Best Dan Purcell | Sex & Intimacy Coach | Christian Husband Podcasts (2025)

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263: Mindset Shifts for Better Than Happy Intimacy, with Jody Moore 43:06

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4d ago43:06

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What if the biggest blocker to a thriving sex life isn’t desire, kids, or schedules—but your mindset? In this episode, master coach Jody Moore joins me to show how small shifts in thinking can create big changes in intimacy. We cover: Why “keeping your spouse happy” quietly destroys connection The surprising reason lower-desire partners stay stuck …

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262: Masturbation: Connection or Division? A Perspective You Haven't Heard 28:28

11d ago28:28

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Masturbation is one of the most controversial topics in marriage—especially in conservative or religious circles. In this episode, we're not going to tell you what to believe, but we will offer a new perspective and framework for thinking about it. Here’s what you’ll discover: The surprising cultural history that shaped Christian attitudes toward m…

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261: Bonus: 30 Days to a New You and a More Intimate Marriage 13:16

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What if you and your spouse chose one area of your relationship to focus on—and committed to it for 30 days straight? That’s the heart behind our tradition at Get Your Marriage On called Sextember—a month dedicated to intimacy, playfulness, and connection in marriage. In this episode, I share the surprising backstory that inspired Sextember, includ…

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260: When the Higher Desire Spouse Stops Initiating - What to Do in Four Steps 23:24

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What happens when the spouse who usually initiates sex suddenly stops—and weeks turn into months of silence? This painful “sexual standoff” can leave both partners feeling stuck, rejected, and disconnected. In this episode, I’ll explain exactly why this pattern happens, share a real couple’s story, and give you four practical steps to break out of …

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259: Squirting, Female Ejaculation, and The Foundation for Sexual Adventure & Novelty 26:32

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In this episode, I’ll walk you through a complete how-to guide for female ejaculation: What it is and how it works Why it can be such an incredible and bonding experience A step-by-step process to help you and your spouse experience it together Common challenges and how to troubleshoot them We'll also dive into the relationship side—why novelty can…

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258: 10 Game-changing Ways to Make Intercourse Awesome 18:57

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Want to make intercourse in your marriage more exciting, connected, and deeply satisfying? In this episode, we share 10 game-changing tips—from building anticipation with the 9 to 1 pattern, to eye contact magic, to positions and angles that hit just right. These aren’t beginner basics—they’re for couples who already enjoy intimacy but want fresh i…

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257: Bonus - Blowjobs Aren't Just for Husbands 39:11

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Hey friends, let me be honest with you - as a man speaking for many men, oral sex is a big deal to us. We love it. It's incredibly pleasurable. But here's what makes today's episode so powerful: I'm sharing a conversation from a wife's perspective about how she finds giving oral sex deeply pleasurable and meaningful. Now, the beautiful thing about …

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256: Eyes Open or Closed During Sex? What It Says About Intimacy 15:26

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What’s the difference between having sex and truly making love? In this episode, we’re talking about how to bring your whole self—your body, mind, heart, and soul—into your intimate moments with your spouse. You’ll hear powerful stories of real couples who felt disconnected in their sex lives, even with consistent physical intimacy. Together, we’ll…

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255: Still Waiting for Orgasm? A Loving Guide for Women Who’ve Tried Everything 34:12

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If you’re a woman who’s never had an orgasm, struggles to orgasm consistently, or wonders if what you’ve experienced really counts—this episode is for you. I want you to know this: you are not broken, and there is absolutely hope. In this episode, I share seven key truths about female orgasm, why it matters, and how you can move forward—physically,…

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254: Pornography and White Rice: Nourishing Your Marriage with Real Erotic Connection 15:25

2M ago15:25

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What does white rice have to do with pornography? I know that sounds like a strange question, but stick with me here because this analogy completely changed how I understand what pornography does to our relationships. I'll also share a more compassionate, Christ-centered approach to overcoming pornography habits that doesn't rely on shame or willpo…

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253: Quickie - The New Lube Evree-one Is Talking About 19:09

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Did you know that two-thirds of heterosexual couples in the United States use lubricant during sex? That number might not surprise you when you consider all the benefits of using quality lube for enhanced pleasure and intimacy. While there are many different kinds to choose from, in this episode I'm excited to introduce you to a new and innovative …

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252: Cunnilingus Mastery: 12 Tips Every Husband Should Know Before Going Down On His Wife 14:00

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Oral sex is one of the most powerful ways to bring your wife pleasure—and deepen your intimacy. In this episode, we share 12 practical, respectful, and fun tips to help husbands confidently and lovingly master cunnilingus. You'll learn what works, what to avoid, and how to create unforgettable, connected experiences in the bedroom. Whether you're n…

