with Your Young Person
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51:55>> Click here to get the episode guide that compliments what you'll learn in today's episode Navigating conversations about the latest trends with your child or teen can be challenging, but it's an essential part of modern parenting. If you're struggling to understand why your young person is so drawn to certain social media crazes or how to approa…
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59. Every Parent Makes Mistakes: How To Forgive Yourself AND Repair Your Relationship With Your Child or Teen
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36:21Click HERE to get the Episode Guide. Has a parenting mistake left you feeling guilty and unsure about how to move forward? You're not alone. This episode is all about understanding that mistakes are a part of the parenting journey. It's not about being perfect; it's about learning, growing, and recovering from those missteps. Today, we're focusing …
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58. How To Encourage Your Child or Teen to be Independently Self-Motivated
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46:39Transform Your Young Person's Motivation: The 4-Stage Journey to Self-Driven Success! Are you watching your child or teen meander through life with minimal drive? It's time to turn the tide! In this pivotal episode of The Modern Parenting Solutions Podcast, I unveil the final secret to unlocking your young person's independent self-motivation. Disc…
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57. Beyond Lazy or Entitled: Understanding Your Child or Teen's Natural Motivation Personality
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56:05Are you puzzled by what truly motivates your child or teen? This episode is a game-changer in understanding and harnessing their unique motivational powers! Discover the seven motivation personality types and identify which one resonates with your young person. This isn't just about learning these types; it's about transforming your approach to par…
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56. Unlocking the Power of External Motivation: Reward Ideas for Motivating Kids and Teens
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46:26Are you struggling with the challenge of motivating a child or teen who doesn't seem to respond to the traditional rewards, such as extra screen time or taking away their cell phone? You're not alone, and this episode is your guiding light to transform your approach to your child's motivation. 📌 In This Episode, You'll Discover: [6:42] Building the…
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55. Three (Bad) Parenting Habits That Destroy Your Child or Teen's Motivation
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56:57Feeling overwhelmed by your young person's lack of motivation? Struggling to inspire them to reach their full potential? If you're nodding along, desperate for a change, this episode is your beacon of hope! You're not alone, and today's episode is the first in a series dedicated to revolutionizing your approach to your child's motivation. Get ready…
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54. How To Expertly Handle Toddler Tantrums, Teen Moodiness, and Extended Family Drama During The Holidays
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35:55Navigate Holiday Mayhem with Style: Say Goodbye to Stress and Hello to Joy! 🎄✨ Dreading the holiday meltdowns, teen mood swings, and family feuds? Wish you could glide through the holiday chaos with the grace of a figure skater and the cool of a winter breeze? Well, if you're nodding along and thinking, "Yes, please!", you're in the right place! Yo…
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53. How To Enjoy The Holidays By Giving Gifts With Heart And Meaning
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40:46Make Christmas Enjoyable And Unforgettable This Year: Master the Art of Gift-Giving with Intention and Love! 🎄 Do you get stressed out just thinking about finding "the right" gifts for your child or teen this year? Ever feel like your Christmas gifts miss the mark? Are you tired of overspending and starting January with debt regret? You're not the …
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52. When Your Child or Teen Doesn't Want To Go To School: 10 Strategies That Work
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54:30From School Refusal to Ready & Willing: Dive Deep into Why Some Young People Say 'No' and How You Can Guide Them to a Consistent 'Yes'! Tired of the morning battles? Feeling defeated with every "I don't want to go to school"? Frustrated because it's been a recurring pattern? You're not alone. Whether it's a recent challenge or you've been facing it…
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51. Why Kids and Teens Lie and How To Solve This Problem
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58:57🎙️ The Truth About Lies: Uncover the 8 Reasons Why Young People Lie and How to Address Them Head-On!🌟 Feeling like you're playing detective more than parent lately? Wondering why your young person might be bending the truth or flat-out lying? You're not alone, and this episode is your ultimate guide to understanding and addressing this common but c…
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50. Use My Guide To Improve Your Child or Teen's First Quarter Grades
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42:10📚 "Bad Grades Be Gone: Turn Your Child or Teen's Academic Struggles Into Success—Before It's Too Late!" 🌟 It's only one quarter into the school year...are you feeling that pit in your stomach every time you think about your young person's grades? Trust me, you're not alone. But here's the good news: this episode is your lifeline. In this must-liste…
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49. Parenting Q&A: Listener Questions on Family, Tweens, and Teens Answered