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251: Quickie - Frenulum Orgasms: The Clitoral Orgasm for Men? 11:41

2M ago11:41

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We’re diving into a topic that’s often overlooked—but full of potential for deeper connection and pleasure: the frenulum orgasm. In this episode, we'll cover the following: The anatomy and sensitivity of the frenulum How this kind of orgasm compares to the female clitoral orgasm Positions and techniques to try together Why it helps build patience, …

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250: 10 Steps to Have the Hard Conversations You've Been Avoiding in Your Marriage 19:44

2M ago19:44

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Let’s face it—if you're married, disagreements are inevitable. And sometimes, those disagreements feel like gridlock. That’s when it seems like there’s no win-win—only one of you can get what you want, and the other has to give in. It can feel like it’s either his way or her way, with no middle ground in sight. In this episode, you'll discover 10 p…

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249: Quickie - Why Your Spouse Avoids Affection and What to Do About It 7:31

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Have you ever wondered why your spouse dodges your attempts at affection or how quickly he or she shuts down any of your affection attempts? Or how a simple kiss gets treated like you're asking for something much bigger? Well, in this episode I'm going to explain exactly why one partner who craves affection has a partner that avoids it. And by the…

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248: What Men Wish Women Understood about Male Sexuality, Part 2 24:22

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Welcome to Part 2 of my conversation with Tanya Hale! We talk about the pressure men feel around performance, why their penis can be such a vulnerable topic, and how couples can build a sexual relationship that's validating fun and deeply connecting, especially as bodies and marriages evolve over time. (If you missed part 1, we explored how men exp…

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247: What Men Wish Women Understood about Male Sexuality, Part 1 24:48

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Male sexuality is just as complex and rich as female sexuality. I was recently invited to talk about what I wish women knew and understood about male sexuality on Tanya Hale's podcast, she's given me permission to share that with you here on my podcast. So on this episode, we debunk a lot myths we have around understanding male sexuality and paint …

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246: Love Worth Making Part 2, with Dr. Stephen Snyder, MD 31:22

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Welcome to part two of my conversation with Dr. Steven Snyder! In part one, we explored why sex is more than just physical--it's deeply emotional, even regressive (meaning you kind of get a little dumber and a lot happier when you're aroused). And we discuss why the best sex often begins with an awareness and emotional presence. In part two, we'll …

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245: Love Worth Making Part 1, with Dr. Stephen Snyder, MD 21:49

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When it comes to sexual arousal, many of us reach for that excited, giddy, sometimes silly, sometimes serious, joyful, fulfilling feelings in the company of someone else that matters so much to us. And how do you create a marriage relationship where there's room for two people to have a voice? And how do you create a sexual relationship where both …

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244: Q&A Sexual Fantasies 1:05:43

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Let's be honest. Sexual fantasy is a weird part of being human. In this episode with my guest and fellow Get Your Marriage On coach, Amy Langford, we tackle real listener questions about sexual fantasy in marriage — the kind that stir up curiosity, shame, arousal, and everything in between. What does it mean when you’re turned on by something that …

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243: Seven Sizzling Sexy Summer Date Ideas with Macey Walters from The Dating Divas 27:34

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One pattern I've noticed about couples with great sex lives over the years is that they make time to be emotionally connected and make room for romance and fun in their marriage. A date night is a great way to do that and to make it easy, I've brought on a guest from The Dating Divas. This website has tons of the ideas for married couples to keep …

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242: Affair-proofing Your Marriage, with Andrea Giles 33:45

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Are there lessons we can learn from those that have gone through marital infidelity and use those lessons to improve our marriages today? I personally haven't dealt with this, but I know of many people that have just experienced the great heartache and the trouble that's come through infidelity in their marriage. So today I sat down with a longtime…

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241: Higher Desire Wives Aren't Alone, with J. Parker 42:20

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One thing I've noticed about higher desire wives: they feel so lonely. They think they're the only wife on the plane that has the higher desire for sex. They often talk about how they hear about their other lady friends complain about how their husbands are always pursuing them and wanting to have sex with them and how they're tired of that. And th…

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240: Faking Orgasms, Toys, Role of Porn, and Exploring More Intimacy In Marriage 1:02:13

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In this episode, I'm getting specific with actionable tactics while answering questions about the following: how to grow closer together emotionally overcoming body image concerns as it relates to sex. why women fake orgasms enhancing sexual intimacy with sex toys what the research says about pornography use and its impact on couples exploring rol…

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239: Sharing the Mental Load for Great Sex, with Dr. Morgan Cutlip 35:32

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This episode is all about priming your mind and relationship for great sex. Years ago, Dr. Morgan Cutlip, who is my guest on this episode today, made her first appearance on my podcast, (and if you want to listen to it, it's episode number 50). What she taught me then about the mental load made a deep impression on me. The mental load as it's ofte…

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238: 7 Candid Answers To Prepare You For A Thriving Sex Life 53:06

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I read an excellent book a few years ago. It's for parents talking to their kids about sex. There was a chapter towards the end of the book titled Honeymoon Horror Stories, which really caught my eye and changed the way I think about the importance of getting and teaching our next generation a solid sex education as part of their research for the …

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237: Menopause Shouldn't Suck, with Alisa DiLorenzo 37:37

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Women's bodies and brains undergo large changes during puberty, childbirth and menopause. Just like how sexuality hasn't been talked about much in previous generations, at least not in a positive light, menopause also hasn't been a free topic of conversation. It might be a bit funny that a dude is doing an episode about menopause, but I'm really cu…

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236: Your Adult Playground: Transforming Your Sex Life From Obligation to Desire 38:19

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Today I want to talk to those who are in a marriage where sex pretty good but maybe a little monotonous at times. Maybe it feels like it's the same old, same old. You wanna kind of spice it up, but then there's other factors involved, including feeling tired. Perhaps it feels like maybe sex is good enough, but you'd really like get to the next grea…

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235: Two Truths and a Lie: Marriage Edition, with Sheila and Keith Gregoire 33:10

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Ever play the game "Two Truths and a Lie"? (A person makes three statements, and you guess which two are factual and which one is false.) Well, we get to play that game today on our episode with my guests Sheila Wray Gregoire and her husband Keith (return guests to the Get Your Marriage On Podcast). The Gregoires completed extensive research, surv…

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234: Three Cringe-worthy Marriage & Intimacy Advice, According To A Therapist 23:38

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Have you ever received really bad marriage advice? Today I have the privilege of interviewing Kendra Nielson, a fellow marriage coach and therapist. Together we address common pieces of marriage advice that often miss the mark, such as "Never go to bed angry," or "Always put your spouse first," and "Your spouse should be your best friend." And of …

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233: It's Never Too Late to Reinvent Your Marriage: A Sextimony 34:11

6M ago34:11

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I love helping couples through Get Your Marriage On to help them through challenges, to overcome issues in intimacy, and to walk away with feeling like they have a brand new lease on their marriage and realizing how much joy and fun that a good sexual relationship can bring. And one such couple is who I have on my podcast today: Jennifer and Jeff (…

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232: Why So Many Marriages Struggle with Sex (And What to Do About It) 42:36

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Just about every couple deals with libido differences from time to time. It seems though, as couples approach middle age and begin to face the second half of their life, the differences in sexual desire, which may have been a back burner issue in the marriage up until that time, seem to become front and center. It's the elephant in the room that t…

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231: Learning to Love Your Body: A Story of Hope from a Boudoir Photographer 48:19

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Everyone struggles with feelings of self-worth and self-acceptance from time to time. Our bodies are sacred; as the Bible says, we're created in God's image. Yet the enemy of our souls does what he can to discredit and devalue our worth, often by casting shade about our own body image. Today you get to meet Hope Orr, a skilled boudoir photographer …

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230: Upping Your Oral Sex Skills & Adding Adventure to Your Intimacy 41:03

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A recurring theme I've noticed in over 200 episodes of the Get Your Marriage On podcast is that those who are willing to push themselves a little outside their comfort zone experience the most joy and growth in their relationships. And this is also consistent with my own experience. My guest today is Kaitlin Hawes. She's a mom and a wife with a gre…

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229: Optimal Sexual Experiences: 8 Factors Backed By Research with Dr. Peggy Kleinplatz 25:44

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If you were to pause and think about your very best sexual experiences that you've ever had, can you identify what made them so great? For many years, academics studying human sexuality at universities were primarily interested in figuring out what goes wrong in the bedroom so they can fix it and get back up to baseline functioning. But, the guest…

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228: Why Perfect Sex is Ruining Your Love Life (And What to Do Instead) 26:12

7M ago26:12

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Do you ever feel like a failure at sex? In this episode, I'll be breaking down why perfectionism is the enemy of good sex and how you can build a virtuous cycle of intimacy with small, consistent wins. I'll share real stories, practical strategies, and a fresh way to think about sex that takes the pressure off and brings the pleasure back. If you'…

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227: How to Cool Down Your Nervous System to Heat Up Your Sex Life 46:56

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The number one libido killer is stress. And experiencing stress from time to time is just a part of life; however, there are skills out there that'll help you manage it better. One of the black belt sex tips I often teach is a concept called "calm the heck down," which, if you've listened to my podcast for a while, you'll see this theme popping up…

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226: How To Infuse Creativity into Your Sex Life with Role-Play 40:09