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49:26Ready to feel like you're part of a supportive parenting community? This episode is like sitting down for coffee with me and other like-minded parents, all of us sharing our most pressing questions and finding real solutions together. Trust me, you're not alone on this journey, and today's episode proves it! 🎙️ What's Inside Today's Coffee Chat—Err…
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48. Traditional vs. Modern Parenting: The Five Pillars You Need To Know
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39:41Feel like you're walking a tightrope between modern and traditional parenting? Maybe you're not even sure which side you lean towards? Well, hold onto your earbuds, because this episode is packed with the tools you need to nail parenting in the modern world—no matter what your style is! 🎧 Here's a Peek Inside Today's Episode: [3:06] My results of T…
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47. Down the Rabbit Hole: How To Protect Your Teen From The Self-Diagnosis Trend on Social Media
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48:43Ever find yourself deep in the trenches, navigating the complicated world of your young person's mental health? Don't worry; you're not alone, and this episode is here to help you breathe easier! Join me in a groundbreaking episode where I crack open the lid on the recent surge of mental health self-diagnosis trends sweeping through social media pl…
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46. Dream Big, Plan Smart: Your Guide to Future Visioning
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39:48👉 Grab Your Episode Homework Helper Here Ever feel stuck in a loop, asking your young person about their future, only to be met with a shrug or a mumbled "I don't know?" You're definitely not alone, and the fantastic news is—we've got the antidote! In this power-packed episode, I'm diving into the remarkable strategy of "Future Visioning," a game-c…
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45. How to Flip the Script on Your Child's Impulse Control: 5 Game-Changing Tips
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32:45Ever feel like you're constantly putting out fires at home because your young person struggles with self-control? You're not alone, and the good news is, there's a solution! In this episode, I dive deep into the transformative power of teaching self-control skills to your young person. And I'm not just talking about resisting a marshmallow here (re…
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44. Unlock Your Child's Success: My Five Best Back To School Tips For Parents
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1:02:24=> Get The Episode Homework Sheet HERE <= Ready to kickstart a transformative school year for your child or teen? In today's episode of Modern Parenting Solutions, we're diving deep into how you can use the Back to School season as a springboard for your young person's overall future success and happiness. And guess what? It's not just about the gr…
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43. Teaching Your Child or Teen To Think For Themselves: Cultivating Independent Thinkers
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34:04Ever wondered if your child's stubborn streak could actually be a budding spark of independent thinking that, if nurtured correctly, could shape them into a confident, innovative adult? OR… Have you ever found yourself frustrated by your child's constant indecisiveness, questioning if this could impact their ability to navigate the world confidentl…
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42. How Establishing Family Routines and Rituals Can Help Modern Parents Overcome Overwhelm, Stress, and Disconnection
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41:05Parents confide in me all the time that they're tired, overwhelmed by all of the tasks screaming to get done on their to-do list -- and that they feel like they don't get enough time to be with their family. But what if I told you that there is ONE SIMPLE parenting strategy that could not only help you feel more peaceful and give you more time with…
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41. Coping With Anxiety: Strategies For Parents of Anxious Kids and Teens [Part 2]
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49:28Here is part 2 of my series on parenting young people with anxiety. The previous episode and this episode gives you (in detail) my 4-step Anxiety Management Plan. I teach this plan to all the families that I work with in my private practice - so I know it works! Here's the plan: Step 1: Identify the anxiety triggers Step 2: Rate the anxiety Step 3:…
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40. Coping With Anxiety: Strategies For Parents of Anxious Kids and Teens [Part 1]
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45:46Tired of feeling helpless when your young person experiences an anxious episode? Whether parenting a young child or teenager, the strategies I talk about today will help you feel confident in supporting your young person through their anxiety. It may not be possible to eliminate your young person's anxiety for them, but you can help them learn how …
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39. Thursday Thoughts: Listener Questions and APA Social Media Guidelines For Adolescents
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38:51Get ready for some parenting inspiration and support on today's Thursday Thoughts episode! As you know, my goal for the podcast is to provide education, inspiration, and support for all you Modern Parents out there (and...YES!...you are a Modern Parent if you are raising wonderful young people in today's modern world!). My Sunday episodes are prima…
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