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Today's episode is about flirting and having fun by trying on a different persona on a date night. It's about using the power of role play to infuse fresh life into your marriage! It's like putting on a different outfit than the one you usually wear and being playful. And because this is get your marriage on, we'll add a sexy twist to it, of course…

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225: The Secret to a Scintillating Sex Life 36:50

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Our childhood and families of origin have a profound impact on our worldviews, including our attitudes towards sex and intimacy. Not knowing anything different, for the most part, we tend to intuitively model what we've seen and absorbed from the culture we grew up in. My wife and I are blessed to come from wonderful families. We had good childhoo…

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224: The 5 Phases of a Sexual Relationship 40:10

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Take a moment to think about the evolution of your own sexual journey as a couple. How far have you come in the last year? Or the last two years, or the last five years? Is what's important to you today the same as what was important to you in the last two or five years? I bet it's different. It's then reasonable to assume that what's important to …

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223: An Honest Conversation About BDSM (Hint: It's Not What I Expected) - Part 2 28:16

8M ago28:16

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This is part two of the BDSM episodes. Last week we talked about how a BDSM is a exchange of erotic energy and how it's built upon the principles of trust and communication. And in a scene or experience, you have one partner acting in the dominant role and the other in the submissive role. And it's the submissive person who's really in charge of t…

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222: An Honest Conversation About BDSM (Hint: It's Not What I Expected) - Part 1 46:22

8M ago46:22

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Like many of you, I've had questions about BDSM for a long time. I've had preconceived ideas of what it was and wondered how it fits into my faith and the style of intimate play my wife and I enjoy. I have also received emails and DMS from many of you listeners asking me about BDSM in the context of a faithful Christian marriage. I've been hesitant…

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221: Q&A - "Help! My Wife is Vanilla When it Comes to Sex" 28:14

8M ago28:14

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Ever feel like you wish your wife was a little less vanilla? Every wish your spouse would be more enthusiastic about trying new things in the bedroom (or out of the bedroom for that matter)? Ever ask your spouse what their fantasies are, and they look at you with a blank stare or an "I don't know"? Ever get frustrated when, after a discussion about…

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220: Black Belt Sex Tips 4.0 56:45

9M ago56:45

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I studied martial arts for 13 years when I was younger and I became proficient in three different styles of Karate and Kenpo. As you progress towards being a black belt, the fundamentals don't change, but your ability to be more precise and skilled in using those fundamentals improves dramatically. Like in my martial arts training to being a bette…

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219: How Playing With Your 5 Senses Opens the Door to More Erotic Connection 41:56

9M ago41:56

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I am a big believer in play in the bedroom, and I'm excited that you'll get to join me in this conversation with Adam and Karissa King today. Adam and Karissa have a fun Instagram account called Dear Young, Married Couple. And that's how I first met them a few years ago. And get this. They are both marriage counselors. It's a husband and wife team…

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218: The Well-Sexed Wife 44:40

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It's hard to believe that my wife and I started this work eight years ago! At that time we were 13 years into a happy marriage, but something was missing. We just didn't quite know what it was. And that's when a friend opened up to me about his sex life and taught me about how a healthy, vibrant sexual relationship permeates not only the marriage r…

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217: Eroticism: What Does Your Sexuality Want? with Jessa Zimmerman 39:57

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I used to think the word erotic was associated with unsavory things like X-rated films, Las Vegas billboards, or sites are not supposed to visit online. But the more I've done this work with myself and in my marriage and with other couples, the more I've come to love eroticism. The root word for erotic is the Greek word eros, which literally means …

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216: Is Wanting Sex Selfish, Dissatisfied by Erectile Dysfunction, Wife's Secret Erotica, and Dildos - Q&A Part 2 30:31

10M ago30:31

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Today is a continuation of last week's question and answer episode, and I am so thankful for all the courageous couples who reached out with their questions. Here's what we discuss in this episode: A husband wondering about using dildos and double penetration and getting some guidance there. A wife whose husband has been experiencing erectile dysfu…

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215: Sex After Porn, Premature Ejaculation, Discomfort Beyond Missionary Position, Wanting To Be Desired - Q&A Part 1 42:02

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It's time to answer some more questions from our listeners! Today I'm joined by my colleague, Caroline, to discuss some of the questions that you have. We cover the following topics: A husband who's struggling to connect emotionally with his wife, and he wants to learn how to do that without shutting down. A wife is struggling to find ways to conne…

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214: When Wives Have The Higher Sexual Desire 24:36

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Broadly speaking, men are generally more interested in sex than women. However, there are exceptions. Some estimate that 20 to 30% of married couples are in marriages where the wife is the one with actually the higher libido or the higher sex drive. However you want to call it, higher desire wives have a unique challenge that higher desire husbands…